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"I got stuff to do" dating woes ? - 4/9/2008 5:47:27 AM

pahunkboy

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I dont know that I want the up and down that dating does to a person. I wrote a letter a month ago to a guy I dated way back. He wrote insisting what did I want. He included his email address. Rather then hold on too tight, I sent just 2. He hadnt replied to the 2nd one. So I figured there is no interest. We have a tumultous past. He told me that [when I took him to court] I cost him alot of money. I said that is in the past. I said if it is any colsulation I went to that same court and also paid alot of money, in a separate incident. I did not see any purpose in telling him it took a year to recover per concussions per his beating. My brother wanted to pound the guy. I let the law handle it. I did so cause I did not want him going to Philly and coming back a drug crazed lunitic. ...there is alot of other info in this too.

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RE: "I got stuff to do" dating woes ? - 4/9/2008 5:55:08 AM

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So here we are. The other day he called out of the blue. I wasnt expecting it at all. Again, what did I want. So we hung out here, he helped me get mulch. We cudled and petted but no further then that. I pulled away --and sat in a chair after a while. Maybe I should have verbalized more...that he smelled like a cigarette. He is trying.

He has a iron shell around him. No one gets thru. Tho- I do think he would be loyal.

The spark isnt quite what it was.

Why? I got much of want I wanted out of life.

So- I called him yesderday. He "has stuff to do" today. That isnt good enough.

It is a big long story about the beating. That was close to 10 years ago. I did something I should not have.
Anhow- no lecture on that component.

I am not the adolescent of yesderyear. I am not imotionally immature like back then.

Also- if I offer a sandwhich, it means I offer a sanwhich. I think I can afford to have a sandwhich wiht a guest.

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RE: "I got stuff to do" dating woes ? - 4/9/2008 7:38:31 AM

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I don't know, with that much negative history, I think I would call it quits and look for something new.

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My twisted, self deprecating, sense of humour, finds alot to laugh about, in your lack of one!

Just because you are well educated, articulate, and can use big, fancy words, properly........does not mean you are right!

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RE: "I got stuff to do" dating woes ? - 4/9/2008 9:25:01 AM

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"marrying" him is like marrying a cigarette.

me breathing is not negotiable.

there are pluses to being single.

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RE: "I got stuff to do" dating woes ? - 4/9/2008 10:02:53 AM

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OK, so you're no longer immature and you made a stupid mistake. What is his excuse for being immature and making an even stupider mistake about beating you back then?

What makes you think he has changed? Anger management classes?

I know a lot of wonderful gay guys..of course all over the country. It can't be harder to be gay than it is to be straight.
No matter what orientation it is hard to find that special someone.

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RE: "I got stuff to do" dating woes ? - 4/9/2008 11:44:13 AM

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who would be good for me?

im not sure why i posted the post. i already know the answere. it is to not call him. to have the swagger that I need no one. when he said he would call me back he also said if i get a chance to call him the next day.

things were different back then.

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RE: "I got stuff to do" dating woes ? - 4/9/2008 11:46:39 AM

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Someone who cares about you as much as you care for them is the person who would be best for you.
Where is he? I have no idea.

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RE: "I got stuff to do" dating woes ? - 4/9/2008 3:30:27 PM

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Im sorry. The only person in the world that can treat me best is a parent or a sibling- or "me"

we all must do our own shopping. i was thinking i really cant tell him a ton of stuff related to the ugly past. i just cant. best to leave it there. so if there isnt trust- there is little. oh well.

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