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RE: Watching men masturbate/forcing them to - 1/7/2008 8:25:15 AM

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i have to say that the only mistress i ever had, would make me mastebate while on my knees and cum over her toes and then watched me lick them clean, and she must have loved that cause she made me do it often enough.

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RE: Watching men masturbate/forcing them to - 1/7/2008 6:00:13 PM

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Hear tell males (including male doms--imagine that!) also like watching fem subs masturbate. Who knew?

Seriously, who doesn't like watching their favorite sex objects masturbate, come all over the floor, and then lick it up after their bad, nasty selves?

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RE: Watching men masturbate/forcing them to - 1/8/2008 5:50:14 PM

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Masturbating on to her feet and licking it clean, I've done... She would also invited her friend over and they both watched me.

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RE: Watching men masturbate/forcing them to - 1/8/2008 6:13:47 PM

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For about a year now Fox has been under orders to try masturbating in new positions or with new techniques. Every month or every other month I then ask him how it is going and have him perform for me, getting his feedback and watching how it works.

The point is to make him more versatile because years of doing it one way almost made him unable to experience orgasm any other way. Not terribly useful to me.

But what would one expect when he'd been masturbating for 7 years before he met me useful only that one technique and one position?

Until he can do this in other positions frankly there hasn't been much to watch -- he did i on his stomach you see so I couldn't see anything but a wiggly butt.

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RE: Watching men masturbate/forcing them to - 1/8/2008 6:18:07 PM

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Do you enjoy making a man masturbate while you watch?
Is it only fun if you are doing something sadistic to him?
Do you watch what he is doing, or watch his eyes or expression or something else?

1) Yes, as you said if it's the right man in the right situation.
2) No, it's fun at other times.
3) All of those things, I enjoy watching the entirety of it.

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RE: Watching men masturbate/forcing them to - 1/8/2008 7:01:29 PM

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I would love that but, unfortunately, I don't get to see that much. :/
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RE: Watching men masturbate/forcing them to - 1/8/2008 7:08:19 PM

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ORIGINAL: AAkasha

I've recently taken a renwed interested in watching men masturbate, especially if it's under pressure, or in bondage or some uncomfortable position, or there's something otherwise diabolical about it. For a long time I kind of didn't pay much attention to it, but it was something I did a lot many years ago. I'm curious how many other femdoms enjoy watching a man masturbate. Funny, it's one of those things that has NO appeal if it's fairly generic (just random guys, or in porn), but if it's the right man, and the right scenario (set up by me), I can find it really arousing.

Do you enjoy making a man masturbate while you watch?
Is it only fun if you are doing something sadistic to him?
Do you watch what he is doing, or watch his eyes or expression or something else?

Akasha

Sounds good and all i have to do is sign up,well please hurry and get me a pen lol.On a more serious note intense wanking while a lady is being very sadistic and cruel to you,while wanking can be most arousing i think.

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RE: Watching men masturbate/forcing them to - 1/8/2008 7:18:32 PM

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ORIGINAL: wankerforuse

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ORIGINAL: AAkasha

I've recently taken a renwed interested in watching men masturbate, especially if it's under pressure, or in bondage or some uncomfortable position, or there's something otherwise diabolical about it. For a long time I kind of didn't pay much attention to it, but it was something I did a lot many years ago. I'm curious how many other femdoms enjoy watching a man masturbate. Funny, it's one of those things that has NO appeal if it's fairly generic (just random guys, or in porn), but if it's the right man, and the right scenario (set up by me), I can find it really arousing.

Do you enjoy making a man masturbate while you watch?
Is it only fun if you are doing something sadistic to him?
Do you watch what he is doing, or watch his eyes or expression or something else?

Akasha

Sounds good and all i have to do is sign up,well please hurry and get me a pen lol.On a more serious note intense wanking while a lady is being very sadistic and cruel to you,while wanking can be most arousing i think.

cruelty can be quite deliciously addicting

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RE: Watching men masturbate/forcing them to - 1/8/2008 7:40:13 PM

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i can't answer the question fully since i'm a sub, but i think watching a man masturbate is one of the great wonders of the world, but then again i think the penis is one of the most gorgeous things i've ever seen. i like to see the transformation from soft to hard, the sounds, the expressions...i like the whole process and think it is erotic as hell.

I couldn't have said it better myself.

Ohhhhhhhh yeaaaahhhhh, mmmmmmmmmm OHHHHHHHH YEAAAAHHHHH! I LOVE watching a man masturbate! The sounds, the expressions, the motions, the cum! Restraint is so hard for me then. If he'd let me, I'd be all over that cock like it was some Popeye's Chicken!

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RE: Watching men masturbate/forcing them to - 1/8/2008 7:46:55 PM

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ORIGINAL: Reigna

Hear tell males (including male doms--imagine that!) also like watching fem subs masturbate. Who knew?

Seriously, who doesn't like watching their favorite sex objects masturbate, come all over the floor, and then lick it up after their bad, nasty selves?

humm.....that last part, having the subbie lick it up after they are done. i do love the way You think! been there, done that. but to date, not from the floor, only from boots and a hand once or twice.

since the excitement level for a guy drops a great deal after he cums, the insistance to clean up after does take a bit, but once the deed is done, it tends to get me right back up again..

