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RE: Training to cum on command - 10/28/2008 10:05:15 AM

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One hard thing is if you get involved with someone after you have been trained to either not cum till given permission or to cum on command, is to explain to the new person you can not cum unless they say "x"

I was involved with a non practitioner after the relationship between my former Dom and myself ended. The guy i was with was getting fustrated because i seemed unable to acheive orgasm with his so I had to explain.

I've never been able to cum on command from dead cold no stimulation with just a word but I can get really excited that way lol Guess it is conceivable that you could take it one step farther.

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RE: Training to cum on command - 10/28/2008 2:17:17 PM

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As with most things in life, to some it comes (no pun intended) more easily than others.

It's quite a favorite pastime of mine.

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RE: Training to cum on command - 10/28/2008 3:00:10 PM

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hi everyone

there are many ways to train such responses. mine took place over the phone. yeah, he adored phone sex. and he used that to control. we didnt even realize it was happening because we had been arguing at the time, over a period of weeks. he would demand that i masturbate to keep my mouth shut... lol... often worked.. sometimes not. when it did,t he would hang up and leave me on the edge, and too pissed off to cum on my own. then a few weeks later, after almost every call ending the same way, he called, simply said a word, and i went into a frenzy... was the only way to describe it. i didnt even know i was growling at the time. threw him for a loop as well, and for a long time, he doubted my ability to actually cum by his command, until we met. on the walk from the airport to the car, we spoke about the flight. he pushed me against his car, bit my shoulder, and commanded...that was all it took to convince him... well.. that and the wet jeans :)

and, yes, it ended, the relationship, on a sour note. no, i still cant cum on my own. yes, others can produce that orgasm. yes, i have to trust them a whole lot. no, its not a single word or even a phrase. its more the tone of voice and knowing the desire behind it. i suppose like the countdown some spoke of, without the numbers.

and why would you wish to untrain someone from something so wonderfully wicked to experience? at times i do get frustrated. just makes the desire to be owned so much more edgy.

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RE: Training to cum on command - 10/28/2008 3:03:39 PM

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Once you are trained that way it is impossible to leave unless he decides to let you go.

I am glad I am not in that situation because mental bondage is not something many people understand. I have seen posters here that seem to think we all retain control over our minds and that is just not so. Sorry. Disagree all you want. Judging from the responses I see to other posters regarding Masters that refuse to release their subs or slave, if I ever become so enslaved that I can not leave, I wont come here for help

im not sure what you meant by this post. i personally believe that unless abuse is occuring, why would anyone want to leave someone they are enslaved too? and, no, its not impossible to leave. everything does not revolve around an orgasm, as nice as they are.

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RE: Training to cum on command - 10/28/2008 3:16:06 PM

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hi!

i have been trained to come when He counts to ten.

No, it doesn't always work. If i am not in the zone or warmed up, tense, unhappy, nope i try but it doesn't happen. If i am 'warmed up' then sometimes i have to hold on until He gets to ten, lol. Having Him growl at me to hold it, to wait, makes it even harder. And at those times, sometimes He starts at 5 or 7 just to be 'mean'.

While His voice is part of it, it isn't true that no one will be able to get me to come. There is a lovely flogging scene i was allowed to have with another Dom, whom He passed orgasm control to. Suffice it to say that the intent is what matters. :D

ATM no one else can get me to come on command, but if i were not with Him, i would still be able to come with a new Master.

i think, as with everyone else, it varies with the relationship.

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RE: Training to cum on command - 10/28/2008 7:10:11 PM

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I'm fascinated by the concept.
The idea was initially explained to me in detail by a person that I was in a relationship with.
Yesterday, I spoke with a female who explained how she was trained.
Seems pretty cool! :>
Davan

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RE: Training to cum on command - 10/28/2008 8:44:03 PM

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i have to admit it sounds interesting =p

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RE: Training to cum on command - 10/28/2008 9:40:37 PM

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Not only interesting, but you can have both verbal queues and non-verbal queues to make someone come. I trained someone to cum when her nipples were touched a certain way and looking back, another woman used to cum when pressure was applied to the small of her back.

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RE: Training to cum on command - 10/29/2008 1:52:50 AM

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I just can't understand how this is possible without any physical stimulation? far be it from me to dispute what anyone else says about their own experiences- this is purely based upon my own- but whilst I have been trained to wait for permission and can therefore orgasm when commanded, it is only after a period of sexual physical contact that this is possible. I am quite interested in the training process to come on command with no touching whatsoever and I am incredibly envious of those for whom this ability comes naturally.

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RE: Training to cum on command - 10/29/2008 3:49:38 AM

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Just make sure (for her sake) that you plan on keeping her for a while if you do this. It's not always so easy to UNTRAIN.

This is very true!

Having been taken to the point by my owner who passed away that i simply could not cum without that command, not even by myself, i can tell you it caused a few pretty serious issues with Scooter and i in the beginning.

He had never done this and often forgot leaving me extremely frustrated.

It took him a good bit of time to get me to relax and relearn to just let it happen when it happened.

Now i still can and do get off if he even gives me that look, but i also get off when ever we are playing/having sex without being told as well.

