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RE: "Love Reign O'er Me" - 9/1/2007 7:46:19 AM

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I don't care Bob,they just give me attention and help me get what I want.

They will certainly do that for you.

Until they realize that's what they're doing and try to bite their tongues.

But rest assured, their obsessive-compulsive disorder will never let them remain silent for long.

They always come back for more.

Exactly-lack of impulse control,coupled with insecure egos that always have to be correct. It's kind of sad, isn't it? What must it be like to have to live with that pressure inside?

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RE: "Love Reign O'er Me" - 9/1/2007 7:47:57 AM

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I don't care Bob,they just give me attention and help me get what I want.

They will certainly do that for you.

Until they realize that's what they're doing and try to bite their tongues.

But rest assured, their obsessive-compulsive disorder will never let them remain silent for long.

They always come back for more.

Exactly-lack of impulse control,coupled with insecure egos that always have to be correct. It's kind of sad, isn't it? What must it be like to have to live with that pressure inside?

Question being,if one is honest enough to see it in themselves-do you have the strength to break the cycle of self abuse? I'm done now-I think I got bored.

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RE: "Love Reign O'er Me" - 9/1/2007 7:51:58 AM

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Exactly-lack of impulse control,coupled with insecure egos that always have to be correct. It's kind of sad, isn't it? What must it be like to have to live with that pressure inside?

I don't know myself, perhaps you care to enlighten us?

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RE: "Love Reign O'er Me" - 9/1/2007 7:53:46 AM

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Rrafe is probably Bob.

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RE: "Love Reign O'er Me" - 9/1/2007 7:53:57 AM

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Question being,if one is honest enough to see it in themselves-do you have the strength to break the cycle of self abuse? I'm done now-I think I got bored.

aka "nuff said" right Bob?

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RE: "Love Reign O'er Me" - 9/1/2007 7:54:27 AM

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Exactly-lack of impulse control,coupled with insecure egos that always have to be correct. It's kind of sad, isn't it? What must it be like to have to live with that pressure inside?

I don't know myself, perhaps you care to enlighten us?

You win, I must be terribly wrong. Did I just make your day?

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RE: "Love Reign O'er Me" - 9/1/2007 7:54:57 AM

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great minds

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RE: "Love Reign O'er Me" - 9/1/2007 7:55:46 AM

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Rrafe is probably Bob.

Great minds think alike. Sheesh, first fishing and now this.......what else???

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RE: "Love Reign O'er Me" - 9/1/2007 7:55:50 AM

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And if she'd been "just a partner", what then, Stephann? She'd deserved to be dumped for developing cancer?

The more you try to draw distinctions, the more heartless you appear.

Depends on the circumstances. I wouldn't dump a girl for getting cancer, but if I'd only known her two months, I wouldn't have felt compelled to commit four years of watching her die slowly just because she's dying.

As I said, the more you try to draw distinctions, the more heartless you appear.

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I think it rather obvious to anyone familiar with english that you certainly made clear you were only selfishly interested in the good times, and had no intentions of sticking around for anything bad.

Relationships are built on the good times. They're forged stronger by the bad times.

Relationships are built on love and understanding of one another, the ability to see that the fates of both are intertwined.

Thus, regardless of good times or bad times, the two face them together.

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You don't know anything of me or my life, so I suggest you refrain from cramming both feet in your mouth.

Those in glass houses should not throw stones, Stephann.

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I am sure that is true for those who are selfishly interested in their own pleasure and enjoyment, and to hell with their partner/spouse/whatever.

Nonetheless, your statement is manifestly untrue given that this is what my wife and I did for ten years, until cancer took her.

There are people who are selfish. It's part of life. It's not fair, certainly.

And I've long suspected that the fifty percent of marriages that end in divorce are amongst those who are selfish and fail to consider the needs of their partners first.

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Yet healthy relationships aren't built on throwing one's life away; they're based on building a life, together.

And through your postings to this thread I think I've got a pretty good idea of how you define those terms, Stephann.

I think it pretty obvious anyone who would want me wouldn't want you, and vice versa.

Thus, we are not in competiton, for those whom we seek are not the same people (by a long shot).

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RE: "Love Reign O'er Me" - 9/1/2007 7:56:17 AM

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great minds

Two days and the dumpster is already filling.......oh well, I didn't have high expectations to begin with.

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RE: "Love Reign O'er Me" - 9/1/2007 7:59:57 AM

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great minds

I am laughing so hard right now.

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RE: "Love Reign O'er Me" - 9/1/2007 8:00:22 AM

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Two days and the dumpster is already filling.......oh well, I didn't have high expectations to begin with.

Actually, I expected them to have more cunning than that. You know, leave you alone to prove you wrong, thus make it appear I am the only reason for their distress.

Ah well, they just don't make bullies like they used to.

