cubletMS -> RE: "I will only submit to a person I can respect" (1/16/2009 10:52:45 AM)
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i think it depends in what context that is being said. If it being said as a statement, in a profile or something, then yes- i can see why people would say that's stating the obvious. But there are two other points or views that come up in my head. A lot of people have said "well why would you be in a relationship to someone you don't respect?". But so far, in my relatively short experience with BDSM, i have already come across many "subs/slaves" who will seemingly submit to lots of people, especially in a sexual context. i am not saying they are people who run around doing whatever with anyone. Just that if they meet a Dom/me for play purposes who is experienced and knows what they are doing in that sphere, then it doesn't much matter about anything else and they can get fulfillment from it and be just as motivated to submit. i think that this statement could apply to some kind of interaction outside of a committed realtionship context. The other point that occured to me was- this statement could also take on a different meaning within the context of a more in depth conversation. I have said things like this before. All it means to me is that i do not find submitting to anyone (sexually or otherwise) fulfilling or a turn on at all unless i at the very least respect and admire them. For me to be able to give my utmost to the best of my ability it helps even more if i love the person i am submitting to. Therefore- because just submitting on its own, with no intimate, emotional dynamic has no interest to me- i will only submit to a person i can respect. It is not a demand that someone else be respectable. Just a simple statement of how i feel inside. In that respect- i think it can simply be a qualifying statement. As in- i am like this, not like this. cubletMS xxx
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