Mercnbeth
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I would like to ask all here, what would YOUR reaction/feeling be on overhearing that statement? julj, When beth and I consummated our relationship as Master and slave it was because it was the culmination of our relationship up to that point. There was a lot of discussion, thought, and reflection. We wanted to take the relationship deeper, more "formal", more structured. There were rules and a contract signed by both of us. We each wear a tattoo that represents our commitment. We made arrangements to live together. We live as Master and slave. We do so for US. We do so because we each believe we have found a person, and a way of life with that person that satisfies us on every level. Sometime soon, we'll also be man & wife. It may occur at some far away romantic setting, it may occur on a last minute trip to Vegas, it may occur at our home, we've even considered having one of our friends in the lifestyle who has a "minister's" license perform a ceremony. Whenever that happens it will be for "effect" more than any other reason. Although I have made arrangements handling most of the legal aspects of a non-married couples including health coverage, property ownership, etc; the "piece of paper" is still the best way to cover all the bases. You can not "split the baby". There is no switch in beth that flips from slave/mom, slave/friend/, slave/daughter, slave/sibling. Slave/wife switch is just not possible. slave is what she is. Wife is a label that gives other people perspective, who don't understand or can't relate to a slave existence or a slave identity. You need to put that perspective into the answer to your question. I don't know what came first in your relationship, a M/s dynamic or "discovering" M/s within your marriage. I would think because of social stereotyping the transition is more difficult if your relationship was first established with traditional husband/wife roles. There needs to be a determination of the fundamental base of the relationship dynamic. Be it husband/wife or Master/slave. I would suggest that if confusion exists with either party more dialog is necessary. Without both parties being confident in the dynamic and what is expected within the dynamic, there can be nothing but doubt on both sides. Having all those thoughts in mind, if I overheard that comment my though would be; "They need to talk more." A slave shouldn't feel bad when requesting something of their owner. A Master shouldn't feel weak when granting the request. Being considerate, being nice, are not "anti-Master" traits! Saying no or saying yes to beth doesn't involve a need to determine if beth slave or beth wife is asking. Between us, wife beth will NEVER exist. Does that mean that we only do and she only gets what I want? Does it mean that she never gets unexpected "vanilla" treats? Does that mean she never gets to enjoy something that I have no interest or desire? No to all questions! Just last night we went to see Narnia. TRUST ME - That wasn't something I wanted to see; but we went. It was a no plans Sunday night, the tree was decorated and there was nothing better to do. I knew how much it meant to beth to see the movie on the big screen. And no, after going I wasn't "pleasantly surprised" that I enjoyed the movie. I commented to her that I felt we had to go home and watch some porn just to re-adjust our head-space. The important "bottom line" is that I did enjoy the company of beth, my slave.
< Message edited by Mercnbeth -- 12/12/2005 8:16:33 AM >
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