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My Fantasy - 7/4/2007 5:49:21 PM

mastererobert

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Since I realized and accepted my Dominant side, I have had a recurring fantasy. The fantasy involves owning a big enough house and land to be mostly self-supporting (food, energy, and work/entertainment) for a poly family. In this fantasy, I would own two female slaves and a male slave. Since I don't have sexual feelings for men, the female slaves would be service and sex slaves, while the male would be service only. For some reason in my fantasy I see him as being gay. I would of course still control his access to sexual satisfaction. Perhaps he would have an unowned live-in lover? Or maybe I would just allow him to meet outside lovers/bfs as I see fit. This description sounds very mechanical, but in my fantasy we would all be very close to one another and love each other and what we each bring to the 'family'.

Ok, so that is the fantasy. Back to reality now. I have never been involved with any kind of poly relationship. I have always felt jealous about the idea of sharing those I have been involved with in the past, whether vanilla or D/s and have only been in monogamous relationships so far. But I can say that I have had love in my heart for more than one person at the same time...I just never acted on it.

I am still unsure if this fantasy is something that will become reality for me and even if it does, I imagine it will take many years before everything is in place for it to really work. For now my focus is on developing a strong Master/slave relationship with one person. Of course she will know about this fantasy of mine up front and that I may make it real.

My only exposure to poly ideas so far is through this forum. I have gone back and read many threads and find the variety of experiences here very interesting. Do any of you currently live in a poly family similar to the fantasy one I described above (single Dom, multiple slaves of mixed gender and service capacities)? What challenges do you see in making something like this work? Also, any specific advice for someone like myself who has no poly experience, but is interested in it would also be very much appreciated.

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RE: My Fantasy - 7/4/2007 8:04:29 PM

slaveish

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Look for rt poly groups in your area. It's the best resource. You can do all the online stuff you want but it lacks depth, and in some cases it lacks honesty.

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RE: My Fantasy - 7/4/2007 10:32:09 PM

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I DO......know what you mean......I "dream" of a certain poly life style too........But EVERY time i "think" it can happen.........jealousy comes from other people...........(& occationally me too)..............I can usually find poly/non-bdsm people....or just BDSM, but not poly people.............???

I dont know why.........but i am also looking for what lots seek.......and some have.............(lucky people who have it!!) ;)

xox

Love ya all!!! ;)

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RE: My Fantasy - 7/5/2007 6:27:17 AM

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In my family I have a free companion and two slave (one living inside the house and one outside). Jealousy is the biggest problem one needs to be on alert for. Though property, a slave still has emotions. And those emotions need to be quelled.

As for the male slave. I've opened my house to having a male slave before. IME, those that contacted me were magicians and HNGs. None were looking to be of real service. So I stopped looking for a males slave and just stick with female slaves. I may look at getting a man-slave again at a future date.

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RE: My Fantasy - 7/6/2007 8:03:59 AM

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My dream is finding another gentle Dom/Domme or another sub who would fit into our poly house. Sounds simple enough, doesn't it?

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RE: My Fantasy - 7/6/2007 11:01:02 AM

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My dream is a big house with like 20 hot guys and girls in it. And we all just have sex with whoever we want and there isn't any BDSM dynamic (unless two people sharing a room for the night want to get kinky ~.^).
And then when girls and guys start fighting over each other and pairing off and jealousy erupts and then there's one really hot but nutty girl that sits in the corner crying because no one really wants to pair off with her, everyone fights to the death over their partners and choices and who forgot to flush the toilet.

And then me and the last person standing have some more hot kinky sex and go with monogamy, because we just suck at this poly stuff.

But that's just me.

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RE: My Fantasy - 7/11/2007 11:54:05 AM

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I didn't really imagine myself in the type of poly relationship I have now prior to it happening. My wife and I met this other couple and we all fell in love, simple as that. We share a house, bedroom, bed (yes, all four of us - it's a very big bed), share all finances and make all family decisions together. The two women are both now collared to me, which was another surprise (my wife had already been collared by me, but that my "2nd" wife also wanted an M/s relationship was a surprise). It works very well, and I'm in a happier place than I've ever been - I finally feel like I go "home" after work, instead of to my house.

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RE: My Fantasy - 7/18/2007 3:14:07 PM

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I wonder how many man out there would be interested in an MMF poly? My dream..

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RE: My Fantasy - 7/18/2007 3:20:15 PM

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I have one submissive husband, one slave and one stud/paramour/bottomy switch person. It is hard enough for me to live with the husband. Relationships for me have always strained under the one-roof thing, so increasing the numbers under the roof would be the kiss of death and I know it. My fantasy ideal always involves people in one city, living in little individual apartments and having hot trysts.

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RE: My Fantasy - 7/18/2007 4:28:27 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: VermillionRain

I wonder how many man out there would be interested in an MMF poly? My dream..

I am completely open to it. I love to share my slave and she loves it too. Once again the problem is finding the right one with the right outlook and attitude.

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RE: My Fantasy - 7/18/2007 10:48:03 PM

Solinear

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quote:

ORIGINAL: MissOchistic

My dream is a big house with like 20 hot guys and girls in it. And we all just have sex with whoever we want and there isn't any BDSM dynamic (unless two people sharing a room for the night want to get kinky ~.^).
And then when girls and guys start fighting over each other and pairing off and jealousy erupts and then there's one really hot but nutty girl that sits in the corner crying because no one really wants to pair off with her, everyone fights to the death over their partners and choices and who forgot to flush the toilet.

And then me and the last person standing have some more hot kinky sex and go with monogamy, because we just suck at this poly stuff.

But that's just me.

So you and the hot chick in the corner go off together? Since she wasn't fighting, she's the most likely to survive with you.

Poly can be a pain in the ass though, as we all know. For me it was easy the first time I said "We love each-other and want to make each-other happy. Why in the world *wouldn't* I want her to have sex with her/him?" The biggest problem that I seem to have with the poly situations here is that they tend to be "I save myself for Master/Mistress and they go off fooling around with whoever they want because I'm their slave". Using "you're my slave and don't get to tell me what to do" is a really weak argument for being poly while monogamizing your partner. Of course, I think part of that is because the definitions on what a 'slave' is between M and s usually aren't quite the same. But that's just speculation on my part :)

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RE: My Fantasy - 7/19/2007 5:56:17 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: VermillionRain

I wonder how many man out there would be interested in an MMF poly? My dream..

I don't know, but it sure seems like they can be hard to find when searching for a male submissive. However, I think the proper term would be MFM, since the attention would be focused on Me.

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RE: My Fantasy - 7/19/2007 11:10:21 AM

Unrepentant1

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quote:

ORIGINAL: LadyPact

quote:

ORIGINAL: VermillionRain

I wonder how many man out there would be interested in an MMF poly? My dream..

I don't know, but it sure seems like they can be hard to find when searching for a male submissive. However, I think the proper term would be MFM, since the attention would be focused on Me.