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The Search - 10/10/2015 2:14:43 AM

HEfrm305

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Why is it as a sub the search for a Mistress is so hard? To think a lot more women would want someone to be their little sub/slave/cuck and do every single task they can imagine to give us... Of all the BDSM sites I've been to I haven't had much success... What should I do different to find a mistress who would actually take me in and be willing to make me her slave/sub/cuck?

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RE: The Search - 10/10/2015 8:40:24 AM

peppermint

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Go go munches. Go to events. Volunteer to help out with both. Smart people go to the places where their potential partners hang out. Wow those Mistresses with your personality and your willingness to serve others.

Being a cuck makes it more difficult. It makes the relationship center around you and your kink, not hers. What if you found a great Mistress and you both liked each other but she wasn't willing to find outside lovers?

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RE: The Search - 10/10/2015 5:57:44 PM

Killerangel

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It's hard finding a Dominant woman because:
A. There aren't as many women looking as there are men.
B. Men tend to say they'll "do anything" as a submissive, but what they mean is they want to do sexual things. Women can get that from dozens of others and it's nothing special.
C. Women are choosy about who they want to spend time with. You being male and of the correct orientation isn't enough.
D. Men tend to lead with their sexual needs, women don't care about that until they know you. Women tend to want a relationship over getting laid.

You find a Mistress the same way you find a girlfriend, you try to meet women and get to know them. There isn't a shortcut. You don't play match up the fetish online and expect that to lead to your sexual satisfaction - unless you are willing to pay for the privilege.

If you seriously want a Mistress, you're going to have to step up your game. Put together an amazing profile and spell check it. Do what Peppermint said and go to places where kinky people gather and then distinguish yourself there. It takes more work to find a quality relationship than filling out an online profile.

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