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Third person speech - 10/17/2007 1:56:44 PM   
xoxi


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I recently read that slaves talking exclusively in third person about themselves is a quirk of 'online Gor' and that in the books slaves used both the first and third person, and actually talked normally most of the time.  Third person speech is definitely something that never appealed to me - just because I am a slave doesn't mean I have to talk like an uneducated 'Sambo' type...but I can see the appeal to others in that it makes them feel objectified.

Just wondering - to the Masters, do you prefer that your girl talks in third person, or do you prefer that she doesn't?  Or do you not care either way?

To the slaves - same question, which do you prefer, and why?


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RE: Third person speech - 10/17/2007 3:16:04 PM   
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i am kajira. i do not use the third person with anyone except my Master. He does not require me to use it continually. i use it when making a formal request of Him or whenever it suits the mood of what we are doing. This is why: i find that when i am writing my feelings or trying to process something that using third person makes it harder to formulate my thoughts.  It blocks my thoughts and i end up staring at a blank page. At first i tried writing in first person and then changing all the personal pronouns, but it still felt awkward.  my change from sub to slave is still new, and my Master may change this requirement as i grow into my new role, but for now He is being patient with me.

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RE: Third person speech - 10/17/2007 3:16:53 PM   
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Greetings Masters,
Greetings Mistresses,
Greeting slaves,
Greetings xoxi,

quote:

just because I am a slave doesn't mean I have to talk like an uneducated 'Sambo' type


Master's preference for this girl is third person speech. We are not online chatgamers.
A girl need a modicum of intelligence to utilize it properly in each and every situation that occurs in life. 
The majority of Free Persons we know have their property use third person speech.
It makes a girl think before she speaks. She will know her Master controls all about her,even her speech.

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RE: Third person speech - 10/17/2007 3:28:45 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: xoxi
Just wondering - to the Masters, do you prefer that your girl talks in third person, or do you prefer that she doesn't?  Or do you not care either way?


It drives me fuckin' nuts................... it's a tool for punishment and training in my opinion, beyond that........-hurls-

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RE: Third person speech - 10/17/2007 3:49:39 PM   
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Greetings sakinah,

Lovely name btw. Your post was well said.

serve and be well,
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RE: Third person speech - 10/17/2007 3:51:44 PM   
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Laughs

You have such a way with words Ty,

It doesnt matter to me either way, I agree, though it is more useful for punishment or refocusing techniques. Thou certainly it is every mans preferance how his slave speaks.

Always wishing you well,
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RE: Third person speech - 10/17/2007 4:00:20 PM   
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[Fast reply]

Just FYI all--use the search feature and you'll find several previous threads on this topic.

Lots of different views there.

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RE: Third person speech - 10/17/2007 5:17:31 PM   
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Greetings Masters,
Greetings Mistresses,
Greetings fellow slaves,

I am gorean kajira and have been so for quite a few years. My Master only uses third person speech for training purposes only. Master at first wanted me to use it all the time but found that once trained to the mode of third person it is hard to get out of especially around vanilla people. Sooooo he decided to use it for training only. My Masters landlord started looking at me wierd when I was using it.

So he decided it is best to use it for training, dicipline or for humbling me only. Yes it is in the books but also slaves used first person in the books as you have stated. So that is basically how we use speech in this house. When I want to feel slave like and objectified I use it from time to time. But not all the time. I have learned to use it sparingly especially around those that don't understand it or what I am.

wishing all well,

< Message edited by noyeh -- 10/17/2007 5:18:53 PM >


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RE: Third person speech - 10/17/2007 5:41:06 PM   
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This poster will be out back hurling with Bull, if the man doesn't mind. Otherwise, it'll end up in a corner. In this poster's experience, it is no different from writing a formal paper where the use of personal pronouns breaks the distal tone, and not particularly hard, though one can of course spend some time trying to make it appear more natural. If making the other person think about things is the objective, there are better ways of accomplishing that. Following Tim's advice will provide some suggestions.

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RE: Third person speech - 10/17/2007 6:20:37 PM   
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What I don't understand is why we masters don't use the third person too.  Something like, "Slave, bring him a beer!"

