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RE: Goreans with Disabilities- Support, Advice, Info, V... - 5/22/2009 11:02:01 AM   
Hiskajirah


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Status: offline 		Greetings kajirus

She does accept your congratulations happily and is thankful for them. ~smiles


Warm wishes,
~twinkle

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If one may offer congratulations on what looks to be a terrific program and a positive attitude, twinkle, he hopes you will accept them.




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RE: Goreans with Disabilities- Support, Advice, Info, V... - 5/22/2009 11:07:04 AM   
Hiskajirah


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Status: offline 		Hi smiley one

Thank you sweetness. She thinks of you often and prays you are healing well. She's felt so busy and busy hasn't even begun yet. ~smiles

Sending a hug your way,
~twinkle

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Hiya twinkle!

You shine through in everything you do.....this too will be your moment, and of help.

I am thinking about you!

-smilezz-


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RE: Goreans with Disabilities- Support, Advice, Info, V... - 5/23/2009 3:51:37 AM   
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Compassion and understanding for our fellow men and women are free in this life, at least so far, so I can not imagine why anyone would want to stomp on that save maybe they are stuck in their own kind of misery and feel misery needs company.


Greetings Maahsatti:

Thought provoking words you shared. It is not every day inspirational thoughts and messages cross the pathway to healing that we all must find for ourself in healing. You have a good heart woman is all I can say to have endured your ongoing pain. I so can relate, surely.

Only good health I wish for you each day and the needed hope to keep going. Your reply was appreciated Maahsatti.

I wish you well,
~ Zevar ~

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RE: Goreans with Disabilities- Support, Advice, Info, V... - 5/23/2009 4:13:11 AM   
Zevar


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ORIGINAL: Hiskajirah

She will have to keep in mind that failure is not an option. ~smiles

She wishes you most well,
~twinkle


I thought I better recall all of what I learned during that " failure is not an option" time of learning. That Dr. I spoke of in my former post also taught me to inhale-exhale. At first I felt like " shine on shine off " I thought I would just fall out from needing to blow in a brown paper bag to get it together. I finally realized that this Dr. had taught me much and cared for me and so daily I practiced breathing exercises while I began a most wonderful discipline of TaiChi.

So anyway I wanted to recall the whole memory of then when that Dr. taught me how to basically break free from my own going too fast and getting no progress and those damn self talk tapes that sure did not aid in calming the pain whatsoever. Oh yeah and I laughed so much until I literally cried one day while listening to myself doing the breathing exercises. Live and learn.

Now I find my daily discipline to be more on an alternative healing path that I would not trade. Hope I made sense. If not. Laugh! <grin> when you forget the mantra. " failure is not an option " breathe in, exhale. One step at a time to now a good habit is formed for my own good. I can only imagine you can relate as can many.

I wish you well,
~ Zevar ~

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RE: Goreans with Disabilities- Support, Advice, Info, V... - 5/23/2009 2:34:23 PM   
Hiskajirah


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Status: offline 		Greetings Master

She thinks that breathing exercises will be apart of her rehabilitation especially to get through flare ups which last from hours to days and seem to roll from one right into the other which have often lasted weeks. She thinks you had a wonderful doctor and this is good to know. You mentioned TaiChi and she isn't sure if this is one offered there or not, but she knows she'll be doing Yoga part of the day.

She thanks you for sharing this with her

She wishes you most well,
~twinkle

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ORIGINAL: Zevar

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ORIGINAL: Hiskajirah

She will have to keep in mind that failure is not an option. ~smiles

She wishes you most well,
~twinkle


I thought I better recall all of what I learned during that " failure is not an option" time of learning. That Dr. I spoke of in my former post also taught me to inhale-exhale. At first I felt like " shine on shine off " I thought I would just fall out from needing to blow in a brown paper bag to get it together. I finally realized that this Dr. had taught me much and cared for me and so daily I practiced breathing exercises while I began a most wonderful discipline of TaiChi.

