welshwmn3
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ORIGINAL: DominaSmartass It's interesting that this topic has come up (again) because just today I wrote someone a nice "hello" letter just because I liked his profile. You know what I got back in return? This: "looks like you also like eating everything that is not nailed down you fat sea cow!" It truly upsets me that there are people in the world who think it's ok to hate someone because of the shape of her body. I always laugh though since I am very active, strong, and fit, don't drink or smoke, and will probably live longer than the people who've made my life hell through their ignorance and cruelty. I have finally just gotten to a point where I may (possibly) believe that I'm not ugly. This is after 10 years of my current Sir, previous Sirs, former boyfriends and a girlfriend all telling me I am beautiful to them. The reason? Because of years of people ridiculing me for being fat. I have medical issues (that are finally being realized and I have actually lost weight) that have made me fat and kept me fat for a very long time. There have been times in my life I was walking 4 miles a day, and was still 200+ lbs (when my 'ideal weight' should be 120 by the insurance charts the doctors go by). I have been almost hit by a car when I was out walking (by teenage girls who had to make the car cross over to the wrong side of the street to nearly hit me), I've been razzed by so-called men (who where also in a car while I was walking) mooing at me and telling my then-husband to stick a 'wide load' sign on my ass if he was going to 'allow' me to be out in public. I've been told in restaurants by 'well meaning' individuals that if I didn't eat so much I wouldn't be so fat, and I should really consider not eating the chicken or steak or hamburger I was having. That finally stopped when I got with my current Sir (at 6'2" tall, most people see him and think "I don't want to do anything to tick him off!"). I've been a member here for a few years, but never really got into the boards. Last year I had an experience by somebody on CM like you just did recently. Only, this person, after pm'ing me, put in his profile that I was fat as a cow and was in denial about it. At the time my profile was a bit different, but I was not in denial about anything. And then he wondered why I blocked him. His words and actions showed me everything I needed to know about him. He never tried to get to know me, just decided that because I was "fat as a cow" in his opinion, that he could twist the truth around and ... I dunno, make me embarressed or something? Oh NOES!!!111!!!!! Some total stranger on a message board pm's me and is trying to 'save me from myself'! I should be falling at his feet in thanksgiving that he's pointed out how fat I am (like I can't look in the mirror and see it myself)? That's gonna happen about as soon as they start selling parkas in hell. It's good that you can laugh at the jerk that said that to you though. Cuz really, idiots like that aren't worth the emotion we waste being angry with them. I'd almost say they should be pitied, but then, even pity is wasting too much emotion on them.
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