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RE: 5 Things Every Submissive/Slave Should Know - 9/2/2007 6:52:46 PM

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In no particular order, these are my top 5...... How to listen, not just to what's being said but, also to what isn't being said. Sometimes, there are things that need to/should be said, that aren't. How to listen, to that little voice inside of you that often gets ignored but, shouldn't be. It's telling you something and you need to pay attention to it. How to pay attention, focus, and concentrate on what you need to be doing at that particular time and place. How to lose yourself, at the right time, in your own thoughts, imagination, and wonder. How to speak (-up for yourself, too) in an effective manner, that will be heard without causing hurt feelings, anger, or disapproval. i have found that most things said with the preface, "With all due respect, Sir/Maam/Master/Mistress/Daddy/Mommy/Love of my Life/etc.", will usually be met with open ears and an open mind and i will have a better chance of being heard. But, how something is said, is often even more important than what is being said, and that includes, choice of words, tone, facial expression, and body language. It can make all the difference, sometimes. Learning effective communication skills can go a long way. slave joyOwned property of Master David___________________________________________________"Well, y'all know we all evolve at our own pace."

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ORIGINAL: cautiousiasub

This is a similar topic to the one in the Ask a Master section. I thought it brought about a good discussion, both serious and humorous. In your opinion, what are 5 things a submissive/slave should know?

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RE: 5 Things Every Submissive/Slave Should Know - 9/2/2007 6:56:52 PM

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1) Sounding dominant or submissive dose not mean he or she is dominant or submissive (could have read Dom or Submission for dummies)
2) If it is always your fault it is probably theirs
3) Life is not based on fantasy and neither should a D/s relationship be
4) Actions speaks louder then words observe what is happening not what is being said
5) words with out action are just that words they mean nothing

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RE: 5 Things Every Submissive/Slave Should Know - 9/2/2007 7:09:41 PM

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Thank you Mstrskywolf, I am beginning to see there are no actions......so thank you .

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RE: 5 Things Every Submissive/Slave Should Know - 9/2/2007 7:48:38 PM

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A lot of great info coming out here and some humor too...life can always use humor. I asked the question and never gave my interpretation (not in any order).

1. Learn to trust your instincts.
2. Don't be serious all the time. Find someone that you can have fun with...we should be enjoying ourselves, right?
3. Know your limits, likes and dislikes.
4. Be honest with yourself and others.
5. If trust is lost (theirs or yours) there is nothing else left.

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RE: 5 Things Every Submissive/Slave Should Know - 9/2/2007 7:56:29 PM

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Thank you Mstrskywolf, I am beginning to see there are no actions......so thank you .

Sometimes it is the wrong actions not seseserily no action.

It could be for axample:

I am here for you if you need to talk. But then every time you need to talk they are busy.

we will take later! and then later never comes

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RE: 5 Things Every Submissive/Slave Should Know - 9/2/2007 9:17:27 PM

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1) Know when to hold them
2) Know when to fold them
3) Know when to walk away
4) Know when to run
5) You never count your money when you're sitting at the table, there'll be time enough for counting, when the dealing's done.

Only said half tongue in cheek, as knowing when to walk or run away from a bad relationship is ALWAYS a good thing.

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RE: 5 Things Every Submissive/Slave Should Know - 9/2/2007 9:24:03 PM

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1) Know when to hold them
2) Know when to fold them
3) Know when to walk away
4) Know when to run
5) You never count your money when you're sitting at the table, there'll be time enough for counting, when the dealing's done.

Only said half tongue in cheek, as knowing when to walk or run away from a bad relationship is ALWAYS a good thing.

Good song, and good words to live by...

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RE: 5 Things Every Submissive/Slave Should Know - 9/2/2007 9:25:59 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: welshwmn3

1) Know when to hold them
2) Know when to fold them
3) Know when to walk away
4) Know when to run
5) You never count your money when you're sitting at the table, there'll be time enough for counting, when the dealing's done.

Only said half tongue in cheek, as knowing when to walk or run away from a bad relationship is ALWAYS a good thing.

Who said you can't learn anything from a country song?! Now I have this inate urge to watch the Gambler, lol.

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RE: 5 Things Every Submissive/Slave Should Know - 9/3/2007 1:09:52 AM

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Greetings,
This girl finds it interesting this hasn't been stated already so she will throw her two cents in....
    1. Master is always right.
    2. When Master is not, refer to rule #1
    3.   Ensure Master is always well fed, well watered and well fucked
    4.   Obey... with a smile
    5.   Be beautiful in all ways

Hope everyone's enjoyed their long weekend and that the holiday is safe and enjoyable for all.
~anastasia

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RE: 5 Things Every Submissive/Slave Should Know - 9/3/2007 6:35:14 AM

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I can only think of one:

You are a person with a brain. Use it.

