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RE: Advice to male subs: Don't send an email to a woman... - 7/29/2008 6:07:21 PM

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I'm actually not in the market for sympathy.. its really not necessary

would I change it, yes, if I could and I use the features here to the maximum extent I can to minimize what happens...

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RE: Advice to male subs: Don't send an email to a woman... - 7/29/2008 6:09:08 PM

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You can fuck with their heads by staying logged on for days and days and days...

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RE: Advice to male subs: Don't send an email to a woman... - 7/29/2008 6:14:42 PM

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I suppose I owe this thread a serious post. I have a personal policy of never emailing a woman unless she's been on the site for more than 30 days. I've made a few exceptions when someone made a post on a message board, but those were never hitting-on-her emails. Recently, I did not realize someone had just put up pics when I emailed her, and I sent a followup email apologizing for cluttering her inbox, and asking her to get back whenever she could but not to prioritize it.

The issue really is quality, not quantity. I would rather approach a lady after she has had to deal with 1,500 wankers. I love wankers. Sorry gals, but I frikkin love wankers. The kind of emails a woman gets while on the new users list is great for someone like me, who writes short, funny notes that talk about something in her profile. Hell, I got messaged by someone an hour ago, and I told her I couldn't hit on her because I had a date with someone else this weekend, but maybe we'll meet as friends sometime in August.

It is total BS that the women on this site are fake, or not really looking, or only looking for 6' tall Olympic champions. Every frustrated guy should read Stefann's "How to Find a Woman Here" thread. Meeting the love of your life? Not easy. Making friends and getting dates? Not that hard.

Edited to add: Master Fire, you are a sadist!!!!!!

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RE: Advice to male subs: Don't send an email to a woman... - 7/29/2008 6:53:42 PM

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I really don't care when someone emails me. Lots of them seem to be trying to generate some kind of chat, which I generally ignore (though I respond to How are you? with I am well, thank you). If they have any of my NO words in their name, like sissy, or worm, they get deleted. It's really not that big a deal, is it?

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RE: Advice to male subs: Don't send an email to a woman... - 7/30/2008 12:52:39 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: MasterFireMaam
You can fuck with their heads by staying logged on for days and days and days...

Heh... more than doable, for those who want to have computer turned on 24/7. A small HTML file opened in browser would keep it this way.

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RE: Advice to male subs: Don't send an email to a woman... - 7/30/2008 3:12:04 AM

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How can anyone say that they are getting unsolisited mail. If you have a profile up you are soliciting mail.

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RE: Advice to male subs: Don't send an email to a woman... - 7/30/2008 6:32:46 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: StrongSpirit

1. I have in the past been accused of sending form-emails. I have NEVER done this. Not once. Every time I send an email I read her profile. But sometimes the profile is short/not-existent, so my email is not always personalized. If you truly dislike form emails, then make sure you have a long profile that talks about yourself. I'm always amazed at how short some profiles are.

you're one of the few however i encountered many unlike yourself who send form letters and/or copy/paste their info off their profiles. i had one yesterday who assumed i was looking with a pasted copy of what he wrote on his profile. natuarally i knew he didn't bother to read my short profile (he was too busy drooling over my pictures) which clearly states in nice bold lettering - currently not looking here for forums only. whether the profiles are long or short - men don't read ...they're more attracted to the pretty pictures attached to the profiles.

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RE: Advice to male subs: Don't send an email to a woman... - 8/5/2008 11:26:03 PM

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Thank You for theadvice AAkasha,
To be honest, although ive never intentionally done this, i have been known to be impulsive and if something catches me eye, tend to mail either then and there, or as soon as ive had time to find the right words, Either to just comment on a profile/pic/journal entry, or make a more detailed introduction.
So any advice that may help my mails being well received is always welcome.

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RE: Advice to male subs: Don't send an email to a woman... - 8/6/2008 9:53:24 AM

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I said this in another thread but I will repeat it since the subject is close enough. Where people whine about not getting even a short response back to their most detailed messages, isnt it normal they start sending same short messages to as much people as possible hoping maybe few in hundred will reply them?

While this is not what I am advocating, I still find it very natural, and I do not think neither side will pay more attention to each other any time soon.

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RE: Advice to male subs: Don't send an email to a woman... - 8/7/2008 4:44:08 PM

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I used to get this when I was first here registered as a sub (before I understood what a switch was), but now I don't get it as I'm registered as a switch... it's odd but predictable.

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RE: Advice to male subs: Don't send an email to a woman... - 8/8/2008 1:00:33 AM

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Well, im a guy, (hopefully you can tell by my pic ^^) Im a bisexual sub. I have had 6 women view my profile and 30something men also about 85% of all my messages are from men.

I dont think its just mistreses. I think men think other men are easy too =/ Which is a shame as im put into a group =/

Edit: Erm wait a second my pic is gone =/

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RE: Advice to male subs: Don't send an email to a woman... - 8/9/2008 1:46:19 AM

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In my experience it's the same exact thing for subs (i can only speak for male ones obviously, ha). Even dom women love emailing subs once claiming extreme curiosity only to disappear immediately after or end up only wanting someone to lock up in their basement to perform oral on them 24/7 -_- It's kinda disheartening how many women that say they 'only desire service' later decide that service means 'only if you'll clean naked while going down on me on command!' or something ridiculous like i mentioned.

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RE: Advice to male subs: Don't send an email to a woman... - 8/10/2008 8:24:29 PM

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I have in my profile about my medical issues but so many of the Dom's who write me have never checked it out. They just look at my picture and that's it. I always tell them in the first email read my profile it tells important medical information then we will talk further. Some come back some don't. Those that are from other counteries and are 18-24 i just send a form response back.
Good grief I am 53 what do i want with a 23 yr old from Africia or Poland. 46 is the youngest I will go and he has to be special.

i never knew whether to made a contact with the Dom's first or not but have started to now. Anyway figured they can just say not interested, which a lot do, i just don't bother them again.

How do you work it though when someomne is on the other side of the country? i hate to fly to CA to meet a guy and he be a fake it's too expensive to do that.

thanks this has been an great discussion.

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RE: Advice to male subs: Don't send an email to a woman... - 8/11/2008 10:20:25 PM

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Wow. I have been enlightened. I was just about to shut my profile down because of all the really "whiny pay attention to me" emails that I get when I logon. I have gotten some really positive emails from subs that I like but their messages get lost in the waves of other emails.

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RE: Advice to male subs: Don't send an email to a woman... - 8/12/2008 6:05:18 AM

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Trust me. I receive too damn many emails when I log on. I'm literally inundated with them. Yes, most are 'wanna IM'? What's your phone #? Is that really you in the pic? I do my best to respond personally and reject politely. When I do, they are upset because they know they were meant to own me. Or they get whiny about it.

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RE: Advice to male subs: Don't send an email to a woman... - 8/12/2008 8:19:11 AM

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I'm not entirely sure how to tell if someone is even logged in or not :P But when I do searches I start at the top from most recently logged in and go from there. Sometimes they are logged on sometimes they are not, and sometimes they haven't been on in weeks.

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RE: Advice to male subs: Don't send an email to a woman... - 8/12/2008 11:20:01 AM

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When you log in, you go to the top of the queue. If you get a flurry of emails as soon as you log in, "SOMETHING IN YOUR PROFILES CATCHES THEY EYE".

Solution is to change your top picture to one in a flannel robe and a bad case of "bed hair". That would at least get a differnt fetish emailing. <grin>

Me, I just get flurries from the Ghana Girls after logging on.

Stefan

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