MsCfromMelbourne
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Everything they said plus Try to meet the Domme over coffee really quickly. Or at a local BDSM club or event if she prefers. Prove straight up that you are not a time waster like 99% of the men here.* Obviously to be credible, approach women in the Berkley area. No-one really believes all those "willing to relocate" tales. Impress her, amuse her (easy for a clever boy like you, I am sure!) and encourage her to talk about the lifestyle (likes, dislikes). Let her see what an beautiful and genuine submissive man you are. She might not be attracted to you, but you will have made a friend. Email/IM is too limited as a medium for communication. She will tire of your eager questions (and there's a million other young and not-so-young men bombarding us with eager questions about BDSM. Everybody wants free titillation) Knowing you as a person is vastly different to you being just another Man-Looking-for-Mistress. Stand out from the competition. The Mistress might only want you for casual play, not full blown D/s "training" that takes years. Don't look a gift horse in the mouth, OK? I recommend you take what little is on offer to gather some experience, but don't fall apart of a broken heart of this doesn't bloom into a "relationship". I like playing with well behaved, pretty young men. My biggest problem is they always want more. And not sex (like sleazy older, jaded men). More. They want to be collared. They want to be loved. They want to live with me 24/7. Its romantic, but totally unrealistic given the age/lifestyle difference. Good luck * My sub male friends complain that they cannot get some Dommes from collarme to leave the computer and go for coffee. Even some Dommes that write here on these boards and give the impression that they meet and know a lot of sub men (mostly, lousy sub men!). No-one in their local scene has actually ever met them. These women waste their suitor's time with lengthy email exchange then gleefully reject the male with excuses like "it takes too much effort to train a newcomer" or "it takes to much effort to break the habits you learned in previous training". Do you see how you cannot win? Its best to flush a "Domme" off the computer and into a public place pretty quickly. If she says no, graciously move on fast. Don't come back to collarme bitching that you cannot find a real Mistress. Just accept that in an anonymous online service like this, about 90% are having a "I Wanna Be a Twue Mistress" fantasy of their own and get a big kick out of being pursued by strangers online. C'est la vie.
< Message edited by MsCfromMelbourne -- 1/18/2008 5:58:33 PM >
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