"He is hungry, wench."

"Kneel before him!"

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RE: Third person speech - 10/17/2007 6:49:11 PM   
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 I tend to Agree with Bull, though third person irritates Me less than it does Him apparently, only mild gastric disturbance is evident, not projectile regurgitation
I also find it best used in training and reinforcement, and when needed punishment, though I must admit that some girls I have heard do it so beautifully and naturally, that to hear those particular girls using third is actually quite lovely...for a limited period of time anyway!

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RE: Third person speech - 10/17/2007 7:13:42 PM   
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Greetings Masters,
Greetings Mistresses
Greetings slaves,

Hi xoxi,

My Master does not require me to use the third person speech.   I am extremely grateful for this because the third person speech drives me absolutely nuts.
I have used it in the past in online venues that require it, and typing in it doesn't seem nearly as awkward to me as verbally speaking in it. 

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RE: Third person speech - 10/17/2007 7:30:06 PM   
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Bob Dole doesn't use the third person. Bob Dole finds it sounds rather stilted outside of a chat room. Bob Dole feels it masks a slaves human complexity, making genuine communication more difficult.

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RE: Third person speech - 10/17/2007 10:37:53 PM   
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Greetings xoxi,

This is a debate that has raged for years. Let me give you a bit of background.

Anyone who has read the books will have spotted that slaves within the books speak in first person pretty much all the time. There is, however, a passage in which a slave is told to "speak like a slave", and what is clearly meant by that is that she should speak in third person. Because of that passage some believe that third person speech is the appropriate way for slaves to speak, period. How, then, do they explain why the books mostly have slaves using first person speech? The usual reason I hear for that is that it simply makes it easier to read. Others, however, point to the almost universal use of first person speech and say that clearly first person speech was the norm, and third person speech was just a training tool.

From my studies of the books, I don't quite agree with either perspective. It's often claimed that third person speech is only used a couple of times. In reality there are dozens and dozens of places where it is used, and I think only the first book or two do not have at least one use of it. Most have lots. The use of it suggests that it wasn't used exclusively, but only in certain situations. It was sometimes used as a training tool, but usually it was used by the slave on her own initiative. It's a reminder to both her and her master that she is a slave, and knows it. Whenever you see it used it's nearly always because the slave needs to either remind herself of what she is, or more often to remind her master that she knows her place. The most common situation in which it is used is when a slave asks for something, especially forgiveness.

So, if it was not used exclusively on Gor by slaves, does that make it wrong for Gorean men in roleplay to have their slaves use it exclusively? It's often thought to simply be an onlinism, and nothing more. However, when he was revising the series, John Norman added a passage to Guardsman that speaks directly into that very debate:

'I had never made much of this sort of thing, but some masters enjoy having the slave refer to herself by name, rather than having recourse to pronouns, for example, "Beverly begs to be caressed," "Does Master desire aught of Beverly," "how may Beverly please Master," and so on. This is useful upon occasion, of course. It helps the slave distance herself from herself when one wants her to distance herself from herself, and thus see herself rather from the outside as her Master's object. A similar practice, favored by some masters, is to have the slave refer to herself as his slave, for example, "Your slave begs to be caressed," "Does Master desire aught of his slave," "how may his slave please Master," and so on. On the other hand, I usually prefer for her to speak more directly, utilizing delicious personal pronouns, because it is then clearer to her, and to the master, that it is she herself, intimately, his, who speaks, for example, "I beg to be caressed," "does Master desire aught of me," "how may I please Master," and so on. A judicious mixture of modalities may be best. For example, suppose the slave has been somehow at fault, however inadvertently, and, kneeling before the master, nude, must beg punishment. Consider then the difference between "Beverly begs to be whipped," "Your slave begs to be whipped," and "I beg to be whipped." At one time, one might seem best, and, at another time, another.'
(Guardsman of Gor, book 16, revised edition)

Clearly, from that passage, there is nothing wrong with a master requesting that his slave speaks in third person, but it certainly isn't the norm. The whole debate about whether third person speech is right or wrong has been ended at a stroke. Opinions are still strongly held, however, and you have seen some of those expressed already. I'm not here to discuss the rights and wrongs of those opinions, especially as often they aren't open to discussion. If someone finds third person speech hard to read and therefore doesn't like it, then that's all there is to it - end of story. I'm simply trying to give the perspective of John Norman to this issue.

