sunshinemiss
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I hate when I can't figure something out. It's been on my mind a bit... Why are we responding to black lion's threads? What is it about the topics that are causing some pretty together, strong minded people to respond? I'm trying to take his threads seriously because they are serious topics even if they are presented in a less than rational way. But it doesn't change the ability for us to have a serious discussion. Why are we responding to being baited (note that I said "we" and not "YOU ALL")? What is it about these topics that are causing reaction and then second generation actions (like lushy's thread and my own changing of my sig line). What is going on with us? And this is a serious question. I've been thinking about it. I know that I changed my sig line because although he was trying to insult me, he was actually saying something true about me. I am a woman of wisdom. Just as my father called me "queer" in a contemptible way, and I embraced that, so too have I embraced that man's attempted insult. But what do I really care? I know I'm wise, people who care for me know it, so why do I feel a need to stand up and push that envelope? What is it that he is saying that is pushing so many buttons? We aren't good enough as we are? We aren't behaving properly? We aren't pretty? Is the response some sort of acknowledgment of our own deepest darkest fears? Of things we've dealt with but still niggle us in the backs of our minds? Has he tapped into our own personal feelings of inadequacy? I see him saying "you women aren't good enough." And we are hollering back 'OH YES WE ARE!' Why in the world are we responding? (again "we" not "you all"). I've seen so many people here be supportive and kind to people who are having difficulties, we celebrate each other's triumphs, give each other advice. And we all know... WE ALL KNOW... that guy is acting like a jerk or a bully... why are we, grown people, responding to him? I think Kia said something about serious topics get only a few pages and nonsensical threads will go to many pages. I would respond that serious topics get longer, thought out responses while the nonsensical ones get one and two sentence replies. But why are we so defensive? What is going on?
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