So anyway I wanted to recall the whole memory of then when that Dr. taught me how to basically break free from my own going too fast and getting no progress and those damn self talk tapes that sure did not aid in calming the pain whatsoever. Oh yeah and I laughed so much until I literally cried one day while listening to myself doing the breathing exercises. Live and learn.

Now I find my daily discipline to be more on an alternative healing path that I would not trade. Hope I made sense. If not. Laugh! <grin> when you forget the mantra. " failure is not an option " breathe in, exhale. One step at a time to now a good habit is formed for my own good. I can only imagine you can relate as can many.

I wish you well,
~ Zevar ~


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RE: Goreans with Disabilities- Support, Advice, Info, V... - 5/24/2009 10:06:04 AM   
sujuguete


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quote:

ORIGINAL: Maahsatti
People do not have to post or share, they are also invited to just read in hopes that what they read will be uplifting to them and if anyy of us can offer just one person who feels like giving up a moment to reflect and understand, that they are not alone, then IMO, that is something to feel great about.


Thank you for posting this, Mistress.  I am one of those who has been following this thread, but has not posted in it before. 

My own disability is so minor compared to others on this thread, and is under control for the most part, so it doesn't hold me back from doing most of the things I want to do.  Reading this thread is very uplifting for me, because I see the love and compassion shared among the people who post here, people who may have a difficult time making it through the day or just getting out of bed because of chronic pain or physical limitations, yet can find the time and energy to be positive and supportive to others, friend and stranger alike.  I am in awe of you!

Reading this thread causes me to reflect on my capabilities rather than my limitations.  And it emphasizes to me that there are people with plenty of character and compassion in this world, and inspires me to try to be like them, to be a positive influence rather than a negative one.

I hope people continue to post here about their struggles and successes.  I'll continue to say prayers for healing and relief for those who need it, and thanksgiving for the successes.

I wish you all good health,

sujuguete

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RE: Goreans with Disabilities- Support, Advice, Info, V... - 5/24/2009 7:15:58 PM   
Maahsatti


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My own disability is so minor compared to others on this thread


   Greetings sujuguete,
No disability is ever considered minor nor do any of us try to compare ourselves to another, by saying, well, we suffer more then you, etc etc.
Each of us endure various disabilities and illness' and each of us try and give the same amount of compassion and understanding to those around us who also suffer, no matter on what level they are. pain is pain, weather it be from something we would consider minor or extreme and IMO all deserve support, in as much as would be allowed to be given, anyways. I mean, some folks do not much care to have it known what they go thru and for others to fuss over them for it, in a manner of speaking.Personally, I know myself to be that type of person most times. I have had to actually learn that getting support and comfort from others who understand is a good thing...lol and twinkle and this thread was a major reason I was able to realize this.twink and most everyone who posts and shares on this thread has helped me in one form or another and for that I am truly greatful.
I am over joyed that you actually felt you could share and post today and am delighted to know that you have been able to read this thread over time and that it has helped you.This is exactly what I was saying and trying to point out and is the exact reason why this thread is so important. That is why I get seriously upset when someone tries to smack talk it down or tries to make twink feel bad or that she is seeking pity and just using the boards to gain sympothy. That is a bunch of self serving nonsense IMO.
anyways, again I am very happy that you have been able to gain a sense of strength or support or compassion from this thread. whatever it has been, that you have gained, I know it was positive and hope that you continue to receive every good intentioned thought, feeling and supportive guidance everyone here has to offer.

Much care,
Mistress Maahsatti


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RE: Goreans with Disabilities- Support, Advice, Info, V... - 5/25/2009 12:52:42 AM   
Hiskajirah


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Status: offline 		Greetings sujuguete

Welcome to the thread and group of sorts. ~smiles

This one is happy that you are here.

Greetings Mistress

Over time this one has finally recognized that there are more people who consider her valuable and passionate then there are who don't. For awhile she felt badly that a few read into all of her words as pity. There has never been more than a time or two when her words could have even been assumed as such. Even when assumed those assumptions were not accurate. She doesn't post so often anymore for that reason though, if everything she says is taken as a pitiful slut seeking attention then her words would continue to be mis judged by those few and there wouldn't be a thing she could do to change it, only endure it, as she has been.

