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RE: Daddies - 4/27/2008 3:33:47 PM

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There are so many meanings to the name 'Daddy' that one must ask the people involved what they mean by it to know for sure.

I began, with this partner, simply as a rope bottom, calling him by his first name. Then we tried some other names, and then a couple of years into our relationship I called him Daddy on accident and he melted, and he's been that ever since. We do not do age play. We are a full time power exchange. He is very caring, guiding, and that sort of thing, so he connects with Daddy much more than Master, which causes him to feel he shouldn't be quite as nurturing. It helps him, makes him very happy, and I like it too, so works for us.

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RE: Daddies - 4/27/2008 3:38:55 PM

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I found it hard to call him Daddy in the beginning... now I can't imagine calling him anything else...

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RE: Daddies - 4/27/2008 4:29:01 PM

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my Master has strong paternal feelings towards me, in the same way that His presence in my life inspires the little girl to come to the surface.. It occupies a large part of our dynamic.. But it wasn't something that either of us were particularly seeking when we met.

"Daddy" is a word that came naturally to us. It wasn't demanded or particularly desired. It just happened, it evolved, it was accepted. If it's natural i don't see what could possibly be so wrong with it? And in particular why in this "day and age"..

If that was wrong in itself.. would that make the fact that i enjoy resistance play with my Daddy when my little girl is particularly close to the surface really wrong i wonder?
Perhaps thats the kind of thing you are referring to when you mentioned "what may go on in a D/s relationship"..

Actually.. in my experience, if you look at the traditional "Dominant" role within a D/s relationship then you find many aspects of that would naturally tie in with a paternal relationship anyway. For example: the caring aspects, every child needs boundaries, discipline, security, guidance.. As do submissives..
So it would seem to me that the amount of "Daddy" Dom's being referred to in profiles on the other side is actually quite normal, as it does just slot in so well.

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RE: Daddies - 4/27/2008 4:38:23 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: angelspassion4u

quote:

ORIGINAL: lusciouslips19

OK, a Daddy Dom is a Male type Dominant Person Who has a strong Fathering urge,the counter part of the Mother Hen syndrome I would believe, How ever in D/s When the Daddy Dom takes a submissive, He treats her rather like a little girl(see the next page to find out more about the little girl sub) He guides, teaches AND.. offers her what she needs most of all, unconditional love and acceptance. In my view a Daddy Dom is the most tender of Dominants. He loves His little girl with an unwaivering and passionate Love that is timeless.
     His little girl is His sunshine the bright spot in His life. He wants nothing more than to pull her close and protect her from the cruel world. But knowing He can not, He guides and teaches her helping her to be ready for this world. And then He waits, knowing she will run to Him when she becomes over whelmed and scared by the harshness of it all.
     The Daddy Dom always has His little girl's best interest in mind, He will help her set and reach goals, He will help her improve herself to be the best she can be,not for Him but for herself..and yes He will even at times punish her. This will no doubt break His heart, but He will always do whats best for her.
     The Daddy Dom gains as much joy and excitement from His little girl's daily acomplishment as she herself does. His pride in her shows in the tender loving way He cares for her, she has put that twinkle in His eye.
     The Daddy Dom listens to all her fears and concerns, knowing no matter how silly or childish they may sound to Him, to her they are real and He will help her confront them. He slays her dragons so to speak and He is her Hero for it.
     The Daddy Dom hears all her dreams and desires and all the dirty little secrets, and smiles because she is bold enough and loves Him enough to open herself up so totally to Him, and He kisses her face and holds her close letting her know she is loved no matter what. she is His little girl, and He loves her unconditionaly.
      Even if during scening He brings her great pain to release her pleasures(admit it some like it .. so hush now.) He will cuddle her and show her the tenderness she craves when she needs it., when she feels unsure of herself ,He will whisper encouraging words for her, when she feels ugly He will reasure her how beautiful she is to Him.. when she is scared He will be her saftey ,her medium against the world if need be. Even though she is all woman, she is His little girl and He is her Daddy!
and what to do about it

Bravo!!!! Well said. Smiles

this definition nearly made me cry, it is so, so true .. and so beautifully put .. it defines my relationship with my Master/Daddy perfectly.

