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Too many Emails. How to organize? For Mistresses. - 10/6/2007 9:26:30 AM

YesMistressIrish

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Ok, this has just been insane trying to keep up with so many emails!
I do not have a sub secretary and sure wish I did!
There have been over 2,000 emails sent to me on cm over the last several months.
I have met and become close to a small handful of very cool people, both sub/slave and Dominas. I have also met a few liars and users.
However, trying to keep track of good possible subs/slaves has been a nightmare for me.
My life is too busy to spend hours every day keeping track. How do you women do it? Get and stay organized?
Pros or Lifestyle, subs/slaves or Doms: I would like to hear from you to know how to streamline my connections so I can connect with the subs/slaves both male and female who are good people and long to serve a great Domina.
It all seems to take so much time, energy and work just to connect rt. The poofers, liars, and 'do-me' subs make it much more difficult to weed through the haystack for those precious, wonderful subs.
I have tried several things, asking them to send one full email with all of their info, etc, etc and something is almost always left out, which entails more emails. Then, there is their real first name, and personal email addys, yahoo Im addys, several phone numbers, schedules. And, all the names are different, screenames, email, im, etc. Sheesh!
I need a secretary..lol.
How do you do it?
If I email only one and concentrate on that one person, then find out they are fake in some way; I have ignored several in the meantime who may be great people.
I am not a fast typist so keeping a lot of notes takes hours and I do not have enough time to keep up.
Thanks in advance,
Irish

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RE: Too many Emails. How to organize? For Mistresses. - 10/6/2007 11:07:49 AM

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I find the area on profiles here for personal notes worked wonders for me. I was able to keep people straight and keep notes on phone numbers, emails etc. Of course you still have to take time to transfer the information there. I also found it helpful to forward those that I was especially interested in to my regular email and then into individual folders. Once they had poofed or become less likely a candidate they were moved into the Wanker folder. One glance at it and I knew in future who had been put there for a reason once they attempted contact again. I know one Domme that uses a file card catalogue to keep them all straight but then I've never been one to juggle quite so many.

Believe it or not even now that I'm not looking and have removed my profile I still get at least a couple dozen inquiries a day. Sigh.

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RE: Too many Emails. How to organize? For Mistresses. - 10/6/2007 11:15:08 AM

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Oh when you find out- PLEASE POST IT TO SHARE IN GREAT BIG LETTERS!

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RE: Too many Emails. How to organize? For Mistresses. - 10/6/2007 12:04:47 PM

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ORIGINAL: YesMistressIrish

Ok, this has just been insane trying to keep up with so many emails!
I do not have a sub secretary and sure wish I did!
There have been over 2,000 emails sent to me on cm over the last several months.
I have met and become close to a small handful of very cool people, both sub/slave and Dominas. I have also met a few liars and users.
However, trying to keep track of good possible subs/slaves has been a nightmare for me.
My life is too busy to spend hours every day keeping track. How do you women do it? Get and stay organized?
Pros or Lifestyle, subs/slaves or Doms: I would like to hear from you to know how to streamline my connections so I can connect with the subs/slaves both male and female who are good people and long to serve a great Domina.
It all seems to take so much time, energy and work just to connect rt. The poofers, liars, and 'do-me' subs make it much more difficult to weed through the haystack for those precious, wonderful subs.
I have tried several things, asking them to send one full email with all of their info, etc, etc and something is almost always left out, which entails more emails. Then, there is their real first name, and personal email addys, yahoo Im addys, several phone numbers, schedules. And, all the names are different, screenames, email, im, etc. Sheesh!
I need a secretary..lol.
How do you do it?
If I email only one and concentrate on that one person, then find out they are fake in some way; I have ignored several in the meantime who may be great people.
I am not a fast typist so keeping a lot of notes takes hours and I do not have enough time to keep up.
Thanks in advance,
Irish

Well maybe if i stop messaging you it can be a start!

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RE: Too many Emails. How to organize? For Mistresses. - 10/6/2007 1:03:21 PM

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I definitely sympathize.

Call me old-fashioned, but I've been keeping a notebook. A sub per page (only the interesting ones), with handles, addys, names, limits, descriptions, etc. There are several pages at the back for the irritating ones or fakes. I generally just delete the one-liners; they're not worth a good or a bad mention.

I started when I lost the handle of a sub I really liked.

If you come up with a better system, please let me know.

