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RE: "How did you meet?" - Or what you tell p... - 2/22/2008 2:08:29 AM

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ORIGINAL: HerLord

My Love was my boss at work... That did not work out so well... My Love wasn't so good at ordering me around. I think this is how I knew My Love was mine to... (just fill in the rest with imagination)

Rolling my eyes. Shaking my head. He makes it sound like he clubbed me and dragged to me to his cave.

I was his boss, and I was BRILLIANT at bossing him around (still am), he just doesn't know how to listen. (Still doesn't.

)

He walked into my office for an initial howdy do, and I made him laugh. He invited me over for whiskey, which I knew was a bad idea, but I went anyway. He proclaimed that in three weeks I would be his, stolen from another man. *sigh* I hate to stroke his already enormous ego any more than necessary, but he was right to the day.

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RE: "How did you meet?" - Or what you tell p... - 2/22/2008 2:28:59 AM

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How I actually met them :

I was at a fetish fair a long way from home with a guy I was in a semi unserious D/s thingy sort of with. I had been talking to a woman about my tattoo outside and she had called me concieted. I went to the loos. My first words to Sir were "god i cant get used to unisex toliets, they freak me out" He gave me a funny look and nodded curtly and walked away. I then asked f if talking about my tattoo was concieted she mumbled something and ran away. I thought that was it. I went outside and bumped into a guy I know from another forum and offered him a drink, when I came back Sir and f were talking to him, turned out I had actually spoken to them both before on this forum but didnt realise it was them. I was pretty much inseperable from f right away and thought Sir was totally up himself (a quality I now love) f asked me up to visit and the rest, as they say is history.

What I tell people:

Well its a poly relationship so no one actually knows im involved with anyone, my parents think i am having an affair with Sir behind f's back. I told them that I have known them for years through a friend but never really spoke to them properly until recently, this helps my folks not worry so much and not try to persuade me not to move up there. My sisters are a bit more aware of whats going on but sort of clow it off and say "yeah its just an orgy isnt it". Every time i meet someone from one of these sites I always say I have known them for ages and met them through someone, i really do need to come up with a new excuse.

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RE: "How did you meet?" - Or what you tell p... - 2/22/2008 2:44:55 AM

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I met my slave years ago before either of us were in the lifestyle in a yahoo chat room. We met went on our first date and that was that. Later in the relationship I got in to the lifestyle and then a little while after that he got in to it as well and became my slave. Two of the happiest days of my life.

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RE: "How did you meet?" - Or what you tell p... - 2/22/2008 3:25:09 AM

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Darcy and I met and conversed on myspace - yeah - that 'horrible, nasty myspace full of teenagers and badbad people'
We met physically at KinkFest which we arranged. Either way we tell people openly how and where we met if they ask.

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RE: "How did you meet?" - Or what you tell p... - 2/22/2008 3:49:58 AM

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ORIGINAL: ownedgirlie

"I met him on a message board."

That sums it up pretty nicely.

Sir and I met on an erotic story site called Literotica. I joined a few months after He did and we started posting in some of the same threads and became friends. After a few months we started sending messages and emails to each other and it was then He told me He was a Dom...lol ignorant me had to ask what that was!

To cut a long story short we met in r/l just over a year after we met on the site, and decided to set up home together. I moved from rural New Zealand to Sydney Australia a couple of days before Australia Day (Jan 26) 2004. We married in December 2006

If people ask where we met, I tell them we met on an internet site. If they ask what kind of site, I tell them it is an erotic story site - haven't yet had a bad reaction, although I haven't told my 71 year old mother that part!

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RE: "How did you meet?" - Or what you tell p... - 2/22/2008 4:01:14 AM

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I met my Sir on Adult Friend Finder. i was a non paying member. He messaged me and said he viewed my profile but was too tired for anything but one word. "Yum". I wrote back and told him to get some more sleep as I was worth more words. He wrote back with more as he was happy about my sarcastic wit. The rest is history. I told my parents and a few others we met at srarbucks. He doesnt drink coffee. But it makes sense as he works across the street from where I work in downtown chicago.

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RE: "How did you meet?" - Or what you tell p... - 2/22/2008 4:44:34 AM

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how i met my hubby isnt too normal either....i had a weekend my roomies were going to be gone, and i told my friend tom that either he was sleeping on my couch or i was sleeping on his. wolf was his roommate. 15 days later we were married.

and actually all my other partners over the last 10 years or so i've met online. and that's how i've said it, "met online". my mama still thinks i'm a bit nuts...last year i went to dinner with friends (guy and his wife) i've known a year or so and she was certain i was going to be meeting some axe murderer!

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RE: "How did you meet?" - Or what you tell p... - 2/22/2008 4:49:25 AM

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Master and I met here on CM almost four years ago and we have been real time for over three years. I tell anyone that asks that we met on an adult alternative lifechoice website. That way the door is open if they want to ask more questions and if not they usually say how nice and let it go at that.

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RE: "How did you meet?" - Or what you tell p... - 2/22/2008 4:51:31 AM

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I feel left out.

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RE: "How did you meet?" - Or what you tell p... - 2/22/2008 5:02:58 AM

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awwwwwwww Dnomyar, you can tell everybody you met me through mutual friends? I'll be your beard until you find the right one, ok?

