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ORIGINAL: JustDarkness why do people want to untrain, when they spent so much time to train? (was it a bad decision to train perhaps?) Wow, old thread. But to answer your question - not necessarily a bad decision to train, but if the relationship goes away and the submissive has been training to ONLY have orgasm when that particular person has ordered it...what happens when that person goes away? This is why transitions out of such relationships is so important, in my opinion. I was trained to orgasm only when he wanted, when he wanted. And then one night - poof - he went away. It take a LOT of work to take control of certain things back, after something like that. I mean, nothing like masturbating while sobbing your eyes out because nothing is happening, and then you find yourself angry and sad and confused...etc. But, I'm happy to say, a person can retrain his/herself, with determination, patience, and gentleness with self. :)
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