Her glass is still half full, she's never given up hope even when hope seemed far away, she's still here, and will remain as such. If any wish to fabricate things in their own minds, for whatever reasons, she would not know, it is their mind to do so in, when they pass it on to others it's only spreading rumors. If that's what makes them happy, so be it.

It's all good.

Godspeed

Sincerely,
~twinkle




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RE: Goreans with Disabilities- Support, Advice, Info, V... - 5/25/2009 1:06:35 AM   
Aisliinn


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Status: offline 		Greetings Masters,
Greetings Mistresses,
greetings girls,


*hugs sweetest twinkle tightly*

You have always brought smiles to my days.

The last thing you or anyone else in this thread has made me think was that they were mining for pity.

well wishes,
~~~aisliinn


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RE: Goreans with Disabilities- Support, Advice, Info, V... - 5/25/2009 7:11:19 AM   
serenHWLF


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Status: offline 		Phoenix,

I'm sending positive engergy your way.  I haven't posted here in many months as I've been fighting with my own demons.  Luckily, my doctors listen when I do yell for help.
It's really hard for some doctors to prescribe pain killers.  Pain isn't something they can quantify with their tests.  It's something totally subjective.  They tend to judge by how much pain they think you *SHOULD" be feeling, which often isn't accurate.  I much prefer to have the meds and then not have to use them than the reverse.

For myself, it looks like I may be in for more knee surgery, I'm almost looking forward to it as it will probably be a knee replacement this time which means I'll have a new start (at least that's how I insist upon looking at it).

I wish you all well,
seren{HWLF}

ETA: I just realized I posted to a thread over a year old.  I beg pardon for being so eager to participate that I hadn't realized how long this thread had become. I'll shut up now and read more.
seren

< Message edited by serenHWLF -- 5/25/2009 7:18:06 AM >

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RE: Goreans with Disabilities- Support, Advice, Info, V... - 5/25/2009 8:36:54 AM   
tazzygirl


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Status: offline 		lol... hi Phoenix

its an ongoing thread, updated periodically. keep posting. i hope your surgery goes well. i just had some done myself the beginning of this month. hard to kneel when the knees say "wtf are you doing?"

grins

well wishes

tazzy

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RE: Goreans with Disabilities- Support, Advice, Info, V... - 5/25/2009 11:49:01 AM   
Maahsatti


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Status: offline 		Greetings seren,
Indeed, tazzy is right. This is an ongoing thread and while at times the posts seem to quiet down from time to time, it never really closes.
I hope your knee surgery goes well, if that is what the Doctors decide needs to be done.

take care,
Mistress Maahsatti


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RE: Goreans with Disabilities- Support, Advice, Info, V... - 5/25/2009 12:42:28 PM   
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oops.. im sorry seren. i didnt post my reply to you correctly. no clue where my mind was (except maybe on the man behind me)

forgive me, and, again, welcome!

tazzy

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RE: Goreans with Disabilities- Support, Advice, Info, V... - 5/27/2009 1:32:11 PM   
estah


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Status: offline 		Greetings,
              I suffer from Bipolar disorder and also borderline on having an eating disorder, I know that each day can be a struggle, sometimes to get up, sometimes to do anything. I have highs (days where I can do anything, be anything....) and lows (days were I can barely find the energy to wake up, or do anything) but mostly I have normal days, it is strange being on the new medication I am in many ways more balanced, but I am always hungry, I am gaining weight and more aggressive...I find myself having more anxiety attacks however and I hope that some of the side effects will be dealt with when I speak to my doctor next month, I am happy with how things are generally running and I am even thankful for my condition, I have come to realise that a normal day is a day to be treasured.

estah

My thoughts and prays go out to all.

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RE: Goreans with Disabilities- Support, Advice, Info, V... - 5/28/2009 10:44:55 AM   
patina


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Status: offline 		Greetings all:

i had taken a time away from the boards again,  i have moved to a city and my life has changed in many ways.  I am writing today to share some good news,  i had found a lump in my breast, went to the Dr. had mamograms and then ultrasounds done, a mass was found so a biopsy sp? was done. 

