Karynn
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Tal ya'll,
I've noticed that a lot of people who share here are those who live in the lifestyle currently or have had a great deal of experience in M/s offline. I have also noticed many names logged into the forums meaning there are eyes reading here daily who never pause to speak.
Sometimes, I pause and read profiles of those unfamiliar people. Some are curious. Others are eagerly learning. Still others I think are hungrily, passionately, searching for something. There are those who seek the short term, and others who look for life mates. I found many claim a Gorean heritage, looking for a Gorean Master or Gorean slave girl.
Recently, a good friend of mine and I were talking about the move from long phone calls, overnight visits, weekend getaways, letters, and the loving scented goodbyes that range from the very naughty to the very sweet and the transition it took for a girl to trust a Master enough to make that next step, the complete surrender. Eagerly, she speaks of her Master, wanting more than anything to please him. I could tell in her story as she shared of some of their history, she was so ready for this step. To some, until a female is in a home 24/7, they're not fully surrendered. A collar may be there already, and yes those temporary visits help build trust on both sides! I know there are others who might say, no... the moment the collar is placed physically, the girl is claimed, even if she doesn't live with me yet. I'm not going to disagree or agree with any of those, because its probably fit to the couples, and defined then.
I so warmly and energetically offered my support. I was excited for this next step. He's taking responsibility not only for a bright slave but a brilliant mother and in that, he's accepting them in his home under his authority with his support as well. I admire them and their steadfast commitment that has taken them from the beginning and brought them to this new threshhold. I could only offer the most supportive "advice" and say "Oh yes, if you're sure, and you're safe, and you have no doubt (as Jahnca put one time in a letter) that you trust him with everything, your wallet, your children, your dog, your life... then yay! Go for it." Not that either of them needed my permission but it was so easy for me to support and encourage.
Another very sweet friend is anxiously awaiting the arrival of her first Gorean gathering, seeking that beginning phase of training with a Gorean Master who I believe is one of the best ever created in this world. When she asked me about him, I could only sing his praises, and speak from the heart. I wanted to see her make the step boldly, without fear, and know that it was the best way to go from being just an "earth girl" to the formation of a kajira. I can't wait to see her learn from him.
Then there are good friends who so earnestly want to find that right person. They seek, through this forum, through Gorean personals, through websites and other media. They want a Master of Gor or a female to become their girl and kajira eventually. Some seem to want it so badly, it possesses them. I've seen the avid men looking at every profile, pinging every name, hoping that this next one we speak to, or call, or visit for dinner is the one. And they sometimes want it so badly they work and push, and negotiate within themselves small details. He's not so bad. Since his divorce, he's made an effort to visit his children twice. Or, she's not so bad. Once I have her in my control, her mood swings will be under my control and I'll be good for her, you'll see. Part of the time, it's almost like there is a fiction they see because they need to connect so needfully.
My question tonight comes from the situation where friend or friends are trying to connect. I recall when my best friend met a guy who was from another state and they tried to make the long distance thing work for over a year. She was already a successful social worker and he was a Paralegal working on a law license and degree. I saw how much she focused on him and yet she didn't. When she asked my opinion, "Karyn, do you think I should keep trying to make this work?..." I was dumbfounded. My friend wanted to hear me support her. I mentioned those girls in the beginning, those situations that felt so right and good and healthy. But this was my best friend. I couldn't let her down, and yet I didn't want to be the one who said I thought it was a difficult match that would be hunting trouble before they ever got started. I didn't know to give advice or silence or even worse, some ray of hope, finding something good, surely there's one thing good about this... or that...
And now I know Gorean friends, Masters and Ladies, and slaves, all close, all neat people, and all hungry for connection. They've found a few. They've tried a few. Now they're like my girlfriend in college. "Karyn, do you think..." How do you share with someone that the situation doesn't feel safe, or healthy, or Gorean, or goal fitting, or right? Especially females of Gor, what do you say to your male dominant friends, those we all consider Gorean friends, single men who want a slave, "FriendX, this girl really doesn't seem to match your need for..." or "FriendY, I'm not sure you're ready to be a father..." and so forth? You're not in charge of judgment, and he's the man, and this is Gor. You want to offer opinion. You feel so compelled. Or worse (better?) he asks your opinion...
How do you give advice or are you silent when Gorean friends are seeking matches, and seeking your opinion?
K
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