sextoygirlNY -> RE: Whats the difference between a bottom and sub? (7/28/2007 8:54:03 PM)
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Zindy, you will probably receive 100 different responses about what the difference is, in fact, i truely believe in a community that tries to bond together, and respect each others kinks, values, and lifestyle choices that can't even come up with simple definitions to clarify what it is, is one destined to always have prejudices.... This is but my opinion on the differences,... I believe a bottom to be more of a role. Something that everyone does from time to time. This is more of a giving control over to another for a brief period, and enjoying the benefits of it. Submissive is a quality, style and life choice one has. A submissive is a bottom, but a bottom may not be a submissive. For example a Dominant can "bottom" to another dominant learning how to single tail and feeling the sting of a strike for that moment in time, to learn how to handle the whip, and become one with the whip. A submissive is someone who actively chooses to be the bottom role, and has a service oriented mindset to please the one whom they percieve as a "top", "Master" or Dominant. A slave is an extreme view. A slave must be owned by a dominant/Master. (Gorean view-Not a slave unless owned) A slave is property. Simple as that. Slave is owned. You can have obedient slaves, or outride rude and disobedient slaves, any attitude shown by a slave is a direct reflection of their owner and their power, will and control the owner has over there slaves. Anything the girl/slave does is through the eyes of their owner. Hope that gives a perspective of what i believe the differences are. If i may give some advice that i found helpful. Don't try to spend too much time figuring out what "lable" you are be it sub, slave, bottom ect...instead enjoy what it is that you are doing for yourself and for your partner, and ultimately if you choose the path of slavery or servitude, it will be your owner or dominant who tells you what to lable yourself.. Take care, wishes you well Sincerely Melanie
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