That is my mantra as well. Surrendering does not mean checking your brain at the door. It does not mean ignoring all the life skills you've developed to date. It does not mean giving up responsiblity for yourself.

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Is it not most transformative, most earthshaking, to pierce the veils of self-deception and illusion, and crack the eggshell of ignorance, to most intimately encounter oneself? Lama Surya Das

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RE: 5 Things Every Submissive/Slave Should Know - 9/3/2007 6:36:53 AM

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obey obey obey obeyobey

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RE: 5 Things Every Submissive/Slave Should Know - 9/3/2007 7:12:18 AM

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my two cents...

1-Remember you're a person who's worth respect.
2-know who you are.
3-know where you're going (or have a big guess)
4-respect where he came from
5-most of your time will be in fonction of making him and yourself happy. Dont forget that.

another one...yeah i break the rules

6 - Remember to have fun!

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RE: 5 Things Every Submissive/Slave Should Know - 9/3/2007 8:37:04 AM

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1 - as submissive/slave, you have the control until you decide to submit to the Dom/Master/Sir

2 - your Dom/Master/Sir is not God nor should you treat him as such

3 - know the difference between abuse and play

4 - 1st meeting should always be in a public place, never alone

5 - there's no such thing as "twue" or "real" as spefically defined in some Holier-than-thou BDSM handbook

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RE: 5 Things Every Submissive/Slave Should Know - 9/3/2007 8:49:29 AM

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1. A M/s relationship is still a relationship, and relationships take work.
2. Trust your instincts
3. Know the risks and necessary precautions for any activity you want to persue. Don't rely on the dominant to know it all and protect you, because quite often they don't.
4. Knowledge is power. Empower yourself.
5. "Hit me with that one more time, and I'm taking it from you and shoving it up your ass," is NOT an appropriate safeword.

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RE: 5 Things Every Submissive/Slave Should Know - 9/3/2007 9:11:51 AM

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this slave wouldn't espouse "should" but thinks it would be rather joyful if every submissive/slave knew...

that there is no One True Way.
the importance of knowing and respecting themselves BEFORE committing to a relationship.
to communicate with their partner often in a manner of their partner's choosing.
that a safe-word is not an infallible tool.
that one submissive/slave's "heaven" is just as easily another's "hell".

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RE: 5 Things Every Submissive/Slave Should Know - 9/3/2007 1:30:27 PM

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I love your list MadRabbit *s* so true, :)

1. Manner's go a long way, use them.
2. Expext the unexpected--including getting hurt (emotionally) it happens-go with the flow but don't drown
3.Never lie
4.Be yourself, pretending to be something you are not never goes well.
5. Relax, have fun, laugh,live, love

denika

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RE: 5 Things Every Submissive/Slave Should Know - 9/3/2007 1:43:35 PM

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i) Keep track of Mistresses cycle
ii) Remember that arts and crafts are not a disease
iii) Never forget to open the car doors for Her
iv)When Mistress wants to be pleased in the morning and wakes you up to do so, never EVER mumble "5 more minutes."
v) When Mistress gives you an emphatic "fine!" hide the crop
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RE: 5 Things Every Submissive/Slave Should Know - 9/3/2007 1:59:15 PM

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1. If you laugh at Me when I hit the back of My head with a flogger I will get something less dangerous to Me and more unpleasant for you.

2. Yes it is okay if I play shadow puppet with your penis. No I don't have to tie you up to do it.

3. If I deign to make you tea and You call me the tea fairy i will force feed you emetics

4. Do not humm the theme song from jepardy when I am tying you up if you ever want to hum again

and most importantly
5. It isn't polite to chew your collar in public

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RE: 5 Things Every Submissive/Slave Should Know - 9/3/2007 9:54:55 PM

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1. The Houdini move to get out of bondage when you're not in the mood for it.

2. The Br'er Rabbit trick to avoid having your Domme do what you really hate.

3. If you don't want a spanking, don't joke about switching.

4. Always have a compelling excuse when caught not paying attention, and never snore when you fall asleep during her favorite TV show.

5. Stay fit and seductive. Any edge you have, you need to keep. If courting a domme, don't lead with your diaper fetish.

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RE: 5 Things Every Submissive/Slave Should Know - 9/3/2007 10:00:57 PM

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Great lists!
Obedience is life

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