Heartisan
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Joined: 10/21/2007 From: Denver, CO Status: offline
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I would feel as if there was a sword over me, worrying every day if this were the day that need would come over my partner all the time knowing this relationship couldn't last. quote:
IMOHO that would be more a matter of your trust issues with that partner than your partner's varied desires. I am bi.. but I don't NEED to have a male AND a female partner. It's one pool to me, sexy is sexy whether it male or female... and love is love. I love a person, not what genitals they happen to have. Which means, I can be with one or the other and be faithful and monogamous if that is what we agree is right for us. Same goes as a switch, I don't HAVE to be both, the difference is in the person I am with. I choose to be poly mainly because my Master was not wanting monogamy when I met him, and I have grown to like being poly, but if he had wanted to be monogamous, I would have considered that as well. When I commit, I commit forever... but in my past, it's usualy my partner who changed and not so much me usually. I know who I am, and I know what I want and I do resent the fact that you feel I have less of a chance to be in a committed long term relationship with someone because I might suddenly *switch* and change my mind. Non lifestyle example: College student has a double major of medicine and law because of an equal interest in both. After graduation they choose to practice medicine, does that mean they can't be fulfilled in that occupation because they have an interest in law? Or that they are more likely to someday just decide to dump medicine and practice law than anyone else who decides to change professions at some point in their lives? I like people, I like experiences and learning about new things. Even if it is something I am not interested in, I am interested in maybe getting to know someone who is so I can learn about their perspective, and possiblity discover something new I never encountered before. I am me, always and forever who I am... and I can commit as much as anyone. If a pairing is good, then there is trust and trust should be what makes you secure, not what desires that person may have had or has. One can have desires but not need to act on them in order to be fulfilled. Also, in my opinion anyone that thinks they can fulfil a person's every single need and desire on their own could be heading for some disappointment along the way.
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Jewel Bi, Poly, and Switch... I don't believe in limiting my options "I'm a bitch, I'm a tease, I'm a goddess on my knees"... Meredith Brooks "The Bitch"
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