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RE: How to know when its time to meet - 7/16/2007 10:27:02 AM

slaveofKaos

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Take your time and when you feel comfortable meet in a public place, heck do it a couple of times until you feel comfortable and there are plenty of thing you can do to protect yourself, when meeting someone. I always use a safety someone I text at specfic times and if I ever not do it then someone comes loking or calls the cops. The biggest thing here is to never get carried away and forget to contact them, I have never forgotten and it works really well and I normally tell the person im meeting that I have to do it as well, everyone ive told has thought I was smart for protecting myself, so people understand.

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RE: How to know when its time to meet - 7/16/2007 12:37:59 PM

Calandra

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I am one of those who's comfortable meeting within the first 24 hours if the person is of interest to Me. I am seeking friends first, and only if they demonstrate that they are reality based and not on some fantasy trip will I wish to explore more EVER. I think it's idiotic that some people have such arbitrary rules for meeting.

If you meet someone in the produce department of your local grocery store, do you have the need to pull out a card with your internet contact info and say "I'm sorry, I'm interested in getting to know you, but we have to talk for a month online first so I feel safe"??????

Unless someone lives far away, I can't think of a single reason that I wouldn't be willing to spend two hours over coffee at the local bookstore. At the very least, I will be able to decide if this person has social skills, carries a good conversation, and recognizes that regardless of power orientation, I am a PERSON first. I'd much rather meet once and eliminate the possibility of a closer association early on, than spend hours and weeks online trying to make that decision based upon possibly flawed or deceptive information.

In My opinion, if I can't sit still and talk companionably with someone over coffee in a totally vanilla setting with people all around, I wouldn't be interested enough in them to do anything more intense and/or intimate anyway. If someone doesn't engage My mind, it's never gonna work.

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RE: How to know when its time to meet - 7/16/2007 1:54:11 PM

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I think this is one of those questions that people overthink. If you feel that you're ready to meet a person, then you're ready to meet him or her. Waiting longer than that doesn't make sense to me. In fact, eventually it becomes a big pressure-laden "event" that can't possibly live up to all the anticipated fireworks. So delaying it could be a good way to fuck up something that would otherwise work out just fine.

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