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ORIGINAL: welcomerain

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Hi there, I loved your profile. May I say how beautifully written it is. I am a single ,genuine and real life sub guy. I hope to one day meet the Domme of my dreams, I know relationships must be built on trust and mutual attraction and I know these things can take time to build. I would really like to learn more about you and see if there is any chemistry between us that could be a foundation for something more.

What galls me a little is that my response to a woman who seemed to be seriously looking for someone would sound very similar, although I'd never send the same reply to more than one person. Almost everyone that might be a plausible domme for me has probably had to sift through a lot of this pap and the usual array of guys looking for a kinky one-nighter. Its annoying to think that trying to write a serious reply would end up making someone's eyes glaze over she's seen too many generic replies using the same kind of language.

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For me, and maybe others, the best way to show that you're not sending a form letter is to at least talk to some of the profile, if not the whole thing.  I think I'd be very impressed if someone used my profile as their guide to write me.  Ultimately, to me, that means they've read AND most importantly, digested and paid attention.

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Say in the very first line, "I see you mention ____ in your profile," where the blank includes something that couldn't possibly refer to anything but HER profile. You don't even have to agree with it.

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It's much more important to demonstrate that you are honest, direct and can pay attention, than it is to sound compatible with her every desire. Anyone mature knows that kind of compatibility takes a lot of work -- and the honest and pay-attention skills are what you need to do that kind of work.