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RE: Clarification please - 7/18/2008 6:32:47 AM   
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Tal Kirata,

I think the point of contention is how slaves are seen by Goreans. I would say there is no singular view on how they are seen. The series mentions legal and social status in the quotes given so far, but there were some owners that treated their slaves just as beasts and dehumanized them. There were some owners that saw them as prized possessions and treated them accordingly. I feel the arguement is one that has no true solid support on either side, other than they were legal treated as less than human (human being defined as one with rights).

Slaves are many things, just as any other living creature. To place them into a singular category is to blind ourselves to all the other facets. Do I consider them beasts? Yes. Do I consider them human? Yes. There is a particular state of being that I attempt to place my property in. Too lofty a position and the enslavement does not hold as well, too low a position and the esteem of the property is harmed so they are less valuable to me.

Now on to the subject of male slaves. Owning property, regardless of sex, is just as Gorean as owning a piece of furniture, so I am confused as to the muddied waters that the Gorean Apologists have created. Now becoming enslaved is not very Gorean, as it requires relinquishing one's personal sovereignty, but there are many times that we do this and still maintain our morals and ethics. I see it as Gorean Morality, not just as some puffed up philosophy of right and wrong. If it is someone's nature to be a slave, then that is what they should be. How can it not be Gorean to be as your nature intends you to be?

Live well,
Orion



Tal Orion,

I am not sure if I fit into the group you describe as apologists... I don't believe so, but will let you clarify it.

I agree with everything you said in this post, but get hung up on the last question.  I do believe that one should be as their nature intends, but I am not so sure that a slave is Gorean.  The point you raise about morality even hints at the reason why.  When Tarl (Bosk) is reflecting on the moralities of Earth and Gor, he mentions the slave morality and the belief that all are equals, and that we are all the same (example: we are all Goreans).

I wish you well,
Thadius

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RE: Clarification please - 7/18/2008 7:27:37 AM   
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Greetings boy,

  you are among the *extreme* few male slaves I will even acknowledge. why? simple.
you always display total respect, despite the mutterings and even belittleing of your status.

That being aid. I have a question and naturally, I want your total honesty.

Would you consider or remain a kajirus under the truest conditions?...a work horse sense. no sexual gratifications what so ever...just plain old hard work, like working a farm or yard, etc etc. and then sleep in a barn,garage or the floor of some basement?

would this hold you to your claimed slavery then?

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RE: Clarification please - 7/18/2008 7:32:37 AM   
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How can it not be Gorean to be as your nature intends you to be?



  Hi Orion,

IMO, in the world today, we have many defects...lol..now I do not mean this as an insult, but more a medical condition of the body or mind.
That is why I consider male slavery on the *most part* not natural.

Take care,
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RE: Clarification please - 7/18/2008 7:55:36 AM   
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Trevelyan,

Do you despise your slave?

Curious,
Thadius


Thadius,

Why do you think JN repeatedly talks about free men despising female slaves, as quoted above?  What do you think it means?  Why did he say that a slave girl can be treasured, despised and loved?

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RE: Clarification please - 7/18/2008 8:06:38 AM   
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SD I thought I have said over and over why I don’t believe male slaves can be Gorean.

Because the books are illustrating the what not to do as well as the what to do, male slavery comes under the what not to do.

I look at the books partially as morals/fables, in a moral you usually do something bad or stupid and get punished for it. Aesop’s fables are obvious ones and designed for children. The bible has many examples as well the good Samaritan being a prime example, a man is robbed, and left beaten on the street, after reading it would you say you should follow the example of the robbers and those who walked on by ignoring him or the Samarian who helped? After all they have the examples of both so both answers should be equally valid, saying its ok to rob and leave a man lying untended on the street or its ok to go help, of course it helps that in the bible we have the answer on a plate as we do in Aeosops fables with the moral of the story being….

But as adults when we read a story that has a fable built in we shouldn’t need to ask which is the correct course of action it should be obvious unless we don’t wish to see the answer. Your answer seems to be the books say that male slaves are ok because they are in the books, I say they are not because there was a trilogy devoted to showing how one became a man and a Gorean, how men in Gor fought against slavery and their aim was to be free.

We both see the same words but I am not a dominatrix who is actively looking for male slaves, I am not into humiliation as you are and I am not a member of the leather community. I am looking at the books outside a lifestyle that says male slaves are wanted in my house, everything about your profile says leather and nothing says Gor. The way we see things are dominated by how we look at the world and what we wish to read into the books.

