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"Good boy" in vanilla settings - 4/29/2009 5:56:47 PM

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Milady, Ms. Mlicious is often the recipeint of male attention. She will be given free coffee or the baggers will take her groceries to her car, store manager will wait on her personally...stuff like that. While she is an attractive lady, I don't think that is the whole story. I really believe (and I have good reason to) that a lot of men are picking up on her domme vibe. She often graciously accepts these little tokens with a "thank you".

Question, when you other dommes get this type of service, what is your reaction? I believe that a sultry "good boy" would make most men swoon. And it would ensure even better service next time. Do any of you ladies use those two magic words, and if so, what is the response?

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RE: "Good boy" in vanilla settings - 4/29/2009 6:06:57 PM

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I absolutely agree about the "Domme vibe" part. I have no other excuse for being treated the way I am away from lifestyle events where people know who I am. Yes, it happens in the weirdest places, at times.

However, I generally keep an expression such as "good boy" for My boy or those who I know are submissive in the lifestyle. I couldn't say why, but it just would make Me feel like a dragging a nilla into My kink otherwise.

As for the expression itself, it's a huge favorite of Mine.

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RE: "Good boy" in vanilla settings - 4/29/2009 6:09:24 PM

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Are there 2 sweeter words in the English Language...."good boy"...ahhhhh,contentment!

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RE: "Good boy" in vanilla settings - 4/29/2009 6:12:14 PM

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Good boy always makes you feel good! Especially when it is unexpected from an attractive woman. I think I pick up on that sometimes too. Not always, but sometimes just the way they say it.

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RE: "Good boy" in vanilla settings - 4/29/2009 7:20:39 PM

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Sometimes the ladies exercise caution that may not be necessary. When they don't give a guy the "good boy", I think they're just being mean.

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RE: "Good boy" in vanilla settings - 4/29/2009 7:28:27 PM

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I agree completely slaveKal...they're Meanies!

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RE: "Good boy" in vanilla settings - 4/29/2009 7:49:33 PM

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I think you have to be careful calling a stranger "boy", personally. It's patronizing and offensive coming from the wrong person. And I also don't think strangers are entitled to the same loving phrases that I use at home with my own submissive.

I might use the phrase playfully or kindly with someone I knew was submissive at an event or in some BDSM context, but I don't think it's for the vanilla world. In my experience, trying to cross those spheres too much just leads to trouble, and I don't think female dominants should be patronizing to unknown men any more than male dominants should start taking it upon themselves to start calling strange women in public "girl".

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RE: "Good boy" in vanilla settings - 4/29/2009 7:50:59 PM

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Not the same. I know it's a double standard, but it just does not have the same effect when the genders are reversed.

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RE: "Good boy" in vanilla settings - 4/29/2009 7:58:40 PM

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I know it's a double standard, but it just does not have the same effect when the genders are reversed.

It has exactly the same effect when the words are spoken to a female submissive. The problem is--how do you tell you're talking to one?

I understand that hearing "good boy" is extremely seductive and thrilling to a male submissive, but you have to realize that both dominant and vanilla men are also sometimes very kind and helpful to attractive women, and they would be far more likely to be puzzled, bemused or irritated by "good boy".

Personally, I find that "handsome" is a safer bet. The smile and the proper tone to "thank you" are also more than adequate. Receiving a smile and the attention of a beautiful woman is enough for most people. Getting D/S with them is excessive.

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RE: "Good boy" in vanilla settings - 4/29/2009 7:59:55 PM

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I tend to be a bit more subtle... with remarks like:
"I could get used to service like this!"
"Now you know how to treat a lady!"
"You've been well trained"

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RE: "Good boy" in vanilla settings - 4/29/2009 8:02:26 PM

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quote:

Question, when you other dommes get this type of service, what is your reaction? I believe that a sultry "good boy" would make most men swoon. And it would ensure even better service next time. Do any of you ladies use those two magic words, and if so, what is the response?

like ShaktiSama stated, can't use "good boy" with just anyone in public. trust me, it is on the tip of my tongue, but i usually say, "isn't that nice of you" in that "good boy" tone. that is when the sheepish smile and lowered eyes are seen. i like being served and attended to.

way back, one of my subbie male friends told me that some males can pick up on that "Domme vibe"...he said he always can.

