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defiantbadgirl -> Difficulty finding a Dom? (10/1/2007 9:27:38 PM)
To unattached subs out there with not so perfect bodies, you're facing a definite double standard. There's a thread in Ask a Mistress about male subs desiring older bbw dommes that generated many positive responses (4 pages). I started a thread in Ask a Master about Doms desiring older bbw subs and there was only 1 response in 4 hours. I was wondering if any bbw subs out there ever considered becoming switches and ordering male subs to dominate them?

LuckyAlbatross -> RE: Difficulty finding a Dom? (10/1/2007 9:30:42 PM)
From what I hear, that's what most subs already do rim shot Defiant how many threads are you going to start about how it sucks to be you and how you can't find a decent man? Next time just put on some blues.

MzMia -> RE: Difficulty finding a Dom? (10/1/2007 9:34:29 PM)
Ahhh I love the Blues. How about "Stormy Monday"? Or "God Bless the Child"? "Good Morning Heartache"?

defiantbadgirl -> RE: Difficulty finding a Dom? (10/1/2007 9:45:27 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LuckyAlbatross Defiant how many threads are you going to start about how it sucks to be you and how you can't find a decent man? Next time just put on some blues. Wow, it does appear the other thread is finally getting more responses. I thought since there was only one response in 4 hours, there wasn't likely to be many more, if any. Guess I was wrong. I assure you, I didn't start either thread seeking sympathy from anyone. I saw the first thread about male subs seeking older bbw mistresses and all the positive responses it brought. I thought older bbw subs would enjoy hearing positive things about their weight too since I've seen so many threads on here bashing overweight women.

sammiebabygirl -> RE: Difficulty finding a Dom? (10/1/2007 9:49:43 PM)
i would never change who i am to find a partner. i am not a switch and i could never Dom or even Top anyone. It is just totally out of character for me. i would rather be alone than change who i am to find a man. jen

breatheasone -> RE: Difficulty finding a Dom? (10/1/2007 9:57:33 PM)
I'm fat...I found a Master...but hey wait...Hes fat too...never mind....[:D] swish

domiguy -> RE: Difficulty finding a Dom? (10/1/2007 10:04:16 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: defiantbadgirl quote: ORIGINAL: LuckyAlbatross Defiant how many threads are you going to start about how it sucks to be you and how you can't find a decent man? Next time just put on some blues. Wow, it does appear the other thread is finally getting more responses. I thought since there was only one response in 4 hours, there wasn't likely to be many more, if any. Guess I was wrong. I assure you, I didn't start either thread seeking sympathy from anyone. I saw the first thread about male subs seeking older bbw mistresses and all the positive responses it brought. I thought older bbw subs would enjoy hearing positive things about their weight too since I've seen so many threads on here bashing overweight women. We can only hope that this thread morphs into a fat bashing thread......At least it will be interesting. Oh by the way, there are some women that do not have a perfect body but still attract men....It's cause they gots lots of interesting stuff twix their ears.....You might want to think about this fact in relation to your own failures.

defiantbadgirl -> RE: Difficulty finding a Dom? (10/1/2007 10:04:46 PM)
Glad to hear it. Congrats to you both. I'm not saying no Dom ever wants an older bbw sub. There are always exceptions. There just seems to be a major double standard when comparing the number of male subs who prefer older bbw to the number of Doms who prefer older bbw.

PsychoticWolf -> RE: Difficulty finding a Dom? (10/1/2007 10:15:43 PM)
Well, you can't expect every Dom to act the way you want them too. All you need to do is keep trying and not give up, I'm sure their's older people than me out there who like what I like. XD

sammiebabygirl -> RE: Difficulty finding a Dom? (10/1/2007 10:23:29 PM)
Personally, i prefer older Doms. i am 42, but my preference is 50+. i also like them over 6' and big and burly, 250lbs. and more. jen

breatheasone -> RE: Difficulty finding a Dom? (10/1/2007 10:25:48 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: defiantbadgirl Glad to hear it. Congrats to you both. I'm not saying no Dom ever wants an older bbw sub. There are always exceptions. There just seems to be a major double standard when comparing the number of male subs who prefer older bbw to the number of Doms who prefer older bbw. Do you not know that its been this way since the beginning of time?.....its ok for men to be bald, fat, and whatever...but women have to be skinny and big busted. The thing I love the MOST is when I see on a fat guys profile that he is not into BBW...ROFLMAO....

