CreativeDominant
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ORIGINAL: zombiebabe Thank you for your comments, and to the other members (adjectives withheld) who posted before being edited, I will explain I am in a very deep relationship with someone but we are not together. I cant define what that relationship is to me. We are very intimately close. It is not romantic between us. We are not together. I am not cheating on him. I feel that he is my other half though. Its very hard to explain. As I said, I am still trying to move on, and I dont think I am ready to be in a relationship at this point. Because I cant stand to be hurt like that again. And the guy was cheating on his girlfriend with me. I dont think a strictly d/s relationship is feasible for me as a person. I know my friend has feelings for me too. I guess I'm saying I dont really want this to turn into a relationship and I'm afraid it will Oh and if the rest of you would like to talk about my life like that, is it possible you could pm me instead, thanks.... I've had all kinds of relationships/dynamics at my age. I've dated girls for fun only, I've had a friend with benefits who knew as well as I did that our relationship would never bloom into a love relationship (this was before my D/s days. I sometimes wonder about certain things about that relationship now...but I digress), I've been married, I've been divorced, I've had a D/s relationship with a married submissive that I loved and who loved me...that relationship was D/s, BDSM with all of its sexual aspects, and romantic BUT the romance came to one level and then we both went no further out of respect to her husband (who, just to remind folks, knew and approved of his wife's involvement with me), I've had a D/s dynamic-romantic relationship with my second and third submissive and I've had casual play partners that ran the gamut from D/s with BDSM play with no sex to D/s with BDSM play and the sex. What that all prefaces is this: you have some decisions to make. You have to learn whether or not within yourself you can separate romance from sex, romance from D/s, sex from BDSM/D/s or are you one of those where all elements have to come together with ONE or are you one of those who can have one kind of relationship here and another there. I seek romantic/D/s-BDSM-sexual union with one BUT that doesn't necessarily mean that I will not play with others in some fashion...or that she will not. But it took me awhile to get here. Don't be in a rush...take some time for you and figure things out and as a bit of advice...avoid emotional entanglements of any nature until you get things sorted out.
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