Male slaves are BDSM or D/s, in my eyes they cannot be Gorean, because that is how I see the books and the philosophy.

Now to be honest I cant clarify any more than that especially as you haven’t yet said anything apart from they are in the books therefore they are part of the philosophy, an answer I disagree with for the reasons I have stated here and elsewhere. Why are you so insistent that male slaves are Gorean? Where in the books have you found proof that being a male slave is a desirable thing to be, instead of the lowest of the low and despised by all? Where does it say that Gorean’s believe a mans rightful place is at the feet of a woman? Find me something that says a mans place is at the feet of a woman serving her and I will say you are right and I am wrong.

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RE: Clarification please - 7/18/2008 9:02:35 AM   
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Trevelyan,

Interesting way to avoid answering a question.

I will play along though.  There are examples of slaves being seen in all of those lights, depending on the perspective one slave could fit all of those to different people, yet I would say it would be difficult that a slave fit all 3 of them by the same person at the same time.

As Orion states, and rightly so:
quote:

I think the point of contention is how slaves are seen by Goreans. I would say there is no singular view on how they are seen. The series mentions legal and social status in the quotes given so far, but there were some owners that treated their slaves just as beasts and dehumanized them. There were some owners that saw them as prized possessions and treated them accordingly. I feel the arguement is one that has no true solid support on either side, other than they were legal treated as less than human (human being defined as one with rights).

Slaves are many things, just as any other living creature. To place them into a singular category is to blind ourselves to all the other facets.


The problem with your argument is that you keep trying to generalize one class with a broad brush, not seeing that each of us (general us) is unique and an individual.

So I close with a simple question, do you love or despise your slave?

Thadius

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RE: Clarification please - 7/18/2008 9:04:01 AM   
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Greetings Cheryl

The books highlight many various aspects of humanity, some for better or worse.  While the books do not say it is appropriate for all men to kneel at the feet of a woman, the do acknowledge that for some men that is exactly where they should be kneeling.  This by no means takes away from the position of males are more inclined to be naturally dominate, it merely recognizes that not all men fit in under that status quo.  Humanity is diverse.  So while it may not be the right place for most it does make allowances for the some, no matter how small that number maybe.  In this yes, it does fall under the Gorean umbrella, it is supported as such and recognized as such.  

Your problem is Cheryl is that indeed your looking at “slave” in the eyes of BDSM using what they believe it is.  Gorean eyes don’t view the kink and equate that as “slavery” or even submission, it’s kink pure and simple.  We look beyond that.  A *ussy whipped man can be just as much a slave as anything even if we don’t slap slave on his forehead.  Kink in most cases of this nature is not even part of the equation.   

The key Cheryl is to remove all and every connotation, implication even slight reference found in the d/s bdsm community from our minds and focus on concepts like this using Gorean thought.  Historic slavery would be our best reference, not bdsm.  It helps add clarity before we move on.  With historic slavery in mind a woman is not automatically a domme for owning a slave, she is just a slave owner.  It is not by defacto sexy, kinky or even a fetish, it just is ownership.

Now I do understand when even Goreans discuss slavery (female slaves) kink, sex, fetishes and all that other good stuff always enters the picture.  For many Goreans that is the focus (and might as well be in bdsm to begin with) and for some others, it’s only an added perk.  This makes examination of slavery topics difficult because we tend to apply a whole list of different standards to different people.   Slavery has no gender, it just is.  

Cheryl I accept male slavery.  I am not, nor ever will be part of the BDSM community, I am not a domme, nor am I out to humiliate men for my pleasure.  So that card simply won’t work for me.  I do though understand that the nature of humans is, some are born free others are not.  Gender doesn’t make or break who enters into which side.  Nor does slavery signify the legal institution of slavery in totality.  That is the Gorean philosophy.

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RE: Clarification please - 7/18/2008 9:49:37 AM   
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All I am asking for is a quote to back up the claim that some men belong at the feet of a woman. If men even some men are meant to be there it will say somewhere in the books.

It will say Gorean’s believe that some men should be at the feet of a woman as her slave or words to that effect, is it such a big thing to ask for verification of your beliefs?