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RE: "Good boy" in vanilla settings - 4/29/2009 8:19:40 PM

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Milady, Ms. Mlicious is often the recipeint of male attention. She will be given free coffee or the baggers will take her groceries to her car, store manager will wait on her personally...stuff like that. While she is an attractive lady, I don't think that is the whole story. I really believe (and I have good reason to) that a lot of men are picking up on her domme vibe. She often graciously accepts these little tokens with a "thank you".

Question, when you other dommes get this type of service, what is your reaction? I believe that a sultry "good boy" would make most men swoon. And it would ensure even better service next time. Do any of you ladies use those two magic words, and if so, what is the response?

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RE: "Good boy" in vanilla settings - 4/29/2009 8:37:34 PM

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I believe that a sultry "good boy" would make most men swoon.

I think you are projecting your desires and fantasies onto the bulk of the male population...I doubt a "good boy" (no matter how sultry) would make most swoon, and would hazard a guess that most would find it somewhat off-putting

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RE: "Good boy" in vanilla settings - 4/29/2009 8:53:07 PM

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Like "good girl" is to me:

I think he meant submissive men.

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RE: "Good boy" in vanilla settings - 4/29/2009 8:57:18 PM

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Sometimes the ladies exercise caution that may not be necessary. When they don't give a guy the "good boy", I think they're just being mean.

Who doesn't like a pat on the back sometimes! Ladies not into this lifestyle give the guy: "Good job, honey!"

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RE: "Good boy" in vanilla settings - 4/30/2009 12:09:28 AM

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It involves the simple things like the smile on her face, or the sense of purpose in my mind, or the two most powerful words in the English language, whispered softly in my ear: 'good boy.'

I need to learn how to pick up on this Domme vibe thing, is there anywhere I can get like a Domme detector? On another thread I read how a few people had met a lot of dominant women in their vanilla lives, I've got no f'in clue how that works. Please share.

I'm a pretty hard guy to give a 'good boy' to in real life. I saw a woman having trouble carrying a box of stuff on campus the other day and offered to carry it for her, in thinking about how she thanked me it would be pretty much impossible for her to offer me a 'good boy' because she was much younger than I was, much smaller and without any real dynamic there, it would have been so absurd of a thing to say.

I think the only real cases I could take it seriously or not see it as patronizing were if the woman was older than I was, or if there was an existing relationship between us, even if it were just a casual relationship like me being a regular at her store or something like that. I don't have too many areas in my vanilla life where it's my job to serve people or be on that end of the spectrum, so the situation would have to be somewhat developed and ironic to work.

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RE: "Good boy" in vanilla settings - 4/30/2009 12:17:16 AM

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Like "good girl" is to me:

I think he meant submissive men.

Oh dear, I would SO love to hear "Good girl"

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RE: "Good boy" in vanilla settings - 4/30/2009 1:42:49 AM

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However, I generally keep an expression such as "good boy" for My boy or those who I know are submissive in the lifestyle. I couldn't say why, but it just would make Me feel like a dragging a nilla into My kink otherwise.

Ageed completely. I don't like to be called honey, sweety, or a good girl by random strangers, and I wouldn't call a grown man who isn't mine a "good boy." In fact, I'm frequently baffled by women who do so in my presence, because I find it so inappropriate and condescending.
A smile and thank you, is usually what I go with. M

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RE: "Good boy" in vanilla settings - 4/30/2009 2:16:05 AM

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I work with a doctor who I suspect has submissive tendencies and I will say "good boy" when he does something that pleases me. He always gets a big smile on his face.

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RE: "Good boy" in vanilla settings - 4/30/2009 2:26:34 AM

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"You've been well trained"

- could be seen as patronising, though probably only by the terminally humourless.

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