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RE: "Love Reign O'er Me" - 9/1/2007 8:01:36 AM

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great minds

Two days and the dumpster is already filling.......oh well, I didn't have high expectations to begin with.

Actually, I expected them to have more cunning than that. You know, leave you alone to prove you wrong, thus make it appear I am the only reason for their distress.

Ah well, they just don't make bullies like they used to.

Your'e going in there too bob-I don't have time for this sort of crap. I'd rather obsess on things I like-than ones I don't.

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RE: "Love Reign O'er Me" - 9/1/2007 8:01:44 AM

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"The dumpster is already filling?" There is a certain etiquette out here when it comes to blocking someone...Being vague doesn't cut the mustard out here, bub!...Or Bob.

If you are going to block someone you must state it clearly with little room for ambiguity...Otherwise it will never stick.

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RE: "Love Reign O'er Me" - 9/1/2007 8:02:58 AM

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Exactly-lack of impulse control,coupled with insecure egos that always have to be correct. It's kind of sad, isn't it? What must it be like to have to live with that pressure inside?

I don't know myself, perhaps you care to enlighten us?

You win, I must be terribly wrong. Did I just make your day?

Oh lord no! It was too predictable, too easy.

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RE: "Love Reign O'er Me" - 9/1/2007 8:08:40 AM

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Wow! RRafe has now blocked Bob!....A masterful strike! Why would Bob go and block himself? It's deep man! Really fucking deep! (Domiguy looks in the dumpster and sees a discarded ham sandwich...Offers LaT the first bite)

LaT..We think a like, we fish..We both dig pussy....I smell a CM romance emerging. Consider yourself..."Under Consideration!"

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RE: "Love Reign O'er Me" - 9/1/2007 8:09:39 AM

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I don't care Bob,they just give me attention and help me get what I want.

They will certainly do that for you.

Until they realize that's what they're doing and try to bite their tongues.

But rest assured, their obsessive-compulsive disorder will never let them remain silent for long.

They always come back for more.

Exactly-lack of impulse control,coupled with insecure egos that always have to be correct. It's kind of sad, isn't it? What must it be like to have to live with that pressure inside?

You have to keep in mind that against most people that strategy would have worked.

It is the adult equivalent of throwing a tantrum to get what they want. Most people back away from such situtations, so the bully gets what he/she wants: control over the situation.

This might help:

"The objectives of bullies are Power, Control, Domination, Subjugation. They get a kick out of seeing you react. It doesn't matter how you react, the fact they've successful provoked a reaction is, to the bully, a sign that their attempt at control have been successful. After that, it's a question of wearing you down. The more your try to explain, negotiate, conciliate, etc the more gratification they obtain from your increasingly desperate attempts to communicate with them. Understand that it is not possible to communicate in a mature adult manner with a disordered individual who's emotionally retarded."
http://www.bullyonline.org/related/cyber.htm

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RE: "Love Reign O'er Me" - 9/1/2007 8:11:18 AM

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You guys might also consider just leaving a topic alone if it offends you so much.

What you are witnessing is the "whatever Bob says must be wrong" syndrome.

Get used to it, amongst the obsessed it is their favourite pastime.

I know. It's always fun to feel better about yourself by tearing others down. Very mature.

I've seen this on every board I've participated on. It is inevitable those prone to obsessive-compulsive behaviour will pick me as a target.

<shrug>

If everyone is "picking you as a target" on "every board" it would seem that the problem lies within YOU, not the masses.

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RE: "Love Reign O'er Me" - 9/1/2007 8:11:35 AM

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I don't care Bob,they just give me attention and help me get what I want.

They will certainly do that for you.

Until they realize that's what they're doing and try to bite their tongues.

But rest assured, their obsessive-compulsive disorder will never let them remain silent for long.

They always come back for more.

Exactly-lack of impulse control,coupled with insecure egos that always have to be correct. It's kind of sad, isn't it? What must it be like to have to live with that pressure inside?

You have to keep in mind that against most people that strategy would have worked.

It is the adult equivalent of throwing a tantrum to get what they want. Most people back away from such situtations, so the bully gets what he/she wants: control over the situation.

This might help:

"The objectives of bullies are Power, Control, Domination, Subjugation. They get a kick out of seeing you react. It doesn't matter how you react, the fact they've successful provoked a reaction is, to the bully, a sign that their attempt at control have been successful. After that, it's a question of wearing you down. The more your try to explain, negotiate, conciliate, etc the more gratification they obtain from your increasingly desperate attempts to communicate with them. Understand that it is not possible to communicate in a mature adult manner with a disordered individual who's emotionally retarded."
http://www.bullyonline.org/related/cyber.htm

Bob you have been blocked...He can't see you. Bullies they are so dumb.

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RE: "Love Reign O'er Me" - 9/1/2007 8:12:02 AM

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Rrafe is probably Bob.

I admit .. this was a thought I had reading the very few posts so far.... but.. either way... better to skim past them both in most cases. and read others.

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