xaria
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Joined: 1/24/2006 From: USA Status: offline
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ORIGINAL: maclough ... What are your views on mentoring? i, personally, feel that mentoring can be great. i love the feeling of sitting down with someone new to the lifestyle and talking with them. i see giving advice and sharing experience is a form of mentoring. i don't feel that mentoring *has* to be something formal. It can be informal in that we share our advice and experience to help someone on their way to finding out who they are. It should always be given in a way that they know it is just that, sharing. It's about helping them to find their individual wants and needs. Because we're all individuals and not everyone will need the same things. So, telling them the way to do things and saying, "this is the right way to be a sub/slave" is completely wrong. There is no one right way. There's only a right way for what is best for your individual needs. And saying that, it can change over time. Limits change, people change...so stating or making someone believe there is only one way is the wrong advice to give in my opinion. quote:
ORIGINAL: maclough ...are you willing to help out those obvious newbies out there or are you more apt to shrug them off? For those newbies out there are you the sort who thinks... "wow advice from experience is awesome" or more like "pfft they don't know any more than me"? I'm just curious If someone doesn't seek advice, then why try to give it. You can offer someone help, but if they deny it, don't press it. There's no use to "beat a dead horse" by trying to force your views upon someone. Maybe they are looking for advice, but not from just anyone. Maybe they're not looking for advice at all, they have already done their research. Whatever their reasons, respect them.
< Message edited by xaria -- 10/30/2007 2:27:50 AM >
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