For real, I have been in 12 step programs, and my former sponsor always said that... "We met through mutual friends." whenever anybody asked. I find it is the easiest thing to say about anybody.

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RE: "How did you meet?" - Or what you tell p... - 2/22/2008 5:04:41 AM

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hubby and i met on another adult site, he emailed me because he saw that i lived pretty close to him and we became friends; chatted/emailed/talked on the phone for a couple months, moved in together and that is that. been almost six years since that first email. i tell people we met online in a chat room. when anyone comments about that being dangerous i ask them how safe is it to go on a blind date or meet someone just shopping at the grocery store or wal-mart? usually shuts them up pretty quickly.

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RE: "How did you meet?" - Or what you tell p... - 2/22/2008 5:32:22 AM

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My wife and I actually met through B.com, back when it was actually worth using, but it was nothing more than a friendship as I had contacted her privately in support of an issue she'd brought up in a forum post. Nothing more came of it until eventually she came out to visit my then wife (now ex) as they'd been speaking quite a bit. Eventually after my marriage was ending she was my support and we've been together since.

My family knows my lifestyle choices so I don't really have to make excuses but in mixed company we just say we met online and had been friends for a long time. Nothing more ever needs to be said.

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RE: "How did you meet?" - Or what you tell p... - 2/22/2008 6:41:59 AM

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Master and I met through the Camarilla, a Vampire LARP Game he held at his house, he spent most of the night monopolizing me and my character. We emailed back and forth a couple of times as a friend of muine was looking for a custom made flogger and Master makes them and he decided to come up Memorial Day for the Weekend of Gaming I was running. The rest is history. Anyone who asks gets told we met through the Camarilla playing vampires. I think they would understand a BDSM club far easier than grown people running around playing undead creatures of the night.

poenkitten

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RE: "How did you meet?" - Or what you tell p... - 2/22/2008 7:44:22 AM

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I met my Sir on Literotica, in the Authors Forum, when I was looking for an editor for my hot, porn story. That is not exactly something I want to share with my family or vanilla friends, so we tell them that we met on a writing forum when I was looking for help on my nice, romantic story. It helps that he is a retired English professor and really is a writer.

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RE: "How did you meet?" - Or what you tell p... - 2/22/2008 7:52:46 AM

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My Dom and I were friends all throughout High School. But we were only friends, even though he made no attempt to hide the fact that he thought I was hot. It was not until before last summer when he asked me out, Vanilla-ly. He did not know I was kinky, and I thought for at least a month that he was 'nilla. And I wasn't sure what I was going to do about it. But, luckily, it turns out he is horribly Dominant and sadistic. He just never made a direct point of expressing that side of himself to me before we started dating. He gets to let his 'bossman' side out around me. People ask how we met, and we generally say school. It amuses me that I knew him for so many years without thinking about him in the way I do now, which is especially amusing because people ask us all the time when we'll get married because we go together so well.

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RE: "How did you meet?" - Or what you tell p... - 2/22/2008 8:39:09 AM

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ORIGINAL: DominaSmartass

My other thread on vanilla relationships or lack thereof, brought this to mind. My partner and I met at a meeting of the group MAsT (Masters and slaves together) though admittedly we did not turn out to be a Master/slave couple. Anyway, people love to ask a happy couple how they met which I am also curious about in this thread. How did you meet? But there's a twist. If you met like we did, it doesn't work to tell vanilla people the truth (usually!) so where do you actually tell people you met if you can't say "In a dungeon" or whatnot?

For the sake of this discussion. Let's say I met her at a play party. I would not tell my friends where I met her cuz my sex life is private I don't want to hear about other ppls sex life either.

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RE: "How did you meet?" - Or what you tell p... - 2/22/2008 8:50:00 AM

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Master and i met on a vanilla dating website for single parents! Wwe met in person for the first time at a kids playcentre and got on ok, but it wasn't until i found out through a mutual online friend what He was actually into ("Did you know I saw wristcuffs in his bedroom?!") that i grabbed Him lol!!

Gabrielle x

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RE: "How did you meet?" - Or what you tell p... - 2/22/2008 8:53:08 AM

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ORIGINAL: Dnomyar

I feel left out.

Me, too

>>edited to add: But I'm too much of a romantic to quit reading.<<

< Message edited by SubbieOnWheels -- 2/22/2008 8:54:02 AM >

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RE: "How did you meet?" - Or what you tell p... - 2/22/2008 8:59:48 AM

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My owner and I met when he moved into my apartment building. After speaking for some time, he discovered that I was a member of a local munch group here in the city that he had been thinking about joining up with.

So, when others ask how we met; I tell them the truth. We met when he moved into my apartment building

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RE: "How did you meet?" - Or what you tell p... - 2/22/2008 9:58:32 AM

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I met my pet at a fetish event at a nightclub. In a city 100 miles away from my home. The reason I was there was that I offered to help a friend with a ride and help him sell his wares. I don't tell people it was a fetish event and I don't tell them that my friend makes and sells fetish wear, chainmail, whips, chains, bondage tools and floggers. I just tell them he makes and sells jewelery and pretty shiny things. not far from the truth.

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