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RE: Daddies - 4/27/2008 5:43:32 PM

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yep yep thats what kinda daddy dom i Need ...... yes its beautiful indeed

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RE: Daddies - 4/27/2008 6:27:25 PM

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Can't hardly pass up on this one since i'm mentioned in the thread...lol
Thank you toy btw..lol

I'm a leather Daddy. If you want more information on what that is i suggest you do the research.
For my toy, in our relationship, there is no Age play involved at all.
I'm teacher, confidant, disciplinarian, leader and friend. She is not my "little girl", she's my toy. My favorite toy. I give her the freedom to be what she is and the confidence to grow into what she most wishes to be. I'm the person that she can come to with her innermost wants and desires, her ideas and dreams and her nightmares as well. I never judge, instead i listen and give sound advise. I doubt she could see me as other than her Daddy.
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RE: Daddies - 4/27/2008 6:58:10 PM

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ORIGINAL: Daddyslilpookie

I don't care what age it is my husband/Master has always been Daddy to me ever since we met I was 18 he was 31. He is my Master, protector, teacher, lover, snuggle pal and very best friend. I am sure every other girl here that has a Daddy agrees with me that it is the most intimate kind of power exchange relationship you can have.

100%. I couldn't ask for a better Daddy! I can talk to him about anything and never have to worry about being judged.

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RE: Daddies - 4/27/2008 8:57:09 PM

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ORIGINAL: southerntannedf
nessa just my two cents worth and I hear the price of copper is goign up by the day

Actually nessa 1 cent from 1982 (and before) are worth 3 cents for there copper content alone.... so depending on what cents you have they could be worth 6!

lol I find what we call our partners thought povoking . For me I totally could never call him "Master" if used in a sentence.. "Master take a look at this!" Never! I would feel like Jeanie lol But I don't even hesitate to say Daddy in any form, even in the middle of a festival in small town usa w/ everone in the kingdom there (it's a region before anyone gets upset) I only say Sir when reminded or repremanded but that is the southerner in me coming out... also I have no problem refering to him as my lord and master. But I never refer to him by name directly, only when speaking to a 3rd party about him just to make it easier for the convesation.

I wonder where we pick up these subconsious acceptance or aversions to these names.

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RE: Daddies - 4/27/2008 9:32:16 PM

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lusciouslips19, I just want to say that is the most beautiful and accurate, at least to me, description of a Daddy Dom that I have ever seen. I've been lurking around here for quite some time just reading everyone's posts, but your post actually made me register on this side just to be able to respond to it. If you would be so kind as to message me on the other side (my name there is Daddysgirl217) with the link of the site you obtained this description from I would very much appreciate it. I would love to take a look around there.

I won't even attempt to explain it any further/better than this because I just don't think I can. I hope the OP got the answer(s) he was looking for.

quote:

ORIGINAL: lusciouslips19

OK, a Daddy Dom is a Male type Dominant Person Who has a strong Fathering urge,the counter part of the Mother Hen syndrome I would believe, How ever in D/s When the Daddy Dom takes a submissive, He treats her rather like a little girl(see the next page to find out more about the little girl sub) He guides, teaches AND.. offers her what she needs most of all, unconditional love and acceptance. In my view a Daddy Dom is the most tender of Dominants. He loves His little girl with an unwaivering and passionate Love that is timeless.
     His little girl is His sunshine the bright spot in His life. He wants nothing more than to pull her close and protect her from the cruel world. But knowing He can not, He guides and teaches her helping her to be ready for this world. And then He waits, knowing she will run to Him when she becomes over whelmed and scared by the harshness of it all.
     The Daddy Dom always has His little girl's best interest in mind, He will help her set and reach goals, He will help her improve herself to be the best she can be,not for Him but for herself..and yes He will even at times punish her. This will no doubt break His heart, but He will always do whats best for her.
     The Daddy Dom gains as much joy and excitement from His little girl's daily acomplishment as she herself does. His pride in her shows in the tender loving way He cares for her, she has put that twinkle in His eye.
     The Daddy Dom listens to all her fears and concerns, knowing no matter how silly or childish they may sound to Him, to her they are real and He will help her confront them. He slays her dragons so to speak and He is her Hero for it.
     The Daddy Dom hears all her dreams and desires and all the dirty little secrets, and smiles because she is bold enough and loves Him enough to open herself up so totally to Him, and He kisses her face and holds her close letting her know she is loved no matter what. she is His little girl, and He loves her unconditionaly.
      Even if during scening He brings her great pain to release her pleasures(admit it some like it .. so hush now.) He will cuddle her and show her the tenderness she craves when she needs it., when she feels unsure of herself ,He will whisper encouraging words for her, when she feels ugly He will reasure her how beautiful she is to Him.. when she is scared He will be her saftey ,her medium against the world if need be. Even though she is all woman, she is His little girl and He is her Daddy!