My own words are based upon me seeing the books as philosophical novels and using examples from them to illustrate why sometimes things are shown to say this is not right. Your words only come from the books using them as the only source so the words that prove or disprove it should be in the books.

Even the quote that says there is not only one way backs up my belief as it implies in its statement not all are suited to being Gorean, some will follow different routes as is only right, we are not all the same and do not all follow the same path.

I set my own bar, I do not expect you to agree with it or to comply with it, but I think you should provide proof from the books of what you say.

Cheryl

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RE: Clarification please - 7/18/2008 10:28:50 AM   
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"Slavery also, of course, encompasses the ownership of male slaves, for which there is less precedent in nature."
Beasts of Gor, p.235
 
The quote states that there is at least some precedence in nature for male slavery.  The quote does not state there is "no" precedence."   Obviously, male dominance is considered the norm but it is not an absolute. 

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RE: Clarification please - 7/18/2008 10:30:48 AM   
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ORIGINAL: Cherylmazana

All I am asking for is a quote to back up the claim that some men belong at the feet of a woman. If men even some men are meant to be there it will say somewhere in the books.

It will say Gorean’s believe that some men should be at the feet of a woman as her slave or words to that effect, is it such a big thing to ask for verification of your beliefs?

My own words are based upon me seeing the books as philosophical novels and using examples from them to illustrate why sometimes things are shown to say this is not right. Your words only come from the books using them as the only source so the words that prove or disprove it should be in the books.

Even the quote that says there is not only one way backs up my belief as it implies in its statement not all are suited to being Gorean, some will follow different routes as is only right, we are not all the same and do not all follow the same path.

I set my own bar, I do not expect you to agree with it or to comply with it, but I think you should provide proof from the books of what you say.

Cheryl


Afternoon Cheryl,

I haven't seen anything from the free women here that says they want a male slave at their feet, but let's break it down to the root of the question.
Are you saying that there are no male slaves?  That male slaves are strictly a BDSM thing?  As already has been discussed in this thread, there are men that are wired to be such, just as there are women that are wired to be free.  But lets get into specifics, from the books as you asked for...

quote:

page 268 of Kajira of Gor says...
The laws of Ar, incidentally, do not require a similar visible token of bondage on the bodies of male slaves, or even any distinctive type of garments.  The historical explanation of this is that it was originally intended to make it difficult for male slaves to make contact with one another and to keep them from understanding how numerous they might be.  On the other hand, male slaves are not numerous, at least within the cities, as opposed to the great farms or the quarries, and they are, in fact, usually collared.

So it is obvious that not only are there male slaves, but they have been around for some time, and there are laws in place to keep them in that slavery.  That there are great numbers of male slaves out in the place one would expect to find them, labor intensive places, and that those are collared.  I hope we can at least agree that there are male slaves in a viable non fable example.

The second part I would ask is, do you believe that a free woman is not entitled to own property?  Would a slave not qualify as property?

I do agree with you that much of the books must also be looked at in the light of what they parody of the then current events.  I could take it to the extreme position and suggest that free women represent the feminist movement of the time, and the bitterness attributed to them towards slaves and also the "rights" bestowed upon them by the men, were mere metaphors for what women were becoming, and further that it was the place of men to either stop it or suffer their own fates.  But alas, I think both are true, there were metaphors and there is a nature inside of us that we be that which we are free or slave.

Just my quick opinions,
Thadius



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RE: Clarification please - 7/18/2008 10:37:40 AM   
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Tal Goreans,

I thought I’d offer a bit of Bovine flavor to this discussion. I’m going to hit you folks with my ideals on this. While these ideals were shaped or constructed by my own nature combine with those philosophies I gathered from the novels, I’m not going to offer a bunch of quotes or tell any of you how to think on this one, all I offer is my perspective and that’s pretty much the only thing any of us can do.

I love the idea of self determination, the freedom of choice. I have and will always fight for that ideal. If I was taken captive I’d never surrender the pursuit of my supposed freedom. I do that now in a society I feel robbed of certain freedoms. I consider times where our friend Tarl surrendered his freedom. Once he did it to save his life, and yet another time to save honor amongst men, and not just his own honor.