-Miss Ellen

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RE: Too many Emails. How to organize? For Mistresses. - 10/6/2007 5:45:00 PM

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Jo, Thanks for all your great ideas. I will take a closer look at Gmail to see if I can create files there. Last time I checked they didn't have it set up that way. Yahoo mail moves too slowly for me on good ol'dialup. I was having people email me a longer, more complete profile to yahoo, and then had some difficulty retrieving any older mail at yahoo. I was keeping notes on the profiles here on cm at some point and didn't keep it up, so thanks for mentioning it. It would be a good thing to get started again.
I have news and will give you a call!
Irish

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RE: Too many Emails. How to organize? For Mistresses. - 10/6/2007 5:55:09 PM

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DivaZya; Here they are, coming up already to help us out! *smiles*

PrettyOHDomme aka Miss Ellen; I am glad the notebook idea works well for you, and old-fashioned is a good thing, yes? I now have several notebooks. I started with one notebook, and intended it to be color-coded with my work, house and garden notebooks. Now they all have some cm names, and end up in different parts of my house!

Mr JT, Don't you dare stop! I like your love-notes...(wink)

LaMistressa; With gmail, do you have a way to organize folders there? An excel spreadsheet sounds good. I was feeling like I had too much info to get all of it on the spreadsheet. maybe I need some pointers for that. Care to share more here and help us all out? The rick text idea for quick notes sounds promising. Thanks so much!

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RE: Too many Emails. How to organize? For Mistresses. - 10/6/2007 6:13:19 PM

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I use a combination of gmail (to the favored few who get my address), an Excel spreadsheet to track those I have spoken to and met, and a rich text file with a few polite "thanks but no thanks" messages that I can copy/paste for those who don't interest me or don't meet my criteria.

Hope this helps.

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RE: Too many Emails. How to organize? For Mistresses. - 10/6/2007 6:26:46 PM

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You can use folders for gmail, so I do a folder per name. Also, you can have conversation "strings" on gmail, so you it's pretty easy to use. For Excel, I keep their CM handle, their first name, interests, limits, a yes/no column for whether we have met or not, and my thoughts on them. It's not that it's such a huge spreadsheet, but it is helpful.

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RE: Too many Emails. How to organize? For Mistresses. - 10/6/2007 6:36:56 PM

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OP,

I can definitely relate to your question, lol...though it's time consuming, I usually put the one's I'm interested in into a file that includes their "real" name, cm username, the state they live in & any other personal info they provide, doing things in this order helps me keep my sanity, lol
Now the one's I refer to as "repeat offenders"...yanno...the same one's who either send one-liners or you may have blocked them & now they're back using an "alias" to get your attention, I delete them...

Good Luck!

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RE: Too many Emails. How to organize? For Mistresses. - 10/6/2007 6:46:54 PM

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To the OP and everyone,

You know, I once attempted to start a spreadsheet... *sighs* I really wish I had an admin sub at that point. I can have wonderful organizational ideas, but the influx of emails IS overwhelming. My pet was completely flabbergasted at the amount of emails a Domme gets.

Put in your profile that you won't have sex with them..lol, that cuts them down by a third.
Sorry I couldn't be more help

After closer to a year, you will have heard from most of them and then only need to deal with the new comers anyway.
~Psy

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RE: Too many Emails. How to organize? For Mistresses. - 10/6/2007 8:00:33 PM

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1) There are alot of male subs on here who don't even read Ladies' profiles. Have some specific instructions in your profile that they must do in the first email. For example, answer some questions you list and/or provide a photo in the first email. If they don't do it, delete their emails since they don't know how to follow instructions. That will save you alot of time.

2) There is also a msn group for women that lists male timewasters and fakes on here. Email privately for that.

by the way, in the past I've also used the method of handwritten notes and printouts to keep track of subs. But I've found that if I stick to #1 above that clearly shows me who is serious/sincere and who is not.

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RE: Too many Emails. How to organize? For Mistresses. - 10/6/2007 8:47:54 PM

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I've used notebooks and a card file, both were useful, the card file moreso as it was easy to search and find one-handed when a sub pops up on IM! I only transferred those I thought were worth further correspondence with to file card. Others were listed in the notebook under various headings "Nice but not My type", "International therefore advice only", "Told no thanks already", "PITA ignore" etc! As time goes by the volume of mails reduces. Also, I have a polite thanks but no thanks, good luck in finding what you are seeking standard email message saved in Word. I use it as appropriate to do the courtesy of responding without wasting time. I have also saved parts of messages that become standard - like the questions I always ask - saves a lot of time too! They can be easily copied, pasted then edited to fit in with whatever the sub has already told Me.

