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RE: Why subs run when they hear the word poly - 2/23/2007 9:38:02 AM

MarieEge

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When they say they don't want to deal with jealousy issues, it's not others' jealousy, it is their own. they simply don't want to be in a position to feel jealous and they know they would feel that way. If one knows oneself, one knows how one would feel in certain situations.

subs give up a lot to a dominant especially in an M/s relationship and I think it is totally understandable that a sub would want the dominant's complete attention and devotion.

A lot of people don't understand poly or have negative associations with it. My first exposure to the concept of poly was through a murder investigation. My second was through the betrayal of a friend by her wife. It took a long time before I understood what poly really was without those early negative associations coming up. I am not poly and never will be, but I no longer have a negative view of others who engage in it.

there are plenty of poly subs out there. just keep looking. It doesn't do any good to try and force someone to try poly until they are ready.

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RE: Why subs run when they hear the word poly - 2/27/2007 5:46:50 PM

corsetgirl

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Like geeky girl, I was brought up as an only child and I still have mixed feelings about sharing because I can have some jealous issues that I am working out. However, I don't think poly is definitely for me unless I am involved with a triad between a male dom and a female sub but no more than those parties. I still believe in the idea of having a single dom to guide me to maybe having a long term relationship.

Sometimes, I would get emails from some doms who had 3-4 female subs; however, some would tell me that "Sub X" was moving out the household because she has found her dom. It seems to me that particular household did not sound stable but I can be wrong as I am trying to learn about the dyamics of this particular area. I don't judge people in a poly household and from all of the previous posts that I have read, it is not very easy to maintain.

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