I was scared as cancer runs in my family my mother had had a mascotomy performed on her then died from a mixture of cancer, blood clots, kidney failure and just plain tired of life.  But the results came back and i am cancer free moving to this city has helped me in other ways, i am more active, i am losing weight, my general health physical, mental and emotional is better. 

i think i have calmed down some, and am have even developed more patiance lol.  i hope to renew some friendships i had started on here.  and forget any hurts or angry words spoken.  So i would like to just say hello to everyone and try to keep learning.

patina



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RE: Goreans with Disabilities- Support, Advice, Info, V... - 5/28/2009 10:47:14 AM   
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Status: offline 		congrats to u and may all things in ur life be better   

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RE: Goreans with Disabilities- Support, Advice, Info, V... - 6/6/2009 11:59:27 AM   
Hiskajirah


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Status: offline 		Greetings Masters
Greetings Mistresses
Greetings girls and others

She has made it through her second week of the Functional Restoration Program. She has quit 4 entire medications and decreased another. She went from 7 types a day to 2. She has not used her wheelchair or walker since starting the program. She is walking on her own again, her range of motion has improved, she's losing weight and she challenged herself to the stairs. It hurt like hell, but she did it 2 days in a row. Everyday she does Yoga 3 times, everyday she does relaxation, everyday she does biofeedback several times, everyday she sets new goals, everyday she works on her "factors", everyday she has homework, everyday she studies psychology, pain, the mind, body and soul, everyday she completes a directional goal, physical goal and memory mastery goal. She's memorized images forward and backwards in the Memory Mastery System. This is for mental distraction. It has to be done. It's a daily requirement of the program. Everyday she learns more, and everyday she takes another step on her feet. She's started school again for her publishing diploma, but is also looking to return to part time work to cover the costs.

At this time in her life, she is required to make many choices, something she is not use to by far. But in order to succeed, she has to be the one to say "I'll take that extra step, I will do it".  There is no saying, she will try. Only she will. She's learned and realized the term "try" leaves options for failure. It's too easy to say "I'll try" and then not complete a task or accomplish a goal, not do it, and then say, "ah well, I tried". Not anymore. While over the years her P&E was often 8/8 on Friday for the first time, she was a 6/5. The biggest reason this score is an accomplishment is because if we can get our emotions down, we can handle chronic pain better. Today, only her second Saturday away from the program, she's calm in spirit, so the pain isn't so loud. It's going to be a really good day.

Always be as well as you can be,
Sincerely,
~twinkle

P.S. She asked her Master if he would consider freeing her now. He said "Fuck, No!".

Just thought because of self choice and decisions and such that maybe he would um.....

Ah well, guess not.



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RE: Goreans with Disabilities- Support, Advice, Info, V... - 6/6/2009 12:29:11 PM   
eponavet


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Status: offline 		twinkle!

I'm SO happy to hear about your progress! It sounds like you have made some tremendous strides and it is SO inspiring to read your words! I hope things continue to get better and better for you!

You are an amazing woman! I hope you have a wonderful day!

~ epona

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RE: Goreans with Disabilities- Support, Advice, Info, V... - 6/6/2009 1:38:58 PM   
Hiskajirah


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Status: offline 		~smiles

Thank you so much, epona.

Wishing you a wonderful day also


~twinkle



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RE: Goreans with Disabilities- Support, Advice, Info, V... - 6/6/2009 1:43:20 PM   
snappykappy


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Status: offline 		kudos to u on not saying try but will do

i believe that is life as general that should be said and done more often

i have learned so much from this site and the discussions that it definetly has totally remade myself many times over and always in a process of learning more not matter who it is from or what read

wishing u a omg-ridiculously-improbable-can't-f'n-
believe-it-actually-happened
super duper fantabulous awesome day
thomas michael kappler
just a simple wish

i have sarcoidosis it does not have me
i will kick its ass
i refuse to lose

thomas michael kappler

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