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rastermanblu -> RE: online gone wrong (2/11/2009 6:33:52 PM)

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ORIGINAL: lusciouslips19


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ORIGINAL: rastermanblu

Time out for me.  this turned out to be a pretty popular thread.  That is way cool.




[image]http://www.collarchat.com/micons/m28.gif[/image]  I am so busted...Good night.



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IrishMist -> RE: online gone wrong (2/12/2009 4:45:18 AM)

~fast and general reply~

You know what I find amazing?

That everyone here is attempting to tell a 52 year old man how to have a relationship. I don't care if it's online or in real life...FFS, he's 52 fucking years old...I would guess that he has been around the block a few times and that his only reason for coming here was to get some sympathy for the 'stupid, empty headed bitch of a submissive who would dare to say she was not interested in him".

Either way, no matter the reason...one thing is perfectly clear to me just from reading him here....he obviously got the attention and sympathy that he was craving from all the bleeding hearts that reached out to soothe his poor battered ego.

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KatyLied -> RE: online gone wrong (2/12/2009 7:03:01 AM)

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Trying to find a sympathetic chick who won't mind being e-stalked at cm.

Thanks for the definition. I take it that you think that's what I did. And you maybe right


eww.  It makes you look far from domly.




rastermanblu -> RE: online gone wrong (2/16/2009 9:47:12 AM)

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ORIGINAL: KatyLied

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Trying to find a sympathetic chick who won't mind being e-stalked at cm.

Thanks for the definition. I take it that you think that's what I did. And you maybe right


eww.  It makes you look far from domly.



ewww to you tooo......




MommyFiercest -> RE: online gone wrong (2/17/2009 12:16:29 AM)

I was just dumped by a sub as well. Only we had started playing and had had two scenes together, and were in constant email/text/messaging communication. Then s/he started getting all weird and guilty about cross dressing and kink in general. Needless to say I got a "Dear Mommy" email breaking up with me yesterday. I am still sniffling.




MommyFiercest -> RE: online gone wrong (2/17/2009 12:19:20 AM)


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ORIGINAL: feydeplume

I am really sorry to hear that this is happening to you. It sounds like perhaps you had one goal for the relationship and she perhaps had another. I would love to believe that it is a case of miscommunication, but i too am not a fool. For your own peace of mind, go back through your chat logs and see where you two started to talk about things from different points of view. I am not wording that well. Go bad and see where she was getting wank material and you were laying your heart on the line.
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Did you or her ever say "monogamous"? did you both agree to stop playing on CM and only chat with people that you already know well? How many assumptions did YOU make about the relationship that you didn't communicate to her or even tell yourself?


NOT BLAMING THE VICTIM here, just trying to help unmuddy the waters so he can see what his part in getting into an uncomfortable unsustainable relationship was so he can catch himself next time.


Thanks for the great advice darlin', I am going to do the same myself.




came4U -> RE: online gone wrong (2/17/2009 12:51:16 AM)

I've held off posting too, anyone who has been here long enough can pretty well predict what will happen lol.

but honestly, enough is enough with the back n forth logic.  You care but don't care, you stalk but don't stalk, you are creepy yet not creepy, you whine and do whine...

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good lord it's not that big of a deal, exisitentially speaking. I'm done with her, good give a flying f**k what she thinks and I'm on to happily ever after.


To most 'real' women here, men (supposed Dominants) who post threads (or even comment about it in a profile) about some chick he never met no longer replying to his mail or assuming she is a sneak of some sort because she still logs onto CM after a few mails and chats with you are not exactly a mature, quality mate.

To most (me especially), I am assuming,  it is such a turn-off that any potential you may have had at 1. making a decent first impression and 2. looking manly enough to handle a little and insignificant issue,  is lost. 

Real men eat quiche.  Dorky, insecure ones wear the egg on their face.




AAkasha -> RE: online gone wrong (2/17/2009 8:12:54 AM)

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ORIGINAL: MommyFiercest

I was just dumped by a sub as well. Only we had started playing and had had two scenes together, and were in constant email/text/messaging communication. Then s/he started getting all weird and guilty about cross dressing and kink in general. Needless to say I got a "Dear Mommy" email breaking up with me yesterday. I am still sniffling.


Are you going to take him back in three weeks when he contacts you again and tells you he made a big mistake?

Akasha




megaen -> RE: online gone wrong (2/17/2009 4:47:46 PM)

to the OP, welcome to CM it happens alot here




MissEnchanted -> RE: online gone wrong (2/17/2009 5:36:20 PM)

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ORIGINAL: RedMagic1

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ORIGINAL: rastermanblu
Bottomline, again,  is that I wrote her and she never responded,  I'm not going to call again and try to find out what's wrong.

Maybe she had the flu.  Maybe one of her kids did.  Maybe she lost her job.  Maybe she is nervous, and needs reassurance.  Instead of demonstrating compassion and care -- instead of extending yourself to her -- you bitch about her on a public message board.

Class act.

Don't you think it is better to help women solve problems, and get past concerns about meeting a strange man who is going to beat their ass?


I thought it, RedMagic said it.





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