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"i'm not gay, but...." - 10/26/2008 10:52:04 AM

TexasMaam

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I'm sure I'm not the only Domme here who regularly receives tentative little emails from an incomplete profile that usually read something like this:

"hello, I'm not gay, but lately I've been wanting to be forced by a strict Domme to submit to (fill in your blank here: 'sex', 'bondage', 'pain', 'anal', 'oral').......with another of Her male subs...."

These emails are usually sent from a profile that has been deleted.

I've disregarded them, for the most part, assuming they were from some clandestine bi sexual male wanting to find an outlet for his homosexual play outside of his marriage.

Lately, though, I've begun to wonder whether My submissive is secretly trying to clue Me in to his deepest, darkest taboo.

A former sub of mine once admitted to secretly craving being forced into sex play with another male sub, and although we never engaged another male sub for play, I believe he was being honest when he said it was one of those fantasies that he was certain was better in his imagination than it would ever be for him real-time.

Yes, my new sub and I have discussed the topic. He has always adamantly insisted that he has a hard limit when it comes to multiple partners or sub-on-sub action.

I'm getting this email so frequently now that I can't help but wonder .....

Random emails? Previous sub? Current sub?

What do you think?

Anyone with any Comments? Confessions? Examples? Stories?

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RE: "i'm not gay, but...." - 10/26/2008 10:54:11 AM

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Well, this seems like an invitation to a mindfuck scene... But I have been feeling extra-sadistic lately.

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RE: "i'm not gay, but...." - 10/26/2008 10:56:40 AM

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Watch some gay porn with him. See how he reacts to it. If he really has those fantasies, it might just get him into the mood to confess...

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RE: "i'm not gay, but...." - 10/26/2008 1:54:09 PM

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My Lady has detailed fantasies about such between myself and another male sub and so I know that it is in my future if She/we can find someone appropriate. I am at once, attracted, ambivalent, terrified, and intrigued by it. I am bisexual, but it has been nearly 20 years since I was with a male...and so it will be an adventure...yea...

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RE: "i'm not gay, but...." - 10/26/2008 2:32:31 PM

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im not gay...but YOUR girlfriend IS!

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RE: "i'm not gay, but...." - 10/26/2008 6:40:54 PM

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Something similar to this occurred to me last night. I was playing with Distraction -- he's not gay, but ...

I know he considers himself heterosexual although he doesn't define sexual orientation the way I do (more on that later). He does however have a lot of fantasies of sucking another man, and also being taken by another man, as opposed to my strap on. I know ALL of this would come not so much under the heading of 'forced' but rather 'for me' or as he says "all for your pleasure Ma'am". I would enjoy it. I believe its a safe place for him to get out some desires etc, if I were there controlling and directing. But it did occur to me, briefly that perhaps hes a bit more homosexual than he'd like to admit. That said, I have never associated orientation completely with sexual activities.

I define orientation to be really about who my romantic relationships are with and who I'm most likely to settle down with. For me, I could say... I'm a lesbian, but ... because I am a lesbian but I do enjoy men, I play with men, and yes, occasionally have sex with men. That said, I don't consider myself anything less than a lesbian as I will most likely only have romantic (and sexual) long term relationships with women.

Long post.. but since this kind of ran through my head in the wee hours of the morning today, I thought I'd respond.

ETA: and perhaps because I feel my orientation is fairly complicated, I think in general that sexual orientation is very complicated and not as cut and dried as we'd like it to be.

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