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simplyserves -> RE: What do you consider the benefits of slavery are? (12/8/2007 1:36:52 AM)
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It really depends a lot on the form of slavery as that word as little inherent meaning outside of a historical context. In D/s it's really all over the place, but since you qualified this with "asked 'you' what you felt" I'll answer from my own experiences.
When I first began exploring D/s with the intention of practicing it, the benefits of slavery seemed mainly that it would imply a continuous and consistent relationship but deeper considerations were lost in a haze of masturbation and fantasy. The benefit, at the time, seemed to be the severity or seriousness, if you prefer.
Eventually I started seeing it as having little benefit to me and only benefiting the woman I might serve. Again, this was the result of (in)experience through theory and much more based on a somewhat underlying and negative view as to a dominant's motives. Those being selfish and malevolent. Now, this was exciting, but beneficial? Not in retrospect.
Then I meet a dominant woman who was also a dominant, if we differentiate them and use dominant as a title or statement of purpose. I'd meet, known and served lots of dominant women. Some destructive, some benign. Some exploitative and some playful. All I would call dominant but none I would call "a dominant", or to put it another way, someone who wants and understands the responsibility of ownership. As I began to see the difference I began to appreciate the benefits of slavery as a lifestyle.
Now I would say the benefit, to me is that there would be someone who would take responsibility for my well being. Someone who appreciates that I am kinky, but has a larger vision of what I can be and whom I've given the ability to shape that in me. Slavery is not unconditional, but it is deep reaching, affirming and is a bond that can all but make it so.
The practical benefits for me would be that this person can control my urges, and those can be some pretty messy urges, while allowing me to be fulfilled and be useful. I can masturbate all day or run from woman to woman forever and never have made the impact, either to myself or them, that I can by truly serving one person. The importance of this can be easily overlooked but it's of enormous benefit to know you're doing something meaningful.
Now is slavery more meaningful then just general submission? Maybe but it's not better or worse in the same sense that caring for someone but not "taking care of them" doesn't diminish that or how you care for them.
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