When deciding whether to use first or third person speech there are sevral factors to bear in mind. Firstly, she should follow any instructions given to her by her master. Secondly there is her audience to consider. How would they prefer her to speak? Some simply don't like third person speech, and that is entirely their right, and if the slave has the choice then in their presence it should be avoided. She does, after all, have a duty to make sure she is found pleasing by her audience. Thirdly, there is the situation to consider. Is it one for which third person speech seems appropriate, such as asking for forgiveness for something?

I'm sure there are plenty of points for and against the use of third person speech that I haven't addressed, but I hope I've given a reasonable overview of the subject from the perspective of the Gor books. I hope it's helpful.

Simon

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RE: Third person speech - 10/18/2007 6:19:32 AM   
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Greetings

To Sakinah

When i first learned to speak English, i spole lowly and had to think about what i wanted to say, now that i am fluent in it (Yes i am, i have dyslexia so i make spelling errors) i am as likely to speak in English as Norwegian. Now i no longer have to think more about what i speak in English than i do when speaking Norwegian.

i suspect it would be the same whit thrid person, i might have to think a bit at first, but when it became a habit it would go as natrual as how i formulate myself now.

To: Master Lordandmaster

quote:

What I don't understand is why we masters don't use the third person too.  Something like, "Slave, bring him a beer!"

"He is hungry, wench."

"Kneel before him!"


Some do Master. i got a most strange mail once. It was something like this. she have very presomptious nick he thinks. he will teach her where her place is. He is...and so on to be honest it was rather hilarious.

Generaly to the tread:

Peronaly i think third person speach can be fun at times, but my Master is not very fond of it. i do not find it trubblesome as i am used to it from ritual work where one often use third person. In the books both are used, depending on the pleasure of the Master.

One thing that can be anoying is those that do not even want the slave to use their name, and the Master do not use their name either, everything is she and her. When there is a group and everyone say she and her about everyone one very soon get confused as to who are being adressed.

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RE: Third person speech - 10/18/2007 6:34:29 AM   
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honestly it's not something required of me but in many ways i wish it were.  A few years ago Master had me using third person i felt much more humbled, had much more of a slave mindset, i was still learning back then, still am now actually but the slave mindset because i enjoy the mental aspects of the lifestyle so much more than the physical is what i seek, what i desire in my servitude etc etc etc....

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RE: Third person speech - 10/18/2007 6:43:11 AM   
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ORIGINAL: meticulousgirl
i enjoy the mental aspects of the lifestyle so much more than the physical is what i seek, what i desire in my servitude etc etc etc....

~meticulous~


Interesting.....................(This is one of those brow raising moments for me)

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RE: Third person speech - 10/18/2007 6:46:13 AM   
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Third person speach can be quite beautiful, if done well.  It does require the slave to think, esp if the Master requires more than just "this girl" or "this slave" but rather wants more descriptive words "your loving beast" and so on.  
Personaly I do enjoy third person in moderation,  and I have been known to use it myself from time to time "This ol fart" ect
But thats just me   

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RE: Third person speech - 10/18/2007 7:05:32 AM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: xBullx

quote:

ORIGINAL: meticulousgirl
i enjoy the mental aspects of the lifestyle so much more than the physical is what i seek, what i desire in my servitude etc etc etc....

~meticulous~


Interesting.....................(This is one of those brow raising moments for me)

Bull


Greetings Master Bull,
Greetings All,

Why is that a brow raising moment for You?

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RE: Third person speech - 10/18/2007 8:25:14 AM   
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Greetings Masters,
Greetings Mistresses,
Greetings slaves,
Greetings Mistress Maahsatti,

Girl thanks you Mistress.

Wishing You Well

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