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A public apology, and goodbyes - 8/15/2007 3:50:53 PM   
gemy


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Status: offline 		well, i fucked up ,,,,, and will not be going to california .....

to the Ccouple - my heart weeps for the pain caused and the hopes dashed.  i wish Yyou love and life and offer my most sincere apologies. 

that having been said and truly and totally meant, i must admit surprise at being dismissed so easily ,,,,,, Yyou knew my nature from my journals and our discussions, yet this came as a surprise?  i thought we had discussed working on that particular thing together.  i am glad i didn't mess up after having moved to california ~~

to those who helped in posts, and who have been my friend, i'm gone from collarme now.  perhaps i should not have been here in the first place.

gemmie

Find the person who will love you because of your differences and not in spite of them and you have found a lover for life. ~ Leo Buscaglia

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RE: A public apology, and goodbyes - 8/15/2007 5:13:28 PM   
KnightofMists


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Status: offline 		gemy

so you screwed up... no big deal... you can learn from it and move on.  I don't think it is necessary to get into details of the situation right now and particular on a public venue.  Better to talk with some close friends and keep the specifics in private.

But right now... DON't keep making the mistakes.  Stop the running.  You need to learn and grow... and saying goodbye will only continue the problems not solve them.  There is alot to learn here from alot of good people.  You just need to learn who learn from as welll as what you need to learn as well.  I strongly suggest not running... don't close the door.

Don't allow your exuberant attitude to swing to a self-pity attitude one.  Keep a balance and rein on the emotions.

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RE: A public apology, and goodbyes - 8/15/2007 5:35:08 PM   
Stephann


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Status: offline 		Hi gemy,

break-ups suck.  I feel for ya.  I did one recently too.  A couple, to be honest.

You feel like crawling into a hole forever.  After a few months, you wonder why it's so dark in there, and why your eyes hurt.  Then you venture back out, and life goes on.  Give yourself room to hurt, swear, kick, scream, whatever, and then get back to it.  There's a lot more life to be lived.

Stephan


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RE: A public apology, and goodbyes - 8/15/2007 6:26:52 PM   
sunlitflames


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Status: offline 		you can't stop being who you are.... your search is to find a place where you being you is what's wanted/needed.   just because something didn't work for them doesn't make you wrong.... they are right... and you are right. 

your search just continues... for a place where you being you and continuing to grow is what is right for all.

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RE: A public apology, and goodbyes - 8/16/2007 4:03:01 AM   
becca333


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Status: offline 		It happened, you learned from it, it hurts like hell - do NOT give up.  You've got a lot to give in the right relationship, this was a learning experience.  Keep looking.

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RE: A public apology, and goodbyes - 8/16/2007 5:44:09 AM   
LordVelvet


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RE: A public apology, and goodbyes - 8/16/2007 6:19:13 AM   
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RE: A public apology, and goodbyes - 8/16/2007 6:39:10 AM   
Hisbellaluna


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Status: offline 		well that was very dramatic and counterproductive, hopefully the rest of us can learn how not to handle a break up...

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RE: A public apology, and goodbyes - 8/16/2007 9:53:37 PM   
breatheasone


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Status: offline 		Gemmie....contact me on yahoo or on collarme email....i am ALWAYS here if you need to vent....no judgement...just an ear to listen....if you still have my cell number you can use it anytime...*hugs*
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RE: A public apology, and goodbyes - 8/16/2007 10:05:48 PM   
Owner59


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Status: offline 		She`ll be back......

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RE: A public apology, and goodbyes - 8/16/2007 10:21:06 PM   
captainblack


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ORIGINAL: earthycouple

very sad.


Not really. I knew this girl. Knew her well enough to tell where all the scars on her body are and what they are from. She in the past had no regard for the feelings of others and did some cruel things to at least 3 folks I know of. One of those folks was a very ill kajira that I also know well.

She played games with folks in the past and I would not be surprised if her game playing got her in trouble again. Sympathy is wasted on her.

CB

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RE: A public apology, and goodbyes - 8/16/2007 10:40:56 PM   
Owned1


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Status: offline 		This makes the situation even more sad.  I do hope no one was hurt terribly as well I hope for the OP to find what she needs in life to become a whole person.

