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RE: The best way to catch Her eye? - 10/7/2007 7:58:21 PM

rob425

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I have always had the same question as you but couldn't put it into words as well as you.

Of the 2 people i talk to from this webiste i have read their profile and journals fully usually responding to something they talked about.

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RE: The best way to catch Her eye? - 10/8/2007 12:45:15 AM

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If you are just the average looking guy or below, you have to be lucky to get the nacissistic bigots I meant dommes in this site interested. Not only looks but not many men fit their criteria.

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RE: The best way to catch Her eye? - 10/8/2007 12:53:43 AM

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I don't agree with this at all. For me, looks are way low on the list; intelligence, emotional intelligence and kindness are very high.

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RE: The best way to catch Her eye? - 10/8/2007 12:55:01 AM

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ORIGINAL: bottomboy81

If you are just the average looking guy or below, you have to be lucky to get the nacissistic bigots I meant dommes in this site interested. Not only looks but not many men fit their criteria.

Take note, this is the kind of thing that will get you a big, fat zero, lol. There is NOTHING will turn a Domme off quicker than bitching from a sub.

I respond to those who have obviously read my profile and those with gentle humour. I don't mean an episode of Family Guy, but a little humour.

I'd take you in a second, but you hate housework

, so you're out.

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RE: The best way to catch Her eye? - 10/8/2007 12:58:51 AM

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ORIGINAL: MissMagnolia

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ORIGINAL: bottomboy81

If you are just the average looking guy or below, you have to be lucky to get the nacissistic bigots I meant dommes in this site interested. Not only looks but not many men fit their criteria.

Take note, this is the kind of thing that will get you a big, fat zero, lol. There is NOTHING will turn a Domme off quicker than bitching from a sub.

But its perfectly okay for a domme to BITCH about all the bad emails they get from subs and how we are all so so bad only wanting sex. Bitching should be a 2 way street :-)

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RE: The best way to catch Her eye? - 10/8/2007 1:13:49 AM

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Well, you are too young and too far across the world for Me ... but I agree, it is an excellent profile and one that would catch My eye if you were 10 years older and in Australia! So nice to see one that is more than a few lines long, well-written and depicts a real person. Well done!

I agree with the other Ladies here ... check out Domme profiles carefully to see who is of suitable age, location and general interests. Check out any posts She has made on the forums (you can use the search function). In your initial post, comment clearly either on Her profile, journal or a recent post ... it will take you far! It can also be good to pick on things you are curious about to ask Her about ... or if most things gel but She has indicated She loves something that's on your dislike list ... ask Her about it. It's quite possible you are disliking the concept as you believe it to be ... you might feel different about how She might do it!

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RE: The best way to catch Her eye? - 10/8/2007 1:33:36 AM

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ORIGINAL: bottomboy81

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ORIGINAL: MissMagnolia

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ORIGINAL: bottomboy81

If you are just the average looking guy or below, you have to be lucky to get the nacissistic bigots I meant dommes in this site interested. Not only looks but not many men fit their criteria.

Take note, this is the kind of thing that will get you a big, fat zero, lol. There is NOTHING will turn a Domme off quicker than bitching from a sub.

But its perfectly okay for a domme to BITCH about all the bad emails they get from subs and how we are all so so bad only wanting sex. Bitching should be a 2 way street :-)

And again I rest my case, PMSL.

*waves to Ma'am Jay*

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RE: The best way to catch Her eye? - 10/8/2007 1:34:17 AM

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But its perfectly okay for a domme to BITCH about all the bad emails they get from subs and how we are all so so bad only wanting sex. Bitching should be a 2 way street :-)

Well how lovely that would be. You find a bitchy Mistress and the two of you can sit around and bitch at each other all day.

Explaining to a CM newbie how to attract the attention of a Domme is not bitching. It is explaining openly and honestly what most of us look for in a profile and introductory email. You are free to do it any way you want, that is your perogative, but don't blame the messenger when you don't get what you want.

I read your profile and it's extremely negative and hostile. I can't imagine any woman responding to that profile unless she wants money for her services. The only good thing about it is that you are honest that you are a do-me type. At least you aren't attempting to hide it. It's extremely rude and offensive to deride and ridicule other people's interests and choices simply because it's not YOUR thing, especially when you are on a website that is meant for the very group you are insulting!

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RE: The best way to catch Her eye? - 10/8/2007 1:36:52 AM

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PMSL

Translation, please?

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RE: The best way to catch Her eye? - 10/8/2007 1:37:47 AM

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Pissing My Self Laughing

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RE: The best way to catch Her eye? - 10/8/2007 1:38:26 AM

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Thanks, MM! That's a new one to me.

BTW, is your Winston quote from 1984?

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RE: The best way to catch Her eye? - 10/8/2007 1:40:54 AM

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My pleasure dc and yes, you clever little sausage, it is from 1984.

