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RE: Alpha slaves? - 3/24/2008 9:46:42 PM

sweetnitedreams

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I believe this comes down to the intent. I was collared within a family of 6 other sisters (4 collars and 3 mentees). At first I and the others were told there is no Alpha,,,,then there is an unspoken Alpha then there is a declared Alpha. To much instability which created choas, competition, deceit, and jealousy. I was with this family for about 6- years....then asked to be released. too much.
After being released, major mandates for me were no poly no alpha etc.
With a little distance since then I have seen witin my local community how poly whether structured or non works. The intent of how the sub or slave is coming in is known up front....and usually what I see is that people find their way to the types of family they seek.
On a personal note, I know I will not seek nor ask entrance within a family that has a hierarchy. For me no I will not enter as a beta nor will I agree to vagueness / deceit. I am not saying that an hierarchy is bad, I am saying I know it is not the right place for me. Now in regards to the vagueness, It is not deceit if you are entering something new and learning and growing however when the instability comes more from the intent then there is a problem and that includes the deceit. Hope that makes sense.

Like I said I have seen both type of families that work. The question I feel a Dominant as well as a submissive should ask theirself is "is this right for me"

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SweetDreams

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RE: Alpha slaves? - 3/25/2008 5:19:03 AM

ThunderRoad

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One of the problems we are having in our relationship as we define our poly dynamics is this. In my view, I see my girls as equal. I love them both deeply. One, whom I will marry in August, is a switch. The second is pure sub and probably slave in reality.

My fiance' has problems understanding how I can see them as "equal". After all, Little Mew is a slave and "lesser", plus she's not the one I'm going to marry after all.

So we talk about it and such and work through it. But I've made it known I won't accept any ultimatums.

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