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RE: Stiffed - 11/30/2008 8:04:10 PM

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I admit to not meeting many Goreans, those I did meet in the UK while I still had the money and ability to take weekends away were not Gorean in my eyes. Though I had better luck in Arkansas, the difference in mindset is quite surprising.

Hopefully in the future I will be able to travel and meet again, though in all honesty it most likely won’t be UK Goreans and I personally wouldn’t meet unless it was an organised group meeting with many people who have already met each other. But as I am not looking for a relationship I have no need to go off to meet people on a one to one basis anyway.

My main advice is to find groups and meet that way and ask around, as this is primarily a dating site (I loose track of how many times I have been asked why I am here if I am not looking to meet either a master or a submissive/slave) many here have met each other or knows of those who have met.

On average I feel safer meeting people I have met on-line and who have met others than I ever did meeting some stranger on a night out with the girls during my single days.

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RE: Stiffed - 11/30/2008 8:47:30 PM

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Greetings ygraine,

Good topic....

First i would like to express my disappointment that one of my favorite threads was used to "out" another individual...being free or slave identifying either party disturbs me less than the actually airing of dirty laundry with names attached...

When i first re-entered the dating arena 3 years ago, i made many mistakes and fortunately i am still here and unharmed to say that i have learned plenty. My personal stance on this echos Elizabeth's...personal responsibilty for both wise choices and foolish mistakes and errors in judgement. The other person's contribution to the situation is really insignificant, right or wrong. It is how we approach and react to our own experiences that is important. Having a plan for several outcomes is a really good idea as well~

i agree with angel about the self-labeling slave. i have noticed that some girls will relinguish personal responsibility under the label of slave. i could really care less what ones heart tells them they "are", until they are owned they are not slave and should exercise every bit of personal responsibilty when meeting prospective owners.

And certainly the demonstrated behavior backfires on the author of the post.

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RE: Stiffed - 11/30/2008 11:51:53 PM

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Greetings Mistress Ygraine

As others have said- learn everything you can about the person. I would also think it necessary to take any warnings to heart and that if something doesn't seem right it probably isn't. I would think to keep with instinct too, that's why we possess it.

Thank you for the question Mistress

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RE: Stiffed - 12/5/2008 3:04:05 PM

Aswad

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ORIGINAL: OrionTheWolf

Good advice given all around. An additional comment would be that there are some out there that apparently live as Goreans, but have never heard of any of us because they were never big into being online.

I usually try to view the online and offline personas as distinct, since I have found that some people who are interesting offline, will find themselves blocked online by me, and vice versa. When the online and offline personas align, that's an exception that shouldn't occur, since human behavior is largely judged by how one responds in a situation, and any online interaction lacks certain things that are present offline, meaning the persona can't be identical, unless this person is "blind" to those cues offline.

That said, I have only found one Gorean in range of my travel budget that I would be interested in meeting (Camerius), so it seems unlikely to establish offline credibility until I have found the time and funds for a visit to the US. As far as the UK is concerned, I only know of two posters here that live in the UK, one of which is not interesting, and the other of which I would most likely get into an altercation with if our offline interactions resemble the online ones, so not that productive.

Regardless, this remains a place to meet interesting online personas that serve as good candidates for offline persons to meet when I get the chance to.

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RE: Stiffed - 12/5/2008 4:30:45 PM

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fast reply

a wise person once told me the following......no one can play you unless you hand over the instrument......simple, yet so profound imho

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RE: Stiffed - 12/5/2008 10:44:41 PM

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Tal Aswad,

If you are ever in the US, and visiting or wish to visit the SE US, you would be my guest. Nothing exceptional here, just a houshold of 8 and 4 pets (5 if you include my property). Peaceful, relaxing and not a lot to do but can show you many of the trails and nature areas around here.

Live well,
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RE: Stiffed - 12/6/2008 3:30:55 AM

Aswad

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Tal Orion,

I will keep that in mind. The states with people I hope to visit include SC, NV, FL and TX, but only SC- specifically, Charleston- is a definite destination, and the reason for going, despite my reservations about entering US territory. If one of these is within a reasonable distance, I would love to meet up. Some idea of travel time and expenses would be a plus, but I'm not going until I've set aside funds with a good margin, so it's not critical. I'm not adverse to half-day hikes, if the terrain matches my health, but it'll be a while before I can go further than that.

The same invitation extends to you, of course, although I may need a couple of weeks heads-up to make the stay as pleasant as I'd like it to be. We've little to see locally, but there's a UNESCO World Heritage Site on the outskirts of the city, a bus ride from here, and a fair number of mountain trails in the immediate area around the city. Simple matter to arrange a cottage in the mountains, for that matter. Plenty of places to walk locally, but fewer places to hike, I'm afraid. And you have to watch out for runaway sheep sometimes. -lol-

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