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RE: do you really feel scared in rape play? - 7/3/2007 10:39:44 AM

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I don't think Master is really into the mindfuck type of thing. This is one thing we do differ on and I don't see it changing. I love it, I love someone getting inside my head and screwing with it.

I know that he understands what a rape scene is, but he can't seem to bring himself to do it to me. He knows he has free reign to do what he wants to me, including leaving marks, bruising, even bleeding, but he doesn't. I do need this once in a while, but I haven't figured out how to get him to understand it. I think although he can be a sadist, he isn't one most of the time...where as I am a masochist the larger part of the time, and want something more gentle on occasion.

I would even be all for him bringing another man or two in (even that I don't know, as long as he did) and getting them involved. I know that would put me truely in that mindset of being raped, and I am pretty sure I would love it.

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RE: do you really feel scared in rape play? - 7/3/2007 10:44:47 AM

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ORIGINAL: sleazybutterfly

I don't think Master is really into the mindfuck type of thing. This is one thing we do differ on and I don't see it changing. I love it, I love someone getting inside my head and screwing with it.

I know that he understands what a rape scene is, but he can't seem to bring himself to do it to me. He knows he has free reign to do what he wants to me, including leaving marks, bruising, even bleeding, but he doesn't. I do need this once in a while, but I haven't figured out how to get him to understand it. I think although he can be a sadist, he isn't one most of the time...where as I am a masochist the larger part of the time, and want something more gentle on occasion.

I would even be all for him bringing another man or two in (even that I don't know, as long as he did) and getting them involved. I know that would put me truely in that mindset of being raped, and I am pretty sure I would love it.

I think when you are asking a man to do a rape scene, you should try to be patient. You asking him to do what his mother, his sisters, his female friends, all the women he cares about are terrified of having happen to them and what he would always try to protect them from. I've been very fortunate in that Valyraen has no problem seperating this from a real rape, but I can understand that it is harder for other men. From my understanding, a desire to be raped in play is fairly common among women. Perhaps if you got a book on common sexual desires and have a talk with him about it he will feel more reassured?

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RE: do you really feel scared in rape play? - 7/3/2007 10:49:14 AM

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We have been together quite a while and it's something we have talked about at length. He knows I am fine with it, that I actually want it. He almost asks permission before he does it, which totally messes it up for me. I have talked to him about it several times and nothing seems to help. I think this is just one of those things I won't experience and I have to just deal with it.

It might have something to do with just not being able to seperate it in his head, I don't know. He isn't very good about talking things out with me, he isn't one to go over things very much. Once you say a sentence it's out there, to him there is nothing to talk about in the sentence..it's just a fact. I am not sure that makes sense, but it's just his personality and one thing about him that I am still learning to deal with. I am one that likes to talk things over and delve into details and issues, he is the polar opposite.

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RE: do you really feel scared in rape play? - 7/3/2007 12:48:19 PM

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If it where done in the right way yes i would
Just as if you do a Kidnapping seen if done in the right way yes can be veary scary and that is how i know its done proper ;)

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RE: do you really feel scared in rape play? - 7/3/2007 1:04:06 PM

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after reading some of the posts i am wondering if its the world "rape" that throws me off of rape play because i am all for being used and abused...its a hot night when my partner walks up behind me, rips my clothes off and fucks me, and the only thing he ever says is "shut up bitch" if i say anything...or maybe thats just rough sex....i don't know?
i am so not a fear junky...i have ridden on one roller coaster in my entire life and it was a kiddy one and i was scared shitless...i don't even watch horror movies...
on a side note....to sleazybutterfly....i think one of the most sadistic things a Dom can do is play gently with a masochist...its pure evil...
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RE: do you really feel scared in rape play? - 7/3/2007 1:38:43 PM

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to sleazybutterfly....i think one of the most sadistic things a Dom can do is play gently with a masochist...its pure evil...
chelle

Lol, well, I will agree with you on that. I think that is the only issue that he and I have. I love rough play, to be beaten, slapped around, all kinds of things, yet he doesn't do it very often. It's pretty frustrating at times, but maybe he is just being sadistic and I didn't know it.

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