More often than not we as a species look for the simple answer and fail to forage deeper into the context of the natural or unnatural way of things. I love to stand beside men that value and cherish their freedoms. I admire a man that in the face of impending doom will never falter and in fact stand tall and proud. I want to be around men like this. Personally I’ve always been like this; but the Gorean philosophy I embrace defines this in the ethics and values it describes as most necessary and sought after in strong men. I have no desire to befriend a man that has no desire to live as free as he possibly can. I don’t despise him all that much, I simply am indifferent towards him. Whether he lives of dies has little value to me.

Like I think Trevelyan was earlier attempting to state this as well. I assume like he like me, are men that treasure our freedoms and personal liberties; we will in a way despise the ability of men that in our opinion “betray” or forgo these most prized concerns.

Take Tarl when in the book “Savages” takes the collar but is only somewhat treated as a slave. The men of the Kaiila knew the real reason and cause for his slavery and as he would have and did intend to stand to fight to the death, his courage and honor in that instance were dually noted and he though a slave had a certain degree of “respect” afforded him. Most often when he was there after treated as a slave it was meant to insult his “Master”, the man named Canka. So in this case I rather doubt the slave was despised, but surely the irony of this situation is clearly visible.

It is wise to remember that any man could become a “slave” or captive due to reasons beyond his own control. All men know this. I personally feel that is why our society has worked to care for its criminal element to the degree it has. Make laws with lenience in the event these laws are levied against ones self. Ever wonder if the judge that let’s the pedophile off easy might have all to good of understanding and reason for as much?

Things to ponder… Accountability and responsibility are scary virtues to face more often than not. A slave always has an excuse for his flaws and shortcomings. He is not personally responsible or accountable. Think about that tonight as you rest your weary eyes.

While the subject remains close at hand let us evaluate the Waniyanpi. Those “loathsome” creatures considered tame cattle. They were in fact the slaves of the Red Savages. To me they are much like a neutral country or a man that believes “we should lay down arms and bargain for peace”, a peace that most often if not entirely comes at the sacrifice of personal liberty. Those left under the defense and at the mercy of those that will allow them their “peace”.  I allow my slave a certain type of peace if she is pleasing to me.

All that being said it seems that Tarl and Grunt paid them (the Waniyanpi) little mind. They are actually insignificant in the grand scheme. So long as their perceived weaknesses don’t infringe upon the daily affairs of the free what should they even matter. They are after all, only slaves. So this being said I believe it is almost a waste of time and energy to even contemplate a sense of contempt for such “pathetic” creatures. It is the man that bargains his supposed “freedom”, for safety or sexual favor that is his own undoing. The only time I find consternation in this is when it affects my own life.

Look around you and see the laws written and the societal implications levied in the name of fairness and the promotion of an “equal” playing field. A society of constructed of “The Sames”. Bahhhhhh, this is horseshit and no law that restricts the progress of one in order to protect the apathy of another is remotely close to anything fair. Humanity by nature is designed to advance by greed and conflict.

But I digress; slaves exist on both sides of the coin as certainly as the reality of the coin itself. Nature, which is the base of Gorean philosophy,(at least our interpretation of nature) is only a general condition and in that will have exceptions. We must recognize these exceptions, work to understand their reason and not allow those that would deceive, or impart these less common conditions as the norm.

Simply because a man would find personal comfort at the feet of a woman or another man doesn’t mean I have to like or dislike him, I simply need to understand he may exist and that he like my natural female slave should be held to his submission perfectly and without condition.

I myself believe that natural slaves on both sides of the coin exist, more so for the submissive side of things, but like the fact that some female dominants exist, so do male slaves. Although neither creature is as common as our mixed up society suggests.

Now let us consider the free women despising the female slave. Imagine the natural slave, the naturally born beast oozing with sexuality and lust; that wondrous and beautiful creature that can with her smooth luxurious gate turn the head of most women and nearly all men.

Ponder this. What if you were in denial of your natural charms or at least attempting to deny them? What if you wanted for everything, to be free yet acknowledge yourself a slave? To have all that some of you think a woman is and yet  have these vicious men that say surrender completely or wear these robes to protect you from the certain fate of the collar. To have to deny your untamed sexuality in a cloak of robes simply to ensure you give all or nothing. To be made to ignore the best part of you simply to maintain some illusion of “freedom”. Well, why this will certainly spark angst and controversy I remind you this is only my miserable opinion of the Gorean philosophies. But wouldn’t you girls that scorn the slave like to spend just one secret week in the arms of a man that would abuse you freedom and insist you discover your hidden passions, uncover those female needs and not despise you for them, but rather embrace you and love the creature that needs him without condition.

