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Different views... - 12/14/2005 10:04:58 AM

lisaSea

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Greetings Masters, Mistresses and slaves..

This recently came up in discussion with another slave and after I ceased laughing, it caused me to think abit.

We were chatting about nothing incidental and I made the comment that Master and I often, don't see eye to eye. Well, this shocked her...I was asked "why not".

My reply was that he is a man, I am a woman...we have different backgrounds, uprbringings, etc.. While I can many times guess what he wants before he asks for it, that doesn't mean we have the same thought process on every subject tossed our way.

I am bringing it here, to find out if others retain differences, after surrender...or ?

Master is stricter on things I would be lenient on, and on other topics, he can be a little more forgiving then I. He likes museums, I prefer Ren Faires, he likes solitude, I love a party. Does anyone give of themselves so completely as to take on the others personality, likes and dislikes in the process, loosing their own?

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RE: Different views... - 12/14/2005 11:08:08 AM

Webmaster60

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Does anyone give of themselves so completely as to take on the others personality, likes and dislikes in the process, loosing their own?

This applies to people in general, without regard to the lifestyle imo. I don't think that one necessarily loses oneself, though its certainly possible.. But, through time, I believe we tend to "grow together" or toward one another. Now, the more dominant or submissive a person is, does tend to determine who does "more" of the changing.

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RE: Different views... - 12/14/2005 2:23:17 PM

nephandi

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Well me and my fiancee that might become my Master have drifted closer and closer together, getting more and more intrests in common, i have begun to like electronics for example, noen of us have lost ourself, we have just bled a bit over into one another. And here the other day he suprised me, you see i was down and he paid for me to have acrylic nails made, a realy girly thing to do that made me feel like a paperd princess, but my fiancee have always hated nail polish and especialy acrylics, but here the other day he said anja your nails and the color on them are realy nice, he hated less what i liked, we are mixing and adding, but not loosing anything.

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RE: Different views... - 12/14/2005 3:44:05 PM

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ORIGINAL: lisaSea

Does anyone give of themselves so completely as to take on the others personality, likes and dislikes in the process, loosing their own?

greetings Masters, Mistresses and slaves..

i think it happens with certain likes, that they start to become more fluid with each other just because of time spent together and learning the person more. however i also happen to agree that not always agreeing is a good thing..as long as it is done constructively and respectfully. i would like to think i can have a great discussion on things with my Master, or have some parts of my life that are seperate from my Master just for the mere sake of enjoying myself and my personality. and i also am sure he wouldn't want me agreeing just to say he is right about things all the time or have me hanging around him every moment of the day to do everything he does. i haven't met too many that become owned and completely lose themselves in the process. While they may sacrifice certain aspects..they still retain who they are overall. i find it very healthy.

with an allowed voice..

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RE: Different views... - 12/14/2005 3:52:07 PM

nephandi

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my Master always says he do not want to own a copy of himself a foot shorter and whit boobs, he wants somone to talk whit to discuss whit, we are not copies of one another, but intrests, at least some of them start to bleed over.

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