defiantbadgirl -> RE: Difficulty finding a Dom? (10/1/2007 10:27:31 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: domiguy quote: ORIGINAL: defiantbadgirl quote: ORIGINAL: LuckyAlbatross Defiant how many threads are you going to start about how it sucks to be you and how you can't find a decent man? Next time just put on some blues. I assure you, I didn't start either thread seeking sympathy from anyone. I saw the first thread about male subs seeking older bbw mistresses and all the positive responses it brought. I thought older bbw subs would enjoy hearing positive things about their weight too We can only hope that this thread morphs into a fat bashing thread......At least it will be interesting. So you don't think older bbw's should know that some men seek and prefer them over barbie dolls? Somehow this doesn't suprise me, as you seem to thrive on insults..........all in good fun of course Mr Comedian. Oh by the way, there are some women that do not have a perfect body but still attract men....It's cause they gots lots of interesting stuff twix their ears..... Have you ever been to college domiguy? What was your gpa? Mine is a 3.87 You might want to think about this fact in relation to your own failures. My failures? How many long term relationships have you been in and how long did they last?

breatheasone -> RE: Difficulty finding a Dom? (10/1/2007 10:27:35 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: sammiebabygirl Personally, i prefer older Doms. i am 42, but my preference is 50+. i also like them over 6' and big and burly, 250lbs. and more. jen Now exactly how big do you like the burl?....[;)]

obis -> RE: Difficulty finding a Dom? (10/1/2007 10:57:31 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: defiantbadgirl There just seems to be a major double standard when comparing the number of male subs who prefer older bbw to the number of Doms who prefer older bbw. You keep using the phrase "double standard" in all your threads, but I don't see it. Most subs want doms who are larger and older than they are, and most doms want subs who are younger and smaller. There seems to be a remarkably clear single standard, you're just bothered that the standard is based on relationship position rather than on gender.

xoxi -> RE: Difficulty finding a Dom? (10/1/2007 11:13:34 PM)
obis - that is actually an excellent point. I do know there are quite a few male subs who get off on having a teeny 5 foot nothing chick stomp all over them...but I do see your point and I would say it's at least equally prevalent for female Dommes. To the OP - I'm a fat chick, thick chick, whatever (just don't call me a 'bbw' because in my mind that means obese and it's a stupid euphamism anyway) and I honestly do not consider that to be a problem with relationships. The guys who would freak out because I'm not thin are the same ones who would leave me after we had kids and that 30 lbs just was not going away...or when I got old and wrinkled, or whatever. Best to weed them out before I get attached. I think though that everyone wants an attractive partner - but attraction is in the eye of the beholder. I thought my last bf was just the hottest man in the world..my friend Vyni told me he was fat and ugly and had a receding hairline. And she's like over 200 lbs herself while he was 5'10 and 200. Even though I could see those physical 'flaws' he was still sexy - because he knew how to seduce me. That's really what is sexy...the interaction between two people. I dont mind the double standard though because I myself am not attracted to very skinny guys...I prefer someone who can get on top of me and squeeze me tight without poking me with his ribs [;)]

defiantbadgirl -> RE: Difficulty finding a Dom? (10/1/2007 11:15:52 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: PsychoticWolf Well, you can't expect every Dom to act the way you want them too. All you need to do is keep trying and not give up, I'm sure their's older people than me out there who like what I like. XD At 34, I'm not getting any younger but I've had play partners both younger and older. My longest bdsm partner was someone 5 years younger than me. Thanks for the encouragement. I'm confident I'll find someone, even if I have to wait until I'm able to move out of Kansas. I was just hoping older bbw subs would get multiple positive responses like the older bbw dommes did.

breatheasone -> RE: Difficulty finding a Dom? (10/1/2007 11:17:35 PM)
quote: poking me with his ribs LMAO...This made me think....untill I lost that 80 pounds I had forgotten I had ribs!....[:)]

xoxi -> RE: Difficulty finding a Dom? (10/1/2007 11:21:37 PM)
hahahahaa I don't have them when I sit up but I do when I lie down. But if he's on top and his ribs are STILL poking out despite the wonders of gravity...well we have a problem there. There is just something I love about a man with broad shoulders who can pin me to a bed simply by laying on top of me. I need that sense of physical helplessness...it turns me on so much!

PsychoticWolf -> RE: Difficulty finding a Dom? (10/1/2007 11:22:03 PM)
I've been with people about that age, nothing wrong with it, except that they actually indulge in a really good conversation every now and then. Moving is never a bad thing, it can definitely help in starting a new and with new faces, you get new experiences, and all you can do is hope that one of them is better at presenting themselves than what you've had to deal with.

defiantbadgirl -> RE: Difficulty finding a Dom? (10/1/2007 11:33:02 PM)
Most Doms with your looks (I peeked at your pic) only date barbie doll subs because they know they can get them. You're a nice guy.

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