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RE: bbw submissives? - 8/25/2008 8:50:16 PM

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Good for you. But sexy (and healthy) comes in many forms, and one can love oneself and be sexy when one is not a size 10. Not being skinny is no excuse for self loathing.
I guess my question for you would be why is it not okay for a larger woman to find herself sexy and be considered sexy by others?

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RE: bbw submissives? - 8/25/2008 9:56:44 PM

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Good for you. But sexy (and healthy) comes in many forms, and one can love oneself and be sexy when one is not a size 10. Not being skinny is no excuse for self loathing.

I guess my question for you would be why is it not okay for a larger woman to find herself sexy and be considered sexy by others?

Exactly! Who gets to decide what the magical weight is for being sexy? Im sexy and Im a chunk. Sexy is an attitude, not a waist size. I went from a size 5 before my son, to a big ol girl of over 250 (depo shot SUCKS), lost a ton of weigh, gained some back, lost some more... IM STILL SEXY EVEN IF IM NOT A SIZE 5! My husband thinks Im sexy, I know Im sexy... If you feel sexy and comfortable in your own skin than you will notice the difference in other peoples outlooks on you. Sexy is just an attitude and if you have it, then you got it if you catch my meaning.

As for health being a factor... I have low blood pressure, low cholesteral, a strong heart, and Im far from being a diabetic. I am cancer free, and have never had a questionable or negative exam. I do have health problems, but not from my weight. The only reason I would like to go back down to a smaller size is because fat girl clothes cost more, and are harder to find... Other than that, Im happy with who I am, and what I am, so is my husband.

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RE: bbw submissives? - 8/25/2008 10:09:51 PM

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Bah, theres always facial surgery for skinny chicks with ugly faces, lypo, and tummy tucks for fat chicks, implants for chicks with no tits, and ass implants for chicks with no ass. There is always hope for the not so perfect. I am totally for plastic surgery, especially if it helps boost up self esteem, and confidance in yourself.

in the end, you cannot take those implants and plastic whatnot with you to heaven.

A: I dont believe in heaven, not your version anyways
B: If you do believe in heaven thats great, but what does that have to do with anything? If I feel the need to give myself bigger tits because my little bitty A cups aint doin it for me, what does heaven have to do with that? I just want bigger tits. I see no connection between getting fake boobs and bringing them to heaven. You cant bring your house, or your cars, or your clothes, or your XBOX 360 to heaven either, so does that mean I shouldnt get them? Should I live in a box so that I dont need to worry about bringing anything to heaven with me? What if I did live in a box, should I desire to bring my box with me to heaven? You cant bring your computer and your collarme account to heaven, so you shouldnt have it. You better delete your account and give up your PC... See it makes no sense. Heaven has nothing to do with wanting to improve your self image. I have fucked up teeth so should I not get braces because if I died tomorrow I couldnt bring them with me? Im just trying to improve my self image, just as I would be with plastic surgery... Thats retarded.

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RE: bbw submissives? - 8/26/2008 4:03:09 AM

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exactly just like i have "no smokers" in my profile narrative. there is nothing worse than getting acquainted and beginning to hit it off when you find out the other is a smoker. i am allergic to smokers....yuck! i do not want to show up for a realtime meeting and feel awkward because the other person finds me unattractive etc. finding the right one is difficult enough, right?

If I could make a suggestion.... you devoted three vivid sentences to how much you dislike smokers in the post I quoted. "No smokers, please, I'm allergic" would have said the same thing more concisely.

Your profile contains "just because i will not webcam, give you my phone number, call you, and or arrange a r/t meeting right away when we first meet online does not mean i am a fake. the internet is full of crazies & freaks. i am not saying you are one of these, but a babygirl has to be careful. so if you cannot be patient with me, then i am sorry."

Again, just "Please don't ask me to webcam, give you my phone number, or meet until we get to know each other first" would say the same thing more gently and briefly.

I would bypass your profile even if you looked like Angelina Jolie if I felt that you would spend most of your conversations with me complaining.

Try rewriting your profile to discuss the things you like, and spend profile space on them. Perhaps then you'll get more contacts that you'd like.

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RE: bbw submissives? - 8/26/2008 5:10:39 AM

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you (and once again Camille65) are missing the general point.

all those self improvements you've made while here on earth won't be there in the afterlife (or whatever you believe in). you'll appear in your original packaging sans the improved size booage and ass. yes, it's wonderful and great that you did it make yourself feel and look better to boost that self-confidence and esteem. however when it's your time to go, those self-improvements wouldn't be going with you ...since you'll be returning to dust while the plastic/whatnots won't.

also to add - i never said that you shouldn't upgrade or have plastic surgery to boost your self-image. that's fine do whatever you got to do - i simply don't care since it's not done to impress me.

