Hiskajirah
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Greetings CaringandReal
I do believe that the actual roots of maturity can only come with age and progression into later age. The reason I believe this is due to the fact that an 18 year old cannot possess the learning experiences as a 30 year old. I also believe it is possible though not likely that a 30 year old can possess the maturity and experiences of a 50 year old.
Maturity matures at levels of living, education, having a strong work ethic, a code of ethics, understanding choice, making decisions, facing the outcomes, fixing errors, maintaining consistency, accepting life's downfalls, having the courage to pick it back up and start again despite the hills and valleys which might discourage accomplishment. Where there's a will, there's a way.
While a man of early 20's may have already lived a life filled with the trials and tribulations of a man of 50, he is still only in his 20's. He may have learned to cope and accept life's ups and downs, but the probability of him doing so more than likely lies only upon the ability of doing so only for himself. He may achieve this for himself and this is a great achievement in itself, but having another, a submissive or a slave to also take care of, and take care of in the same way during good, bad, or similar to his own previous mishaps, changes everything. Having learned and succeeded in hard times may give him a head start at a young age, but has he been able to master himself thoroughly through his early and young learning experience? I highly doubt it. He has to have been already capable of mastering himself in order to fully master another. Roots of maturity include accepting consequences, enduring them, resolving them, standing firm, beating the odds when it seems all odds are against him and being his own person. above all others. This means be you, don't follow. Agree if it's what you truly believe, disagree if it's how you feel, but don't agree just so you might think you're fitting in.
In my experience and observance, Goreans do what they say and say what they do. Gorean men lead from their own beliefs, expectations, codes and convictions (Which are generally similar to their fellow Goreans, but not always) and while others may not agree with a post in part or in it's entirety, respect for the thought, idea or belief is respected.
Actual roots of maturity?
If you whine, continuously say you are sorry, call pity upon yourself directly or indirectly (meaning perhaps you don't even know you're doing it, but we do), pout and have a personality or demeanor that thinks or believes everyone is out to get you, um... With all due respect, you haven't even reached a novice level of maturity. Often times even a novice would not attempt to seek a type of sympathy but instead would be thankful for the information they receive and make no excuses for any short comings or obstacles which might be in their way.
Read what's offered by all, re read it and seek to understand it.
I wish you well,
~twinkle
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What are the actual roots of maturity? quote:
ORIGINAL: CaringandReal
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ORIGINAL: lusciouslips19
Because someone who is young hasnt had the life experiences to master themselves. You need to Master yourself before you can truly Master others. Those who are younger dont have the self control that is developed through maturity. this is why..
I've known 19-year-old dominants that, until I found out their actual age, I thought were in their 50s. I met such people at a time when I'd had years of experience living as a slave, so it wasn't exactly inexperience informing my opinion. While such people are the exception, not the rule, these extraordinary exceptions lead me to believe that there is something other than chronological years that contributes to self-control, objectiveness, restraint, clear-headed judgement, compassion, and other traits we associate with maturity. All of this can begin even younger than 19, in fact.
I'm much more inclined to believe the theory that years do not make maturity, however, thanks to an opposite experience, granted by this wonderful website, in which men in their 4th, 5th, and 6th decades not infreqently demonstrate a level of emotional sophistication and self-contol that would totally shame an eight year old.
When it comes to maturity, quite clearly there is something at work here that has little or nothing to do with the amount of time served on one's life sentence. But what does it have to do with then? What are the actual roots of maturity? That's a question that's been puzzling me for years.
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