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RE: Watching men masturbate/forcing them to - 1/8/2008 7:53:28 PM

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Considering that there is some societal issues with masturbation, how would you deal with a man who was raised to think of it as something dirty to be hidden away and ashamed of if he must do it at all? i understand that part of the appeal can be the humiliation aspect, but if he is to embarrassed to perform effectively with an audience (even and audience of one he loves and respects); how do you work through that? Do you simply demand he does it, or do you have some method to ease him into the idea and the act; and would you reinforce the humiliation if he is unable to get it up or off while you watch?

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RE: Watching men masturbate/forcing them to - 1/8/2008 10:02:18 PM

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This activity is so luscious to me that it's all but a requirement. Many men are shy about it at first, but their shyness isn't that hard to overcome. You do it gradually, step-wise. In the case of a sub who's somewhere in the region of phobic about masturbating in front of another person, you do it very gradually, baby-step-wise. You follow the basic principles of desensitization to any phobia, the idea being to desensitize the shy sub to another person's presence while masturbating.

In one case, early on the sub and I would have a lovely evening, playing and enjoying ourselves. And then I'd leave. I'd tell him that I fully expected him to masturbate when I left, and I required him to email me a lengthy and detailed report immediately afterward. A lot of people are ashamed of masturbating, and like to pretend they don't. Just recognizing and insisting on the reality gets past a major mental barrier. Back to the sub, once he was used to talking and writing about masturbating, I'd have him go without an orgasm for twice as long as he was used to. We'd play and then I'd close myself into an adjoining room and have him masturbate. Then with the door open. then ... well, you get the idea.

It's hard to specify a program because each person and each situation is different. But it's almost certainly doable, given time and patience. And it's a most worthwhile project.

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RE: Watching men masturbate/forcing them to - 1/9/2008 5:15:44 AM

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ORIGINAL: AAkasha

Do you enjoy making a man masturbate while you watch?
Is it only fun if you are doing something sadistic to him?
Do you watch what he is doing, or watch his eyes or expression or something else?

Akasha

1    Yes, it is extremely intimate and can be very romantic (with the right man)

2   Masturbating does seem to increase pain endurance, but at a certain level pain distracts and/or makes it hard to orgasm. So I like playing with that balance. But its fun without pain play too

3    Watch? I join in!! There's nipples to be licked, balls to be tickled....all kinds of distractions and torments to be inflicted.......sitting serenely to watch the whole show requires lady-like restraint and poise that I do not possess

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RE: Watching men masturbate/forcing them to - 1/9/2008 5:43:16 AM

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ORIGINAL: darchChylde

Considering that there is some societal issues with masturbation, how would you deal with a man who was raised to think of it as something dirty to be hidden away and ashamed of if he must do it at all? i understand that part of the appeal can be the humiliation aspect, but if he is to embarrassed to perform effectively with an audience (even and audience of one he loves and respects); how do you work through that? Do you simply demand he does it, or do you have some method to ease him into the idea and the act; and would you reinforce the humiliation if he is unable to get it up or off while you watch?

I think this is like most societal training -- it requires consistent, positive feedback to help someone become comfortable.

Perhaps holding the person as well, adding your own touches (not genital since he is learning to perform) such as stroking hair/head, caressing leg/arm would help as well.

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RE: Watching men masturbate/forcing them to - 1/12/2008 1:10:41 AM

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An ex Mistress used to have me masturbate for Her on quite a frequent basis. Many times it was for Her and Her friends. Invariably i was gagged, blinfolded and bound with only my masturbating hand free. She would poke and prod me which really did throw me off 'my stride'! They would laugh and make disparaging comments making it difficult to focus on the job in hand (no pun intended!). i of course had to ask permission to cum, not always granted on the first request. When i did cum, lying on my back, it would go all over my face and chest. My free hand was quickly bound back to the bed and i would be left to contemplate my submission while my cum dried.

Obviously She enjoyed it, she had me do it over and over again!

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RE: Watching men masturbate/forcing them to - 1/12/2008 3:37:53 PM

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I love to make a sub do forced masturbation - especially with tease and denial. For Christmas, had a few do the "12 days of x-mas" exercise where they had to do it 12 times (not in my presence obviously - on their own) but then STOP right at the point when they were about to release, then squeeze their balls and pull them away from their body until the feeling subsides. After they have completed the 12th time -they were to call me - wish me a "merry x-mas" and then ask for permission to release - which fortunately, I wasn't feeling like Scrooge and granted. Muah ha ha - according to their journal entries, they had mind blowing orgasms with their nuts hurting for hours - my gift to them, in turn, I got their submission and total power as their gift to me. Not quite the "Gift of the Maji" but all happy nonetheless

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RE: Watching men masturbate/forcing them to - 1/13/2008 6:14:11 AM

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yes i think dominant females love to watch sub males jerk off. especially under pressure.

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RE: Watching men masturbate/forcing them to - 1/16/2008 5:57:00 PM

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Some interesting links from the Iron Rose library on these topics ( making masturbation humiliating) some are way hotter than others but i thought it was worth a mention.

http://www.iron-rose.com/IR/docs/embi.htm
http://www.iron-rose.com/IR/docs/embii.htm

#9 is spicy!

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RE: Watching men masturbate/forcing them to - 1/17/2008 2:47:45 AM

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Nice link, thanks! I especially like all the ones with dice rolls. Being a D&D gamer, now I know better uses for those d20's than just rolling spot checks! lol Can't wait to implement some of these!

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RE: Watching men masturbate/forcing them to - 1/17/2008 5:53:43 AM

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Let him kneel in front of you and masturbate looking into your eyes and slap his face - it looks fine.

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