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RE: bbw submissives? - 8/26/2008 5:52:55 AM

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some of the sexiest women have been larger in frame, Marilyn Monroe being one. i frankly find the sizes of today... 2... 0... 00... amost too painful to watch, but i am also not a man. i am not a small woman, never pretended to be, probably never will be, and i am fantastic with that.

some men like small breasts women... im a 38DD

some men like tiny waists and wide hips... ok.. i have half of that

some men prefer blondes... no thanks.. im a reddie

some men like olive complexions... im as pale as can be at times

some men like a doormat demeanor... ummm... ok... pass

its all about personal preferences... nothing more.. nothing less... i cant be with a man who has small hands and a whimpy attitude... and i prefer a man over 6 feet... its my preference.. nothing personal

as for the women who are smaller than me.. remember... you need women like me to point at, laugh at, and make you generally feel better and able to say... at least im not that big

and im fine with that, i make you look good

but, while you are hung up on what looks good... i know how to make men feel good.. the package we have can change at the blink of an eye.. so.. if you are barbie pretty, be thankful

i am big

i may not be beautiful in everyone's eyes, but, in god's eyes, and the right man's, i am stunningly beautiful

and i am definitely a woman who is in good health

if you cant see beyond the layers to the soul beneath, its you who has lost out, not me

and even thats ok, we all have our preferences... as the french say.. viva la difference

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RE: bbw submissives? - 8/26/2008 10:13:05 AM

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Ok, now, dammit. I was just gonna whip out a trumpet and play taps to this thread, but then you say things like:

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as for the women who are smaller than me.. remember... you need women like me to point at, laugh at, and make you generally feel better and able to say... at least im not that big

and im fine with that, i make you look good

but, while you are hung up on what looks good... i know how to make men feel good.. the package we have can change at the blink of an eye.. so.. if you are barbie pretty, be thankful
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There are some assumptions here and they're pretty ugly, it seems to me. Not everyone who is thin would point and laugh at someone who is not. Not everyone who is thin feels better about herself or himself because there are heavier people around to compare themselves to. Not everyone who is thin is hung up on "what looks good," and I can promise you that there are plenty of thin women who "know how to make men feel good" too.

Your attitude is prejudicial, based on superficiality and ugly assumptions and shows that you aren't truly happy with yourself, as you claim. At least it seems that way to me.

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RE: bbw submissives? - 8/26/2008 10:27:02 AM

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as for the women who are smaller than me.. remember... you need women like me to point at, laugh at, and make you generally feel better and able to say... at least im not that big

and im fine with that, i make you look good

Hold the phone here Tazzy. Do not assume because i am smaller that i am laughing at you. Do not assume i notice you. Nine chances out of 10...i do not. In the same way you probably do not notice me.

And as for you making me look good? Please stop it. YOU do not make me look good. If i do look good at all it is because i take care of myself, and taking care of myself begins with my ATTITUDE!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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RE: bbw submissives? - 8/26/2008 11:10:26 AM

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lol.. and i knew it would be viewed that way.. how funny

if i had meant every woman would be laughing... or i knew how to please men better than any woman, i would have said so

assumptions can be blatant, or, they can be read into things just as easily

and, btw, i am very happy with myself

i am a big woman with a big heart, a generous nature, and a desire to please

now, is that saying small woman arent, dont have, or cant be? hardly

there are those hung up on their looks... to the point that they cant see beyond the flesh, into the soul

you could looke like barbie come to life... but.. if your soul is ugly, then you will soon be seen that way

same with a woman who is homely, plain, ect... if her soul is beautiful, soon everyone around her will know

i dont care what size another woman is.. if she can move his heart more than i can, then i am not the woman for him, never will be

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RE: bbw submissives? - 8/26/2008 11:17:39 AM

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ORIGINAL: sambamanslilgirl

you (and once again Camille65) are missing the general point.

all those self improvements you've made while here on earth won't be there in the afterlife (or whatever you believe in). you'll appear in your original packaging sans the improved size booage and ass. yes, it's wonderful and great that you did it make yourself feel and look better to boost that self-confidence and esteem. however when it's your time to go, those self-improvements wouldn't be going with you ...since you'll be returning to dust while the plastic/whatnots won't.

also to add - i never said that you shouldn't upgrade or have plastic surgery to boost your self-image. that's fine do whatever you got to do - i simply don't care since it's not done to impress me.