Yes I can see why a “free” woman despises the slave girl. Isn’t the reason more than obvious? Men, powerful, strong men want her. They want to own her completely and without condition. They demand it, they will accept nothing less and though you hear differently all too often in open forum, the secret truths are known. The slave has made it impossible for the free woman to get everything she wants. No bargain shopping so long as that slut makes it needless No woman I have ever spoken with has been able to deny this possibility. It is after all, their side of the coin.

The interesting part is that women that really seek the type of freedoms I do as a man, could give two shits about a slave girl and her lust. They are content within their own existence. What I feel personally is those that harbor feelings of bitterness toward the slave do so out of a jealous nature. Why else even give a damn. Liz or Kimveri could give two hoots about my slut and what it is I do with her. They are “free” of this jealous nature towards their own personal freedoms. They are more than satisfied within the context of their own lives and who they are.

The one thing that we MUST stop trying to do as humans is attempt to assert commonality, fair and balanced natures. The idea that men and women are the same is preposterous. We have to stop attempting to look at different creatures in the same light. Until this ridiculous notion is suspended we will never discover harmony……….of any kind.

On a side note, Trevelyan my friend do you truly think that considering a slave on the level of owned property no different than cattle infers a Goreans despises them? I don’t believe I look at my ishy and see a cow or a dog; I damn sure don’t see a creature I despise. I’ve never wanted to take a cow in my arms and ravish it. Though I love to plant my nose into the hide of a newborn calf and breathe deeply. I do consider ishy my property the same as the cows in the pasture. She is my property. In all that is or is not, she belongs to me. You are a man of deep thought, ponder more on this. I love both of my dogs, and the cows for that matter, but those feeling plain in comparison to the female slave that withers and moans with delight trapped beneath me in the sheets of my bed. I don’t despise her, but I’ll tell you what I do despise in women. The woman that denies her true calling, her true nature. And while tons of women will read this and fuss, he isn’t talking about me. We all know this is often contrary to reality. Just asking. Ponder on this a bit my good neighbor.



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RE: Clarification please - 7/18/2008 10:41:15 AM   
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Greetings Cheryl

There is also a portion in the book about the Tahari where a male slave owned by a woman was kept in bondage while his fellow males slaves were freed.  Why, because he was deemed only fit for the feet of a woman.

There is a that law in Ar which forbids free women from couching males slaves she did not own, meaning those she did were couch material.

You know there is a lot of passages in the books about male slaves.

I agree with you about metaphors et all, but, if free women are just that a metaphor, why do you and I have that attached to our foreheads, are we just feminists or something else.  See if we selectively apply concepts to us as free, why does the opposite (male slaves) seem outstanding or impossible.

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RE: Clarification please - 7/18/2008 11:36:18 AM   
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Thadius,

I treasure, despise and love my slave.  All 3 at once.  My caste pride does not allow me to take more time from my work, but later I will elaborate.

The problem with  your arguement is two-fold:

First, you are an apologist.  It says it in the books, but you don't like it, so you make it go away and pretend that isn't what the books say.

Second, you are operating from a position of certainty.  You have Gor all figured out, there is nothing you don't understand, there is no possiblity for growth or deeper understanding. 

Thadius, do you respect your slave?

Would a Gorean from the books respect his slave?

Trevelyan

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RE: Clarification please - 7/18/2008 11:46:13 AM   
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Tal Bull,

Very quick answer my friend -

To be honest, this is a question I am trying to understand.  I have given a number of examples from the books of men despising their female slaves, even if at the same time they love and treasure her.  I have offered my explanation that it is because free Goreans so value their freedom that they despise anyone who would relinquish it. 

I have hoped for some intelligent discussion, but so far all I have gotten are excuses that Goreans don't despise their female slaves.  Ok, why do the books say they do?

What is the opposite of despise?  Respect?  I know for a while your FC was your slave.  Then you decided that, although she was willing, she should be your FC rather than  your slave.  What is different about the way you look at her rather that the way you look at your slave?  Is part of the difference the level of respect for feel for each, or what you respect in each?

More later, and thanks for your comments

Trevelyan

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RE: Clarification please - 7/18/2008 12:51:03 PM   
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Greetings Thadius,

Only have a small time to respond, but the clincher came for me when I asked myself the question "Did Tarl suddenly stop being Gorean when he was a slave?" I also still believe a salad is a salad, even with out the tomotoes.

