daniL
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As someone who is recently 21 [and i admit to skimming some of this thread], i think the issue with the ages between 18-21, even up to 23, is that while some people are legally adults and mature enough to deal with what that means at that age, a lot of people aren't. It depends on the family, and their enviroment. Now, some people might say that's true about any age, but I would point out that for that age group its even more true. Many people at this age may be in college but still treat it as if they are back in high school [something that I see often]. These are people, in college and not in college, who are just figuring out what it means to be an adult. Turning 18 or 21 doesn't necessarily make a person instantly ready to deal with the rest of the world-- nowadays, a lot of people are still dependent on their parents then. Male or female, I think it can sometimes border on absurd expecting complete maturity from a group of people from whom their levels of maturity varies greatly from person to person and situation to situation, even more so than most human beings. That is my problem with older [40+] people dealing with very young [18-22] S.O., bdsm or no. I think its possible for these relationships to work, but the older person tends to automatically expect to deal with situations with a level of maturity that the younger person may not have [and they should expect that maturity from their S.O.s]. And then there are those that don't want that sort of maturity from their S.Os, either because they can't handle it or any other number of reasons, but I'm assuming the best here...
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