RainGod
Posts: 230
Joined: 7/11/2005 From: Hendersonville, NC Status: offline
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reanna, Although the usages of terms like "real Dom" and "real submissive" are things that I do not like, they are very popular in online exchanges. I find it disturbing that people are judged as to their validity according to how well they fit another person's needs or desires. I wish it were more popular to say " a Good Dom for me would be..." or "a good submissive for Me would be....". Just because someone does not fit one's needs is no reason to besmudge their image and character. Granted, there truly are some who are clearly not "real", but rather seem to be here facilitate their predatory desires, but it quickly becomes obvious what their true intentions are. As for the question in your post, In My own opinion, the best, and most gallant qualities a Dom can portray lie in the art of even mixtures. Strictness with understanding. Discipline with compassion. Leadership with open eyes...as well as open mind. It would be wrong to leave out some other important qualities such as affection, romance, and human understanding of the emotions involved. I, as a Dom, must endevour to always be a Provider. It is My responsibility to care for those who have entrusted themselves to Me. Another important job is as Protector. I must ensure her safety and wellbeing, never exposing her to things which could be detramental or damaging. Lastly, I believe I should be a fair judge over both her, and over Myself... never living by double standards, or by hypocracy. Hope My opinions help out, but always remember, that just because someone else sees it differently than I does not mean they are "not real". Just different.
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Love is a razor & I walk the line on that silver blade... slept in the dust with His daughter her eyes red with the slaughter of innocence... The evil that men do lives on & on. ~ Iron Maiden
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