Live well,
Orion

P.S. No you are not an Apologist, in my opinion.

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RE: Clarification please - 7/18/2008 12:55:26 PM   
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removed this becuase I think other people have handled it better and I am too well bred to take the bait

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RE: Clarification please - 7/18/2008 1:37:24 PM   
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Tal Trevelyan,

I sure understand the idea of despising someone that can willing surrender their freedom and in fact I feel that way towards men and had trouble understanding the female perspective of in fact being eager to surrender their autonomy.

Natalie was made a “slave” when I was actually playing this Master / slave thing in the BDSM sense. While I thought as a Gorean man in many ways as it pertains to my man to man interactions, Natalie as my slave was started before I actually started applying the Gorean philosophies directly to my life.

Natalie was much more like a free companion all the time, even while I was calling her a slave. If you recall any of my older ramblings I acknowledge as I learned more I discovered that in my opinion wasn’t living consistent with what I believed a Gorean man would with his free companion or slave. She though submissive simply wasn’t a slave to me. I don’t see her as an equal on many levels and I am the leader of my home, she is in fact rather submissive to me and more so than other free companions are with the mates. I know Kimveri to be much more autonomous to Unbuilder than what Natalie is to me. If you see them look at one another you know that works great for them, for me, my truth rings a different tone.

All the same, that is not the contention, and to each their own. I would imagine that there were various degrees of autonomy within each home between companions; to me this would depend on the man. This was also a good reason to make the companionship for a year at a time. If you don’t like her opinions wish her well, if she thinks you’re an ass, she can wish you well. Just imagine how much more efficient this society would be operating under this plan versus the Roman Catholic monotype of doctrine that we have crammed down our throats at present.

Natalie is no longer a good point of reference of any type in which to evaluate these master/slave feelings, to be honest I doubt she ever really was; at least for me. You see while I found it possible to lead her, it has also been demonstrated I am unable to completely master her, I find that to be a tribute to her. Perhaps I am simply too weak when it comes to her. I suppose I could despise her for that. (chuckles)

I can’t pretend I know it all as far as this Gorean philosophical pursuit goes my friend. I can only impart upon you what I feel, what I have learned and discuss that with men like you and pray that good minds can work together to solve the riddles of our minds.

While it is surely possible to despise anyone and certainly one that surrenders their freedom, I’m left to wonder does that always leave me justified in those feelings? It seems to me that in the case of the natural slave if I despise her for being who she is, then I must certainly expect her to despise me for being such an overbearing and demanding asshole that expects absolute obedience. While I doubt this will always truly be the case for either of us. You are well within your right to despise anyone for any reason and would be lying if I said differently. But in the end what is it that you despise.

I will tell you this, for all I have pretended to know or actually do know, my time with this new girl is teaching me things daily about myself, her and the mastery of a woman. Each day I discover depths of slavery I had not previously known. I have always looked around here and have I seen examples of what I suspect is slavery in advanced states within girls like Fairer, Edana, Ally and a few other. I am still learning my strength with the slave, and it’s not only wondrous it’s amazing.

And yes I am the type that would even expect too much from a free woman. But I think I’ll have to reserve the right to later explain in deeper detail my feelings about slavery, I’m learning as we speak and I find I’m amazed with this natural slave girl I presently have. I discovered I have much to explore even about myself. Stay tuned……..

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RE: Clarification please - 7/18/2008 3:53:02 PM   
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ORIGINAL: Trevelyan

Thadius,

I treasure, despise and love my slave.  All 3 at once.  My caste pride does not allow me to take more time from my work, but later I will elaborate.

The problem with  your arguement is two-fold:

First, you are an apologist.  It says it in the books, but you don't like it, so you make it go away and pretend that isn't what the books say.

Second, you are operating from a position of certainty.  You have Gor all figured out, there is nothing you don't understand, there is no possiblity for growth or deeper understanding. 

Thadius, do you respect your slave?

Would a Gorean from the books respect his slave?

Trevelyan


Trevelyan,

I can't wait to hear who or what you believe I am being an apologist for.  You seem to be confused, I am making excuses for nobody.  Do you see in my post where I say making broad generalizations about all slaves or all Goreans is where your argument is flawed?  If you are going to argue that all of everybody feels or thinks one way, your argument is over, it is flawed from the start.  If you are going to argue that there are no deviations in nature, that all of one gender is wired exactly the same way, your argument is over, it is flawed from the start.

