pettaurus -> RE: Finding your Dominant (1/9/2006 7:50:46 AM)
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I have one for you. Master and I met online. AOL to be exact, in a local chat room. We had been talking on and off for sometime. One night, I was in a very manic state of mind, and HAD to get out of the house. But I couldnt find anyone to go with me. So, I signed on, and Master was there, so I asked Him out for coffee. It was all totally vanilla. He knew I was submissive. Yes, I had told Him. He chose at that time, not to explore it, but, we remained as a vanilla couple. Subs can pick out the same thing in Doms, that Doms can in us subs. I myself prefer to "date" for a while first, before we really start discussing me submitting to them. I want an established relationship first. If the kink is the only thing holding you together, what happens if that has to leave unexpectedly? you are left wondering what happened. IMO, there needs to be an established relationship seperate from the D/s. I was in a relationship where, it was D/s from the start. It ended vanilla when He passed away. after the D/s left, we struggled to re establish something there. We worked on it untill He passed away. D/s has been incorporated into our lives for three months now. And I have never been happier or more content. pet
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