slaveluci -> RE: Surrendered Wives on "60 minutes" Austrailia (6/22/2007 10:20:27 PM)
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ORIGINAL: kittinSol On top of that: I shudder to think that some of us will take their 'surrender' as an other example of BDSM submission. To me, it's nothing to do with BDSM. Well, not to send you into a fit of shuddering or anything[;)] but I watched the clip and I see nothing wrong with what these women are doing. Let me make a short list of some of the things that occurred: *a husband ordered for his wife in a restaurant and later picked out the clothes she would wear out *a woman had to make her husband a smoothie for breakfast *a mother spoke to her young daughter of "pleasing" and "honoring" her father and how he is the "king" of their home *one lady ran her husband's bath and actually washed his back and shaves him *It was suggested that women should not nag, should not criticize, should respect their husband's choices, and that husbands should have the final say in everything from financial decisions to sexual relations (in which case she said always say "yes" and not deny him) *It was further suggested that "happy marriages happen" when wives give lots more control to their husbands and that, even if marriage is considered a partnership, the husband is the senior partner and the wife is junior partner. Now, I don't want to shock anyone but there is nothing here that Master and I do not adhere to (except explaining to the young child how things work as we don't have children. However, if we did, I would certainly explain it just as she did). I don't see anything oppressive or abusive in any of this. Saying it is creepy, sick, and wrong is certainly an opinion you've the right to have but to say these folks are freaks and should be dismissed is what is wrong in my eyes. We live like this and He and I love every minute of it. Just because we throw in some bondage and pain doesn't make it any more valid than if we didn't. I hate to burst anyone's bubble but not everyone's submission involves strutting out to public parties, wearing fetish clothes and hanging out in dungeons. If that's what does it for you, great. But please don't insult or dismiss those whose kink simply appears a bit more vanilla to you..........slave luci Edited to add: I would also state here that BDSM is made up of the terms bondage/discipline, dominance/submission, and sadism/masochism. In our relationship, we are always engaged in the d/s part and the other two happen occasionally. I see these women as engaged in perfect examples of what d/s means to Master and I. Just because couples aren't constantly involved in the other two aspects doesn't make their relationship any less valid or acceptable as a BDSM one. Master says that if I were to only be totally submissive to Him when I'm tied up or being beaten, that that would be a poor example of BDSM.
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