Now to the ad hom, please show me where I have ever said I know everything and that I have all of Gor figured out.  Any post, any time, or from any site.  Are you not arguing this very point from a point of certainty? If you are not certain of your position or thinking on it then why debate so vigorously?  If and when I am wrong I freely admit to it. 

Now on to your characterization of the discussion so far....

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I have hoped for some intelligent discussion, but so far all I have gotten are excuses that Goreans don't despise their female slaves.  Ok, why do the books say they do?

What is the opposite of despise?  Respect?


It is a shame that this is the way you think about the discussion, because I don't agree with you I am making excuses about the subject.  Please show me where I have said that some Goreans don't despise their slaves or slaves in general. My stance is that not ALL Goreans despise their slaves.  So let me just get to the quick here.  Again we are in a semantics agrument.

The opposite of despise is admire. 

ad·mire [ad-mahyuhr]
–verb (used with object)

1. to regard with wonder, pleasure, or approval
2. to regard with wonder or surprise (usually used ironically or sarcastically) : I admire your audacity
–verb (used without object)
3. to feel or express admiration
4. to take pleasure; like or desire
—Antonyms 1920. despise. 
de·spise
1. To regard with contempt or scorn: despised all cowards and flatterers.
2. To dislike intensely; loathe: despised the frigid weather in January.
3. To regard as unworthy of one's interest or concern

I would suggest that what many despise is the act of giving up their freedom, as it doesn't seem to fit within our own positions, and that yes in some cases the slave is the target of the loathing and even seen as unworthy of ones interest.  Am I as a Gorean man supposed to despise my slave from now until eternity, for brining out in her that which is natural, for increasing her awareness of what she is?  If that is the case, then am I not condemning that which I am helping to make?
 
Oh and to answer your baited question, do I respect my slave or would a Gorean from the books respect his slave?  Bull already touched on a perfect example, when Tarl takes the collar of Canka, there is a dicotomy to the question and even some irony in it.  Though in the interest of continuing discussion, I know exactly what to do with my girl and she knows her place.
 
To sum things up,  I believe there are some people that I despise, there is not a big tent, one sized fits all rule to who I despise.  I like the fact that I am free to make that decision based on interactions and my own judgements.  Being civil in disagreement is not the same as being an apologist.  I look forward to you providing proof as to any of the statements that you made about my character.
 
That's it for now,
Thadius

 

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RE: Clarification please - 7/18/2008 3:59:48 PM   
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ORIGINAL: OrionTheWolf

Greetings Thadius,

Only have a small time to respond, but the clincher came for me when I asked myself the question "Did Tarl suddenly stop being Gorean when he was a slave?" I also still believe a salad is a salad, even with out the tomotoes.

Live well,
Orion

P.S. No you are not an Apologist, in my opinion.


Afternoon Orion,

That is definitely a good question to ponder, and I will.  My first thoughts are that no he did not stop being Gorean, as he was already of Gor at the time he became slave.  I suppose there are other exceptions to the blanket statement of "slaves are not Gorean".  I am sure you are familiar with my posits that being a Gorean slave (a slave owned by a Gorean) does not make the slave Gorean.  I will reflect on the question though.

I wish you well,
Thadius

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RE: Clarification please - 7/18/2008 4:59:15 PM   
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Dear Thadius:

Or rather Greetings as those Gorean types are known to say. I would say despise is a rather hard word.. they might not actually despise the state of a slave, it more like the find the need for that state fathomless.  They could not fathom the depths it would take to live thusly, I think Goreans rather admire the strength it takes a slave to live that kind of prision of their own making. I think Goreans rather admire slaves for they pleasure they give, for they beauty of service, for their their talents and still they can not fathom their need to be freedomless. I do not think they despise them for their need to be a slave for it would be UnGorean to despise the tree for being a tree but they can not understand what being a tree is no matter how beautiful and useful that tree proves to be. I agree with Bull that some free women and maybe even free men envy those who are slaves and treat them with distain because they wish they knew the weight of steel. It has never been my experience that slaves are treated poorly or intentionally as less than, rather they are simply like some odd species interesting, useful, beautiful and completely incomprehensable to someone who is not a slave.

Peace be with you
SD

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