Good luck!
Maam Jay aka violet[A]

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RE: Too many Emails. How to organize? For Mistresses. - 10/9/2007 2:11:20 PM

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I try to keep it simple - a pen and pad next to the computer .    If someone comes along that particularly interests me , I record all their information as it is divulged through email & phone , along with the date of first contact . I also add any comments or reactions I might have to live conversations , or ultimately meeting for the first time .

     I don't bother keeping track of those that don't attract me in some significant way and have solid potential - to me , there's simply no point in wasting the energy on all that .

      I will admit there are times when even using this method becomes abit of a challenge attempting to keep the details straight , and not "lose" someone in the process . But then , all things worth having take abit of effort !

      I look foward to the day when I'll throw the whole damn thing away   ( or HE will throw it away while cleaning ... ) !

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RE: Too many Emails. How to organize? For Mistresses. - 10/9/2007 2:48:26 PM

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You could just write a profile like mine...lol. For whatever reason I get very little email from subs seeking a mistress. My email tends to be from friends I have made here on the message boards. Even so the few emails I do get are either from far away (cut and past) the scary lock me up for 30 years one, a one liner - wanna chat, or a married dude. I maybe get 1 email every 2 weeks from a sub. I do not encourage folks who are not in Atlanta or obviously incompatable though - there is no point. And I am not looking to top folks or just for a stable of service boys I am looking for just one serious fella who is actually compatable and will show up. It must just scare the bejesus out of em. Sigh

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RE: Too many Emails. How to organize? For Mistresses. - 10/9/2007 9:58:49 PM

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Hi there!

I used to go crazy and I had notebooks with all sorts of information. Then it got too hard, so I even stopped My profile for a time with a just "Not seeking at this time". Even that didn't stop all the mail, but it did cut it down quite a bit. When I reopened My profile about 18 months ago, I made it very detailed, and if they do not respond properly or have some reasonable attempt to show Me they are trying and might actually be someone of interest, I can ignore, or send a polite note back concerning My lack of interest.
I also do not chat, so no need to keep track of that. When I am ready for a phone number I get it then. Since My profile is so detailed and since I am 99 in age, it cuts down on most of the extraneous emails that I might need to wade through before I realize that this is not a workable potential. I used to start with a bit of info, and then work through more and more, until I realized that this wasn't going to work, or we were at cross purposes for the ultimate relationship goal. Now I have it all spelled out, so it saves that extra email time.
I do not have as much problem anymore in losing track of someone who might be terrific.

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RE: Too many Emails. How to organize? For Mistresses. - 10/10/2007 9:34:07 AM

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I put very specific mentions that are to be included/responded to within the first email to me on my main profile... I can easily skim over a letter in the matter of a second or two so that I can check for the specific mention I have requested. If it isn't there, then I delete the mail.

Works for me.

I don't feel it is necessary for me to read an entire letter & form a reply if they don't do me the courtesy of reading my profile first.

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RE: Too many Emails. How to organize? For Mistresses. - 10/10/2007 10:36:34 AM

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There are probably five weekly that will stand out. And they will have followed your directions (in your profile) to the letter. Create a folder in your Documents on your personal computer with a link (alias or shortcut) to that folder on your desktop. Make sub-folders (interesting word, that) for specific reasons why you might be interested. Then create a file for each using a simple word processor or notepad. You can copy and paste all of their preferences into it from their profile from their messages and you can add any conversations you think salient. Make your file names the userid of the person here on CM and note any other user names (from other places) at the top of the file.

Your computer operating system's "find" function ought to be able to read within any of the saved files for any information you might want to search for.

That's a lot easier than using Excel. It's cheaper than a database (and works better than all, save Filemaker Pro), it's searchable and, since any computer operating system allows you to date or alphabetically sort files within folders, you can easily find records as you want to.

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RE: Too many Emails. How to organize? For Mistresses. - 10/12/2007 8:00:47 AM

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Thanks to all who answered and shared their good suggestions here. I think we've covered it. I used some of your good ideas and am organized now.
Now, to keep it that way!

Thanks, now we're done and off to real time.

Irish

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