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RE: Does vulnerability turn you on? Helplessness? Fear?... - 2/27/2008 5:08:44 AM

malloves69

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love the role reversal of strapon play and when my mistress fists me afterwards

can i be anymore vulnerable to her once she slides in me with her fist and she goes in me as deep as possible ?

i give myself completely to her ..the power exchange is amazing we think

she becomes the male ..the agresser ...and with me being either doggy style or on my back with my legs spread for her i become the female in a sense ..she really enjoys it also

whats funny is how relaxed i am after gawd i love our playtime together

for those into strapon play try being fisted by her once she has you relaxed and opened up for her ..and yes enemas are a must

never thought i would enjoy this as much as i do but now im hooked

have fun ..mal

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RE: Does vulnerability turn you on? Helplessness? Fear?... - 2/27/2008 7:23:58 AM

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In a scene trust and the will to submit completely is a huge turn on. In 24/7 life I appreciate a man who can tell it like it is, is able to make decisions for himself and not afraid to be heard. L

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RE: Does vulnerability turn you on? Helplessness? Fear?... - 2/27/2008 8:49:38 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Aswad

quote:

ORIGINAL: PsyVamp

In an M/s relationship, surrender and compliance.

Seconded.

Health,
al-Aswad.

Edit: Didn't realize I'm in the femdom forums. Apologies.

Acknowledging your apology, but it is not needed, anyone is welcome to post here (whether or not they agree with me

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RE: Does vulnerability turn you on? Helplessness? Fear?... - 2/27/2008 8:52:06 AM

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And the more I think about it, the more I remember that vulnerability can be a turn on for me...a whimper will completely change my mind set, it is almost like my brain goes from zero to 60 in a split second.
Nothing brings out the inner sadist as quickly as an almost imperceptible flinch.

Lady Jag

edited because my brain is at 0 at the moment

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RE: Does vulnerability turn you on? Helplessness? Fear?... - 2/29/2008 9:14:06 AM

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For me is obedience the great turn on. Knowing that he or she stay still even if its fucking painfull because he want to please me makes me feel horny, powerfull...and in the inside so gratefull! I dont know how to explain it but something smile inside myself when i see this level of commitment in a session: giving themself completely to other one (in this case me).
Also think that this level of obedience does not come in one night: is a process that has to do with trust and respect, and those things have to be earned :)

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RE: Does vulnerability turn you on? Helplessness? Fear?... - 2/29/2008 9:32:27 AM

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To see a powerful man close the door behind him, strip and kneel before me leaves me breathless and aroused. It's the promise fulfilled of his obedience, trust and submission, but also the anticipation of my sexual bliss, guaranteed.

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RE: Does vulnerability turn you on? Helplessness? Fear?... - 2/29/2008 5:59:26 PM

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I don't know that vulnerability affects me so much on a primal level as much as it does emotionally.

I've always placed a lot of importance on knowing what my partner is thinking and feelings, and being able to understand those emotions and thoughts. It's just kind of my thing -- to me, it's a form of intimacy that not even the best, kinkiest sex in the world could match.

I hold vulnerability, and the ability to SHOW "authentic" vulnerability, to be synonymous with real love and affection. As much of a hardass as I can appear to be, beneath that surface is a woman who just wants to be able to lean back and say "Wow. He really loves me enough to show me this side of himself, which obviously is hard for him to do... but he trusts and loves me enough to do it anyway." It touches me to the very depths of my soul and reminds me every time it happens just how lucky I am to have the submissive that I do.

Perhaps this places higher on my list of priorities than it does for other people because of the underlying nature of my relationship with my submissive -- he is, regardless of kink, the man that I will spend the rest of my life with. That's not to say that those in purely kinky relationships are in the wrong, or not viable as emotional creatures... but I have to wonder if it has a specific effect on how important vulnerability is to me.

I've never been able to get off without some degree of love and devotion being involved. This is why I fail so miserably at one-night stands -- I crave a deep connection with the person I'm with, and even more so when pulling D/s into it, which in my opinion requires so much trust and respect to be successful. That vulnerability is pretty much the lynchpin in it all, an almost tangible representation of that emotional link between me and my darling pet.

Funny that this should be posted when it was. I've been kicking around thoughts like these in my head for the past few days in trying to effectively "map out" my dominance. Being able to respond has helped sort things out quite a bit for me... thank you.

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