Grins, i still say women have it better than men in this area. I can get off thirty or fourty times to his once. WEG.........

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RE: Training to cum on command - 10/29/2008 4:43:28 AM

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i, myself, have never been with One who showed any interest in orgasm control or denial. i must admit to having some curiosity; but i'm not sure that it would work on me as it has been stated by a professional hypnotist that i have an unsuggestible mind...whatever that means. *shrug*

Perhaps, someday, it will be something that Master wants to explore. But, until then...W/we're happy with things cumming along naturally. ;-)

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RE: Training to cum on command - 10/29/2008 6:50:57 AM

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My first Dominant trained me to cum on command using certain words and phrases.

Oh brilliant what was the word pass it on please.

Have you tried using "DarkSteven"?

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RE: Training to cum on command - 10/29/2008 9:34:44 AM

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I had some intense training. After the relationship changed, it took a lot of work to break the "habits"...of course, like many habits, those old desires and such still slip in. I guess that is what keeps me coming back here. Also, having to untrain and continuing to struggle with old demons that resulted in much pleasure, is what brought me to a higher understanding of psychological domination and its potential. Now, anything that conflicts my vanilla world with my bdsm side, excites me a lot.

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RE: Training to cum on command - 10/29/2008 1:43:47 PM

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I just can't understand how this is possible without any physical stimulation? far be it from me to dispute what anyone else says about their own experiences- this is purely based upon my own- but whilst I have been trained to wait for permission and can therefore orgasm when commanded, it is only after a period of sexual physical contact that this is possible. I am quite interested in the training process to come on command with no touching whatsoever and I am incredibly envious of those for whom this ability comes naturally.

perhaps this will help as an explanation

imagine your favorite desert. how rich and creamy, sweet and delightful against your tongue. im sure if you think of it, your mouth starts to water just from the memory. well, your body can get wet and excited from memories too. the memory of his touch, his kiss, the power, how he holds you, caresses you... maybe even dominates you, knowing you inside and out as no other. you know he has that control, that ability, and as soon as your body heats to those memories, it is ready to explode... with that one simple command.

personally, i have been commanded without warning, in the middle of an argument, while talking with co-workers, ect... all the same. after 8 years, guess my programming is too deeply inbedded... and i love every minute of it!

tazzy

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RE: Training to cum on command - 10/29/2008 6:08:50 PM

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when i have my jerkoff stroke i count and when i get to the number he is to cum...

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RE: Training to cum on command - 10/29/2008 8:37:10 PM

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imagine your favorite desert. how rich and creamy, sweet and delightful against your tongue. im sure if you think of it, your mouth starts to water just from the memory. well, your body can get wet and excited from memories too. the memory of his touch, his kiss, the power, how he holds you, caresses you... maybe even dominates you, knowing you inside and out as no other. you know he has that control, that ability, and as soon as your body heats to those memories, it is ready to explode... with that one simple command.

I get what I call sex flashbacks, where I can be sitting in meetings at work, talking to a client, etc., and suddenly have a vivid memory that I can physically feel. (This is exactly like the rape flashbacks I used to get, but happier. ; ) So maybe I have potential to learn this? I am sooooo jealous of all of you who can do this! I've been begging my beloved for years to try this with me.

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RE: Training to cum on command - 10/29/2008 11:33:00 PM

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I think for many people being voice sensitive helps.... Ive always been able to get aroused by the sound of someones voice It wasnt a hard step with someone that already aroused me to learn to cum on command.... Two years after our relationship ended I hooked up over voice with him one night and tried and true it still worked..... To this day I still tend to wait for permission to cum ... It feels comfortable to me...

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RE: Training to cum on command - 10/30/2008 9:31:09 AM

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ORIGINAL: velvetluxe

I just can't understand how this is possible without any physical stimulation? far be it from me to dispute what anyone else says about their own experiences- this is purely based upon my own- but whilst I have been trained to wait for permission and can therefore orgasm when commanded, it is only after a period of sexual physical contact that this is possible. I am quite interested in the training process to come on command with no touching whatsoever and I am incredibly envious of those for whom this ability comes naturally.

Focus, and a good "imagination". I am long distance, you take what you can get. It's largely a mental thing for me, getting there, anyway, so I guess it's just a matter of getting into my head in the right way, and he's good at that.

I find it.. comforting.. somehow? The unsettling part is the lack of joy when he's not around. Usually this tends to be generally anticipatory, as I know he's going to be around sooner or later, so I've stopped trying to figure that part out or fight it. If I have to wait too long for him to be around though, I can umm.. get a little on the mean side. Thankfully, he's pretty understanding of that!

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RE: Training to cum on command - 10/30/2008 11:27:04 AM

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exactly faith

if i go too long without the permission to cum, i actually can do so from a dream. dreaming of someone from my past, the command slips, and off i go, typically waking up to the most delicious waves to.. well... you get my point

tazzy

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RE: Training to cum on command - 10/30/2008 1:22:13 PM

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Ya know, tazzy, I was actually wondering the other day if women can have wet dreams as well. This answers that question.

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