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RE: "Willing to relocate" - 7/24/2007 3:23:15 AM

Maynard

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When I checked "willing to relocate" on my profile, I wasn't thinking it ment across the country. I would never move across the country for an internet sub. I just can't learn some of the most important things, in my book, online.

Better go edit my profile again! lol

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RE: "Willing to relocate" - 7/24/2007 4:33:37 PM

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ORIGINAL: Maynard
When I checked "willing to relocate" on my profile, I wasn't thinking it ment across the country. I would never move across the country for an internet sub. I just can't learn some of the most important things, in my book, online.

Never is a very long time. I can see people objecting to people who seem willing to move in right away before a relationship is developed, and I can see people wanting to take time before committing to a relationship... but I don't see distance as a factor here. It just makes it a bit harder to get to know someone, that's all.

I hadn't thought about it before, but I just realized that my current sub and the two prior relationships I've had were with people who moved over a thousand miles to be with me. The first one lasted 2.5 years and we still hang out together. The second I met online, we talked for awhile, I helped her move and she moved right in with me. It lasted 2 years and was not a bad experience- she left much better off than she arrived. And the third was one I met online, picked up in my car when they arrived in this city, and stayed with me for awhile before getting their own place, we moved in together again less than a year later... and that relationship has been going strong for 6 years now.

I submit that it is really a matter of getting to know someone well and being disciplined about who you invite into your life that determines the success of relationships-- whether they live across the country, across your state or across town.

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RE: "Willing to relocate" - 7/24/2007 8:26:59 PM

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I have the opposite problem... most seem to want to move to me immediately and I have to take it as a red flag. Visitting is one thing but being truly willing to drop your life for someone you've not met yet is not attractive... eeeek.

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RE: "Willing to relocate" - 7/24/2007 8:30:34 PM

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I agree, it smells of desperation.
It is rather amusing though, especially the ones in other
countries.

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RE: "Willing to relocate" - 7/25/2007 2:42:53 AM

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ORIGINAL: MzMia

I agree, it smells of desperation.
It is rather amusing though, especially the ones in other
countries.

Make Your mind up Ma`am my flights in 90 minutes

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RE: "Willing to relocate" - 7/25/2007 6:06:49 AM

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lol Polite sub you never fail to make me laff ...

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RE: "Willing to relocate" - 7/25/2007 10:21:48 AM

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Waves to MissHarlet..... i try my best Ma`am

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RE: "Willing to relocate" - 7/25/2007 11:10:48 AM

Deboyce

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I think one has to paint the picture of relocation with a vastly larger brush; certainly, the mountain peak will never be reached from rooting ones self at the mountains base. The ability to relocate is not as simple as just moving from one port of call to another its possessing the necessary social financial and emotional tools to quest after the greater challenge and reap the greater reward irrespective of geographic location.

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