ResidentSadist -> RE: what is it like to break a slave? have you ever done that? (7/16/2008 3:24:39 AM)
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ORIGINAL: RedMagic1 Well, hmmm. Does the dominant saying this have a 24/7 slave who attends to his every need and desire in an amazing fashion? Because that would be the point of completely reprogramming somebody, right? If, on the other hand, the dominant is currently alone and looking, one might be tempted to think the last person he tried to break decided it wasn't the best idea in the world. There's a thread about this on the Ask A Mistress boards now. Consensus there: break your toys and you don't get to play with them anymore. Despite the consensus, I think there is a at least a small degree of breakage and rebuilding in every power exchange style relationship to some degree. My motives for deconstruction are in accord with what you say to a degree. I want my partner to match my needs and desires… not just service motivated but life goals, interests and emotional compatibility. quote:
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ORIGINAL: RedMagic1 If, on the other hand, the dominant is currently alone and looking, one might be tempted to think the last person he tried to break decided it wasn't the best idea in the world. A very dear friend of mine owned a slave and in the process of breaking her down (examining her fears and limitations based on her life experience) and rebuilding her, he discovered that she was Dominant. When i spoke with her she told me the glorious moment when in the breaking down process, it became apparent she was Dominant and how he nurtured that part of her, taught her and encouraged her. She is not living in the UK a happy and successful woman with a devoted slave of her own. He changed her life in a very positive way but being the totally unselfish man that he is, lost his "slave" in the process. Granted, this kind of man may be a very rare creature indeed, but even a good Dominant can find himself alone at times. The man you speak of sounds like a responsible person and good Master. The deconstruction of a person and finding their uncorrupted nature is an awesome process that often leads to losing the very one you love and worked so hard on. It is heart breaking and you must have a well spring within yourself to survive it. Sometimes in the process you discover the slave is no longer a slave but they are vanilla and their original attraction to BDSM was more for the therapy. quote:
ORIGINAL: Lynnxz ´Breaking´people is the easy part, regardless of how macho you think it sounds. Building them back up is the hard part. It takes real good experience to make a comment like that. I only hope the OP can grasp the vast scope of your of comment and bibliotheca that lays in between the few lines you have written.
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