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RE: Daddies - 4/27/2008 11:53:54 PM

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I've heard the word "daddy" used in a totally vanilla song to refer to a lover (it was kind of an old country song... Patsy Cline sang it, it is about being blue since her "daddy" left her...)

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RE: Daddies - 4/28/2008 3:47:01 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: bruisedpetals

quote:

ORIGINAL: angelspassion4u

quote:

ORIGINAL: lusciouslips19

OK, a Daddy Dom is a Male type Dominant Person Who has a strong Fathering urge,the counter part of the Mother Hen syndrome I would believe, How ever in D/s When the Daddy Dom takes a submissive, He treats her rather like a little girl(see the next page to find out more about the little girl sub) He guides, teaches AND.. offers her what she needs most of all, unconditional love and acceptance. In my view a Daddy Dom is the most tender of Dominants. He loves His little girl with an unwaivering and passionate Love that is timeless.
    His little girl is His sunshine the bright spot in His life. He wants nothing more than to pull her close and protect her from the cruel world. But knowing He can not, He guides and teaches her helping her to be ready for this world. And then He waits, knowing she will run to Him when she becomes over whelmed and scared by the harshness of it all.
    The Daddy Dom always has His little girl's best interest in mind, He will help her set and reach goals, He will help her improve herself to be the best she can be,not for Him but for herself..and yes He will even at times punish her. This will no doubt break His heart, but He will always do whats best for her.
    The Daddy Dom gains as much joy and excitement from His little girl's daily acomplishment as she herself does. His pride in her shows in the tender loving way He cares for her, she has put that twinkle in His eye.
    The Daddy Dom listens to all her fears and concerns, knowing no matter how silly or childish they may sound to Him, to her they are real and He will help her confront them. He slays her dragons so to speak and He is her Hero for it.
    The Daddy Dom hears all her dreams and desires and all the dirty little secrets, and smiles because she is bold enough and loves Him enough to open herself up so totally to Him, and He kisses her face and holds her close letting her know she is loved no matter what. she is His little girl, and He loves her unconditionaly.
     Even if during scening He brings her great pain to release her pleasures(admit it some like it .. so hush now.) He will cuddle her and show her the tenderness she craves when she needs it., when she feels unsure of herself ,He will whisper encouraging words for her, when she feels ugly He will reasure her how beautiful she is to Him.. when she is scared He will be her saftey ,her medium against the world if need be. Even though she is all woman, she is His little girl and He is her Daddy!
and what to do about it

Bravo!!!! Well said. Smiles

this definition nearly made me cry, it is so, so true .. and so beautifully put .. it defines my relationship with my Master/Daddy perfectly.

The link is a few pages bac k. I dont remeber it off hand. I did leave the link when this post was started. I think somewhere around page 2 or 3. The reason I cut and pasted was it was print on a dark picture and incredibly difficult to read.

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RE: Daddies - 4/28/2008 3:58:15 PM

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With an idea of what may go on in a D/s relationship, is 'daddy' a good word to use in this present age?

Yes. It's SUPER kink at it's heart-warming, clit-twitching, toe-spasmin', cock-milkin' best!

However, it's not for the faint of heart.

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RE: Daddies - 4/28/2008 4:27:23 PM

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I call my Master "Daddy" at his request. Since being collared He has asked me to call Him Sir during sessions, but if I slip during sex I am not punished.

There is no age play dynamic between us. The closest thing to it is that I am allowed to request permission to sit in His lap at any time. If I get a spanking - whether for maintenance (as He calls it) or punishment, typically I get two spanks and then the area is gently rubbed. I am not a massochist so this is a wonderful way for me. I am never asked to dress younger than my age or to talk baby talk.

The description given early on in the posts is a very apt one for my relationship. He is proud of my accomplishments, both vanilla and lifestyle. He calls me his "shining star", and recently told me that I am a wonderful and perfect slave. I crave appreciation for my service, so this dynamic is perfect for me.

Something that I didn't see mentioned as much is the Mommy Domme. I have played that role for many men. Again, it is not about age play but about going to a mature woman and knowing that She cares enough to guide you, discipline you, and be careful of your feelings. This has been especially effective with newcomers to the lifestyle and to men who are just starting with sissification. They want someone to understand them and help them to accept themselves fully - not to be critical or offensive. I love the role, so it is easy for me to be a slave to a Daddy. I want to know that when I walk out of that session that my Master is still with me in spirit - being my guide, my protector, rejoicing in every good thing that I do or happens to me. This can be found in other styles of Doms, but seems to come more easily to the Daddy's.

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