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"Breaking" a male slave - 7/8/2008 7:37:20 PM   
cuckdaddy


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Dearest Mistresses. i am honored that You are reading this (notice that i use lower case "i" to show my respect) i am very foruneate to be in a relationship with a wonderful Mistress. i have come to need Her like the air that i breathe. We have had many ups and downs (all my fault) but have stayed together for 4 months now and plan on marrying very soon ! i will be Her cuckold husband. i am very afraid that when Mistress "cucks" me our marriage will be seriously damaged (again because of me)i have never been married and never even considered being cuckolded until i fell in Love with Mistress and She told me of this cuckolding desire. i love serving Her and Her happiness is my only concern,but this cuckolding,i do not know if i can do it. How can Mistress "break" me ??? She will never give me a collar until i am broken ? How will i know when i am "broken" and what is being "broken" ? Thanks
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RE: "Breaking" a male slave - 7/8/2008 7:41:22 PM   
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RE: "Breaking" a male slave - 7/8/2008 7:49:30 PM   
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The breaking process is complex.  It requires a lot of time.  I went through this process when I was a collared sub in the beginning of my journey. 
She will teach you things that will please only her.   This will include many things as discipline training (spanking, paddling, flogging), CBT (cock and ball torture), enema training, bondadge and sensority deprivement as well.  Basically, this will be a time where you only focus on her and become her full slave with no hesitation in your performance.
I hoped this helped a little.  It varies from person to person.  She is probably different than I am.
A female dominant will probably want to train you in chasity. 
Good luck and best wishes.

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RE: "Breaking" a male slave - 7/8/2008 8:01:47 PM   
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i would assume in this case breaking would be the point where you fully accept the role as your Mistresses chuck.

now if you want to be that cuck is up to you, no one can really tell you but i think you will want to be 100% sure before you marry this person as their cuckold.

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RE: "Breaking" a male slave - 7/8/2008 8:06:16 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: cuckdaddy
We have had many ups and downs (all my fault) but have stayed together for 4 months now and plan on marrying very soon !


In my opinion, you are moving towards marriage a bit quickly, especially if you have not yet resolved how you feel about cuckoldry.

Cheers,

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RE: "Breaking" a male slave - 7/8/2008 9:55:31 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: undergroundsea

quote:

ORIGINAL: cuckdaddy
We have had many ups and downs (all my fault) but have stayed together for 4 months now and plan on marrying very soon !


In my opinion, you are moving towards marriage a bit quickly, especially if you have not yet resolved how you feel about cuckoldry.




Marriage is like the stock market -- cashing out usually sucks you dry, so you want to make sure you've been tracking the ups and downs for a fairly long time before buying out all the shares.

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RE: "Breaking" a male slave - 7/9/2008 5:42:21 AM   
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Having view your profile.. Im curious.. are you looking for a storyline for a new video.. as you say you a video slave and willing to relocate..shrugs.. on the off chance your serious. You can be what you are not.. if your jealous.. your jealous.. and only counselling, time to build a solid foundation and a willingness to change will effect the result your asking about.

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RE: "Breaking" a male slave - 7/9/2008 11:55:19 AM   
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I'm as curious as Sylverdawn. Two weeks ago when you made your profile you made no mention of being in a serious relationship or being about to get married.  You just said you were willing to relocate.

My advice, if you have been honest with your profile and post is that you seem to have no idea what you want.  Perhaps it would be best to have a long engagement until you know if you wish to be a cuck...or you can keep doing videos with other Dommes...your choice. 

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RE: "Breaking" a male slave - 7/9/2008 1:03:11 PM   
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Hello Everybody, Thanks for replying ! My profile was never completed with the cuckolding details because I have been working 12 hour shifts. I have had nightmares , several times ,about Mistress Cuckolding me.The last one was just last night. So this afternoon I expressed my concerns to Mistress and She said "Don't worry about it - we will not do it " (cuckolding that is)We both love each other and are sure about marrying , but now ,with Her having to cancel Her plans to cuckold me , I am afraid She will resent me. She has wanted a cuck for 8 years now and She was honest about this from our begginning.I knew what i was getting into and yes , my mind has changed. One day I want to be cucked and the next day -hell no ! I am certain that if she cucks me it will hurt like hell. So either way one of us will be dissapointed.

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RE: "Breaking" a male slave - 7/9/2008 1:07:03 PM   
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It sounds like you need to take a step back and examine what you really want from this relationship with your dominant.