Owned

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RE: A public apology, and goodbyes - 8/17/2007 7:10:18 AM   
jadedheart2


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Status: offline 		it seems ill suited for someone to speak badly of another when the girl isn't here to defend herself.  we don't know what happened between you and her. i think that wasn't nice of you at all.  we also don't know what really happened with the people she's talking about.

just my 2 cents worth
heart

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RE: A public apology, and goodbyes - 8/17/2007 8:19:12 AM   
LadyIntense


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Status: offline 		I am glad I am not the only one seeing Drama Queen written all over the OP. I have been dorei's friend for years, and know her Master to be very decent man.  Without divuldging details, I will say the "transgression" the OP so flipantly refers to is no small matter. It has already affected her own health.  Do not be deceived, this is not her cry for help. It is a demand for attention. Only someone who wants to manipulate for attention would post that she fucked up AND she is leaving the site. Don't think for a minute we are speaking ill of someone who is not here. Those who know her are blowing her cover. Why else would they be posting here for her to contact them? They know her well enough to know she is following this post even though she claimed to leave the site.  This woman does not need people telling her she is ok, and rallying behind her. What she needs is an intervention. I can not vouch for the others she has hurt, but this couple are some of the most decent people you could ever hope to meet. I should know, I am visiting them right now. The best thing any of us can do at this point is drop this thread. Let her drama float off into oblivion.

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RE: A public apology, and goodbyes - 8/17/2007 2:41:13 PM   
atendersoul


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Status: offline 		disappointments of any type is the facts of Life and it is sad to have read your high hopes for this arrangement to have worked.
When one door closes, another will open in time.....be patience, be honest in your desires and truths and you will find your placement....
have faith......~hugs~

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RE: A public apology, and goodbyes - 8/17/2007 2:48:33 PM   
xoxi


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RE: A public apology, and goodbyes - 8/17/2007 6:50:24 PM   
shanaT


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Status: offline 		i know gemy real time.  i love her like a sister.  i can tell you first hand that there is not a mean bone in her body.  If she is guilty of anything it would be of being too trusting and too friendly too soon.  i told her this real time:

sis, most of these people don't know you.  Those of us who do know you....really know you.... applaud your courage.  It's hard to appologize in public.  It takes class sis.

This post is not meant as a flame to anyone...it is meant as support to someone dear to me.  If you knew her real time as i do then you would know a bright, kind, sensitive, funny woman.  If you knew her real time i believe that you would have a hard time disliking her.

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She`ll be back......

i hope so...if not..it's your loss

well wishes
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RE: A public apology, and goodbyes - 8/17/2007 8:51:59 PM   
viperess


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ORIGINAL: LadyIntense

I am glad I am not the only one seeing Drama Queen written all over the OP. I have been dorei's friend for years, and know her Master to be very decent man.  Without divuldging details, I will say the "transgression" the OP so flipantly refers to is no small matter. It has already affected her own health.  Do not be deceived, this is not her cry for help. It is a demand for attention. Only someone who wants to manipulate for attention would post that she fucked up AND she is leaving the site. Don't think for a minute we are speaking ill of someone who is not here. Those who know her are blowing her cover. Why else would they be posting here for her to contact them? They know her well enough to know she is following this post even though she claimed to leave the site.  This woman does not need people telling her she is ok, and rallying behind her. What she needs is an intervention. I can not vouch for the others she has hurt, but this couple are some of the most decent people you could ever hope to meet. I should know, I am visiting them right now. The best thing any of us can do at this point is drop this thread. Let her drama float off into oblivion.


Greetings,
This said it better than i ever could as i know what transpired and i know it was a hard decision to be made but i would expect my own Master to have handled the situation in the exact same manner. My heart goes out to the couple involved as i know how much they were looking forward to her visit before she did the things in which she did.


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RE: A public apology, and goodbyes - 8/17/2007 9:04:00 PM   
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RE: A public apology, and goodbyes - 8/17/2007 9:04:20 PM   
KnightofMists


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quote:

ORIGINAL: viperess

quote:

ORIGINAL: LadyIntense

I am glad I am not the only one seeing Drama Queen written all over the OP. I have been dorei's friend for years, and know her Master to be very decent man.  Without divuldging details, I will say the "transgression" the OP so flipantly refers to is no small matter. It has already affected her own health.  Do not be deceived, this is not her cry for help. It is a demand for attention. Only someone who wants to manipulate for attention would post that she fucked up AND she is leaving the site. Don't think for a minute we are speaking ill of someone who is not here. Those who know her are blowing her cover. Why else would they be posting here for her to contact them? They know her well enough to know she is following this post even though she claimed to leave the site.  This woman does not need people telling her she is ok, and rallying behind her. What she needs is an intervention. I can not vouch for the others she has hurt, but this couple are some of the most decent people you could ever hope to meet. I should know, I am visiting them right now. The best thing any of us can do at this point is drop this thread. Let her drama float off into oblivion.


Greetings,
This said it better than i ever could as i know what transpired and i know it was a hard decision to be made but i would expect my own Master to have handled the situation in the exact same manner. My heart goes out to the couple involved as i know how much they were looking forward to her visit before she did the things in which she did.




gggggggeeeeeezzzzzz..... hope you don't hurt yourself as you jump from one wagon to another.

one moment you are also huggy

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and now your kicking her in the ass while she's down.

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