No I got your point. It is just invalid. Nothing you get here will go with you to whatever afterlife you believe in. None of your posessions will follow you. That is why your comment is stupid to me. It doesnt matter if I have plastic surgery if Im dead, just as it doesnt matter if I lived in a huge beautiful house if Im dead. IM DEAD! You cant take your body to heaven with you. Its your soul that goes to heaven, not your body. It doesnt matter if I spend 500K on my body, its going to rot away in the end. Doing something to make yourself feel better while you are alive has nothing to do with what happens after you are dead. I dont care what I look like when I am dead, because Im dead and it doesnt matter anymore. Im not gonna have to look at myself in the mirror everyday and see the flaws that I am unhappy with. IM DEAD! You cant take anything to heaven with you except your soul, so what we do to our bodies has nothing to do with going to heaven. Your comment was just stupid to me is all. It makes no sense.

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RE: bbw submissives? - 8/26/2008 11:20:59 AM

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if i had meant every woman would be laughing... or i knew how to please men better than any woman, i would have said so

assumptions can be blatant, or, they can be read into things just as easily

Like assuming the phrase "the women who are smaller than me" means pretty much the same as "all women who are smaller than me?"

Whatever you intended to say, the actual words you typed communicate something unpleasant, at best. I certainly hope you are more judicious in real life.

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RE: bbw submissives? - 8/26/2008 11:32:01 AM

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i am just me, right, wrong, valid or invalid, and true, the written form of communication can be taken many ways

i guess we could also look at the posts from those who say over weight people are not healthy... is that always true? not at all

are skinny people healthy as a result of just being skinny? again, not true

are beautiful people always ugly to the souls? again no

are ugly people truly beautiful in their souls? again no

there are no hard, fast, absolutes when it comes to looks, sizes, desires, wants, needs, perceptions

the.. i make you look good.. was a joke... intended as such.. and im sorry not many got it.. sorta like Will Smith in MiB... lol.. i have a quirky sense of humor.. i believe in my soul all women are beautiful.. for what they are.. women.. for what they can give.. for what they can take.. for the strength it takes to be just a woman, no matter what side of the proverbial whip they stand on

i wish you all so much and well

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RE: bbw submissives? - 8/26/2008 11:44:22 AM

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the.. i make you look good.. was a joke... intended as such.. and im sorry not many got it.. sorta like Will Smith in MiB... lol..

I thought it was funny, not for the reasons you intended probably, but it was funny all the same. I laugh at funerals... No really... I have a different sense of humor than most do so if that tells you anything LOL...

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RE: bbw submissives? - 8/26/2008 11:46:28 AM

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.............. i just cant believe this thread is going on so long.....i guess it hits a sore spot with some ppl...the girl who started doesnt even respond to it anymore, and yet it still rocks on..its true that many of us what ever the imperfections we have are tough on us..hey i cant find a good Dom, hmmmmmmmm what could i blame that reasoning ..lol...i dont think at all this thread is about what or size you are...its like ppl for whatever reason we have to point out flaws in ourselves..and we are the ones who have the biggest problem with them...

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RE: bbw submissives? - 9/22/2008 2:18:56 PM

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Hey now some of us love BBW's ya know we are all not Barbie and Ken. the way i see it Barbie's Tits are fake and Ken has no dick! so the BBW's are allways welcome over here

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RE: bbw submissives? - 9/22/2008 2:36:23 PM

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no, just like you do not like 200 pounds or more, i have my hard limits. i do not like older men, 55+ years old, but that is my preference. just like assholes, lol....we all have them!
folks, really my biggest problem is with the abusive, opinionated and hateful people i have found in this lifestyle. this lifestyle is full of the unnormal, the deviant, the off the beaten path! you would think the people here would be more tolerable and accepting of others and not so damn hateful! that was the purpose of my initial post. maybe i did not word it correctly and that is what brought on the insults and the jokes.
i have found many friends and prospective Dominants, so i am doing ok.

I have to say that I find this to be a completely spurious argument. The BDSM community is so large and diverse that most of the time they can't even agree on BDSM-specific issues, so why would anyone presume that this huge, undulating mass of human pulchritude would be any more tolerant or accepting than any other massive, intellectually-economically-socially-environmentally-diverse group of people?

The last place I'd go if I were expecting pacific, calm, embracing acceptance would be a population of edge-cutting, opinionated, socially ostracized, socially divergent people.

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RE: bbw submissives? - 9/22/2008 2:37:24 PM

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I could never see a woman's shape as being as important as her personaility.
Appearance is such a fleeting thing, it changes with the years, but your character is always there.

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