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RE: The best way to catch Her eye? - 10/8/2007 1:43:14 AM

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Cool! I have a friend who's a huge Orwell fan, and he has a facsimile of the typescript. Really interesting.

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RE: The best way to catch Her eye? - 10/8/2007 1:49:03 AM

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*waves back to MissMagnolia and whispers that girl is finally behaving herself*

Slips away not wanting to hijack the thread but reminding Herself it's been ages since She read 1984!

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RE: The best way to catch Her eye? - 10/8/2007 2:07:16 AM

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But its perfectly okay for a domme to BITCH about all the bad emails they get from subs and how we are all so so bad only wanting sex. Bitching should be a 2 way street :-)

I read your profile and it's extremely negative and hostile. I can't imagine any woman responding to that profile unless she wants money for her services. The only good thing about it is that you are honest that you are a do-me type. At least you aren't attempting to hide it. It's extremely rude and offensive to deride and ridicule other people's interests and choices simply because it's not YOUR thing, especially when you are on a website that is meant for the very group you are insulting!

A lot of domme profiles appear to be negative and hostile towards male subs. But I think men have more of a right to complain than women as men have bigger problems than women in this type of scene or in vanilla dating in general. Isn't it funny how its always more acceptable for a woman to complain than it is for a man when men obviously face the bigger problem of not getting replies or attention? Some men may be to blame but I really blame the women in here a lot of the time by their expectations to begin with. A male is seen as a pathetic whiner for complaining about getting no attention while its acceptable for a woman to complain about getting too much attention. What should be classed as the most pathetic?

Oh well I wont say anymore, the sisterhood bigotry wont accept this truth.

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RE: The best way to catch Her eye? - 10/8/2007 2:18:52 AM

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A male is seen as a pathetic whiner for complaining about getting no attention . I LOVE people who are psychic and know what other people are seeing!!!

I don't need to be psychic to see long, lonely nights ahead for this one, ROFLMAO!!!

Sorry sodsta, I will no longer hijack your thread.

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RE: The best way to catch Her eye? - 10/8/2007 6:33:11 AM

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I honestly don't see it as a hijack at all -- more of an example to the OP of "what not to do", right? Even if Bottomboy 81 had a picture like Brad Pitt, his poisoned attitude would get delete/block from me. That negativity permeates everything in his profile, not to mention his posts.

Keeping with the 1984 theme, it's "double plus ungood" for attracting positive interest.

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RE: The best way to catch Her eye? - 10/8/2007 6:54:39 AM

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I honestly don't see it as a hijack at all -- more of an example to the OP of "what not to do", right? Even if Bottomboy 81 had a picture like Brad Pitt, his poisoned attitude would get delete/block from me. That negativity permeates everything in his profile, not to mention his posts.

Keeping with the 1984 theme, it's "double plus ungood" for attracting positive interest.

Heh it's because you only accept men who are totally blind or who keep their mouths shut about the truth. It's pretty typical anywhere, not only in this site or this scene. I think any woman would feel justified to be as bitter as me if they had it as hard as most men. A lot of women appear to be bitter as it is while most men can only wish they could have the opportunities and choices women have. Most men keep their mouths shut because they want to keep their chances high in getting the pussy. A lot of men will even go as far as putting down another man who speaks up about it. Its all about the pussy power.

The reality is that if a woman had the same social status in looks as the OP and if she had the same information in her profile or even less said about herself, she would still not have a problem in finding men interested in her. But over and over again, when a male makes threads like the OP did, the blame is put on him and he is told that he needs to change. But a woman with the same profile and status of looks doesn't have to change a damn thing.

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RE: The best way to catch Her eye? - 10/8/2007 8:03:48 AM

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Maybe some men keep thier mouths shut and take any complaints direct to the Lady concened. This way you only piss off one of them, and not all of them

As for the Op i only saw people giving constructive advice, unless i missed something.

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RE: The best way to catch Her eye? - 10/8/2007 10:48:19 AM

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ORIGINAL: bottomboy81

A lot of domme profiles appear to be negative and hostile towards male subs. But I think men have more of a right to complain than women as men have bigger problems than women in this type of scene or in vanilla dating in general. Isn't it funny how its always more acceptable for a woman to complain than it is for a man when men obviously face the bigger problem of not getting replies or attention? Some men may be to blame but I really blame the women in here a lot of the time by their expectations to begin with. A male is seen as a pathetic whiner for complaining about getting no attention while its acceptable for a woman to complain about getting too much attention. What should be classed as the most pathetic?

Oh well I wont say anymore, the sisterhood bigotry wont accept this truth.

Ummm you have an empty profile!!!!! Empty profiles shows your personal effort which i assume is lacking.

If a person that takes the time to fully fill out their profile and you contact them with an empty profile what does that say about your work effort. You aren't serious and you are lazy

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