MsCfromMelbourne
Posts: 777
Joined: 2/15/2007 Status: offline
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I don't understand why any Domme would not have her new sub's cell phone number and the right to ring him any time she likes for any reason she likes. Maybe I am a bit intrusive and over-controlling......lol Plenty of subs haven't made it out of the starters gate. No 1 - not taking down his adds from the net once we have met. I expect the trolling to stop immediately and not resume until the relationships hasn't worked out No 2 - maintaining intimate relationships (not necessarily sexual) with other Dommes without my OK. All the ex-Dommes and "hovering" Dommes have to meet me in person and get my OK as alpha female in the new power triangle. No 3 - totally incompatible kinks. Why would a sub that hates pain pursue a sadist? Because any Mistress is better than no Mistress? Its just silly and the BDSM stinks (coz no-one is having a good time) No 4 - bad manners, tells lies, lazy, cheap, forgetting to ring or - worse - standing you up, not over his ex yet, the ex isn't really his ex yet, puts you down, - these are all reasons to kick a new guy to the kerb whether you are kinky or vanilla. He just doesn't respect you and if he doesnt respect you in the early days, it ain't going to get better, believe me. No 5 - secretive. I just don't like it. If I am the dominant, why can't I know where you live, where you work and your phone number. You know those things about me. If BDSM is all about trust, sneaky and secretive is a big red warning flag the guy is no good. No 6 - sleazy. Look, the sad truth is that plenty of promiscuous and shallow sex addicts troll pretending to be subs. The saddest part is that they really believe their own BS and can be pretty convincing as "subs". Dating someone who cannot stop sleazing after other women is just awful and eventually would demolish any Domme's self esteem. Having wasted 2 years of my life in the 90s on a handsome, kinky sleaze, nowdays I dump a sub as soon as I see his "sex appeal" and "infectious charm" thinly disguises a sleazy nature Second chance? Not usually. I tend to tell someone exactly why I am not interested in them any more. Brutal honesty works for me. Sometimes my judgement is wrong, but if I have "gone off" a guy, there's nothing he can really do to revive my interest. There's too many other sweet, kind, well-behaved subs out there to waste more time on the duds.
< Message edited by MsCfromMelbourne -- 10/25/2007 6:53:54 AM >
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