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RE: "Breaking" a male slave - 7/9/2008 11:30:06 PM   
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So you flung the covers off the bed after She told you She would not require it; and ripped Her underpants off  Her and then smacked Her with the back of your hand, Por Que??? ( WHY/For What???) Did it make you feel strong and tough and bad-assed? Aren't you just the tough guy to fear...LOL...LOL...LOL
And you thought there would be no fall out???? What a dumb sub you are!!!!!! Of course there would be criminal charges for it.....what do you vanilla males think is going to happen when you assault a Fem Dom....She doesn't have to beat you...you bring retribution upon yourselves through lack of self control....She could have beaten you to a bloody pulp out of anger, fear , or just because you HIT Her; but She didn't....She let the authorities handle the matter and you screwed yourself out of a loving and devoted FemDom  who forfieted every dream She ever had to be with you....what a moron! Would She have made the sacrifices had She not loved you above all others???
You earned what you got.....Should not have assaulted Her when you didn't get the response you thought was owed you on the forums.....You are an absolute idiot. And you deserve to be "seeking" again....good luck with that.



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RE: "Breaking" a male slave - 7/9/2008 11:34:28 PM   
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I have so many things I could say, but I will only say one.

Be aware of what will damage you, mentally, physically or emotionally.  Your mistress may want to make you a cuckold.  If that will diminish you, then she is not exercising her responsiblity.

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RE: "Breaking" a male slave - 7/10/2008 12:11:25 AM   
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SurrenderForMe...perhaps  you should read the follow-up from tonight which was the result of all the "wonderful" help and guidence he received from all of you....I am one who dwells with them and he really lost it tonight...thanks all of you for your "help"



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RE: "Breaking" a male slave - 7/10/2008 12:24:54 AM   
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"have stayed together for 4 months now and plan on marrying very soon !"

That would be that She agreed to marry you next May 1st (as in 2009), am I right? How is that "very soon"? Why do you mislead? Tell the real story....You began hounding Her to marry you before you had known Her 6 weeks---maybe less, eh??? Eventhough She stated She was seeking a cuck; but you thought you could coherce Her into agreement to marry at
your whim according to what YOU wanted, (i.e. according to when YOU wanted to marry and under your specific desires of a vanilla with female control) is that not true and correct? As ever...liars, cheats looking for validation and just plain stupid posts....been on this site for more than 4 years and I see this all the time...why do you people never tell the real story? Get off your "poor me" pony and deal with what you insisted upon having!!!


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RE: "Breaking" a male slave - 7/10/2008 1:51:49 AM   
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Cuckdaddy i think that most people who have posted here are right; you are moving way too fast. On the other hand if you wish to enter a real FEMDOM marriage chances are that you will end up being cucked. From my experience, admittedly somehow limited, Mistresses do not see us slaves as lovers; cucking us does not only provide Them with sexual pleasure per se but the humiliation factor makes it more pleasurable for Them. Discussing wether cucking is right or wrong would be rather out of place here but i'd suggest to go over other threads here dealing with the subject and be very-very cautious because you may end up sucking the cock of your Wife's lover.

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RE: "Breaking" a male slave - 7/10/2008 7:32:54 AM   
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Thank you everybody for the good advice, After this last bi-polar acting out of her's , i am finished. I will never serve her again. i will be true to myself and my beliefs. Thank GOD i didn't marry her !

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RE: "Breaking" a male slave - 7/10/2008 8:24:15 AM   
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RE: "Breaking" a male slave - 7/10/2008 8:32:10 AM   
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I really can't add anything useful but the OP moved me enough to say the following.

An excellent submissive, a great slave is a treasure that cannot be created by being broken first in my strong opinion.

Plus if I break my toys.. what will I have to play with?

On a more serious note... If your dominant means she wants you fully trained then you both in for a lot of work on both sides. If she things kink is just an easy way to get a husband who will let her do anything... she's in for a huge surprise. The only way to work around potential jealousy is to have a strong foundation and to make time for the primary relationship every day. That takes time, usually a lot of time. Talking about marrying you and having other lovers is, in my strong opinion again, putting the cart way before the horse is even in your possession.

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RE: "Breaking" a male slave - 7/10/2008 8:34:13 AM   
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I am going to concur with Tammyjo.  At one point, I had a wonderful boy who had an expression that sticks with Me to this day.

If you break your toys, you can't play with them anymore.


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RE: "Breaking" a male slave - 7/10/2008 9:44:47 AM   
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I never wanted it to come to this. Sister Change hit me hard this time. I was fine with all the other aspects of D/s , but this cuckolding hurts me too much. Just to hear the word "cuckolding" makes my stomach ache. Now , if I were gay or less endowed , I probably  could be cucked , but Mistress was always happy with my performance as a sex slave. Why wasn't i good enough ??? Why would She need someone else at the expense of deeply hurting me?Mistress never could answer that question. Excuse me - Jerry is calling ...

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